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 debnco
Joined: 10/5/2007
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If I read a profile and have nothing to go by I don't bother .How interested can you be in finding someone compatible if you couldn't be bothered to describe yourself .Just my opinion of course .
 english lass
Joined: 11/14/2007
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What's a good first email when their profile is essentially blank?
Posted: 6/20/2008 4:15:25 PM
maybe comment on her picture - perhaps a comment about the background or something occuring within it - (a sports scene... or nightclub/whatever )... you could mention that you share the same interest and ask her about her favourite (sport/club/whatever)

if you can, ask something specific for her to reply to, rather than just a "please tell me more about yourself" - that can cover so much that it could be hard to know where to begin

if there's nothing to comment on in the photo (or no photo) then you could ask her how long she's lived in ____ and if she likes it there/what she likes to do for fun there... etc

...i think sometimes people don't fill in profiles because they're not trying to grab anyones' interest - they're here for the forums or to check out the place/etc. .. but it could be because they *want* to stimulate interest by being mysterious... the only way to find out is to try and correspond, i guess :))

good luck
 Vancer
Joined: 10/29/2006
Msg: 8
What's a good first email when their profile is essentially blank?
Posted: 6/20/2008 4:42:01 PM
If you are contacting them because of their picture just say...

Your profile really sucks...but you are sooooo beautiful.
 itsjustme328
Joined: 12/22/2007
Msg: 9
What's a good first email when their profile is essentially blank?
Posted: 6/20/2008 4:45:48 PM
There are quite a few fellas who also have brief profiles. I've made first contact before but not when the profile is so scant I have nothing to go on. I personally have to have a little more substance to my delivery than "hey, hot pic." I just feel everyone should put a certain level of effort into their profile.

If you choose to proceed and take the risk, I would suggest you open with a brief email that includes why you're messaging her in the first place. You never know....a little honesty might be the thing that makes your message stand out from others. Good luck.



 wishfulthinkn
Joined: 5/24/2008
Msg: 13
What's a good first email when their profile is essentially blank?
Posted: 6/21/2008 12:21:44 AM
....i'm curious as to why you would want to contact someone who is essentially a manequin. especially since you can articulate ideas and form cogent questions.

oh well, if you must......try this: "hey sexy wuzup?" no, no, just kidding.....try writing this instead:

Subject: It's all in the eyes...

Message: Your eyes I mean. I looked at your photo and I saw so much depth in your eyes, so much vitality and energy. I'll bet your profile is empty because there wasn't enough room to say all you had on your mind. I'll listen, care to share with me?

woo-hoo, that's gooood! course you'll be sorry when you discover she's been in her room for the past three years becaused her last boyfriend said "wait here" and walked out to get cigarettes and never came back. ha!
 strollinbella
Joined: 6/30/2007
Msg: 16
What's a good first email when their profile is essentially blank?
Posted: 6/21/2008 6:02:29 AM
The profiles with either many "prefer not to say" notations or about me sections that consist of little more than....ill fill this n lter....or xxxyyyzzzuuiiozoppzmjcnsdndasndasjdn...are given a pass (as in pass 'em by) by this lady.

I figure if a man considers the profile, which is supposed to give us at least a hint as to what makes him tick, as little more than a joke, then he isn't really looking for a relationship of substance either. If he/she isn't willing to take the few minutes out of their day it would take to give the reader a glimpse into his/her interests/personality, etc., why should we bother to acknowledge him/her with a first contact email?
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 23
What's a good first email when their profile is essentially blank?
Posted: 6/21/2008 7:41:48 AM
Here is a message I once sent.... of course, I could tell by her profile she was up for anything because she had nothing in her profile suggesting she wasn't. Meaning, it was empty... all dots. So, being the person I am, I tested the waters with the following:

"In Pharmacology, all drugs have two names, a trade name and generic name. For example, the trade name of Tylenol also has a generic name of Acetaminophen. Aleve is also called Naproxen. Amoxil is also called Amoxicillin and Advil is also called
Ibuprofen.

The FDA has been looking for a generic name for Viagra. After careful consideration by a team of government experts, it recently announced that it has settled on the generic name of:
Mycoxafloppin

Do you approve of such a name?"



She replied.
 Greyfeld
Joined: 1/11/2007
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What's a good first email when their profile is essentially blank?
Posted: 6/22/2008 11:21:26 AM
Your first email should say, "There's absolutely nothing on your profile that shows me you're unique in any way. However, I think you're sexy, and if you tell me your address, I'd love to swing by this afternoon and bang you."

Because honestly... if their profiles aren't engaging at all, you're pretty much just emailing them over their looks.
 Greyfeld
Joined: 1/11/2007
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Posted: 6/22/2008 11:26:14 PM

Dude. They write this crap even if you DO have a huge profile. I get the same thoughtful or thoughtless emails whether I have a meaningful profile posted or not.


That essentially translates to, "I've had bad luck in the past, so i'm not even going to try, ensuring that I'm going to fail in the future. But it's THEIR fault, not mine!!"

Great way to look at the world. I suppose at that point, you never have to worry about wasted effort, right?
 xeot
Joined: 10/25/2007
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What's a good first email when their profile is essentially blank?
Posted: 6/24/2008 6:57:44 PM
On the short to empty profiles, I generally don't answer. I have no clue what to say, there's nothing there to go by.

As far as in person goes, in person there is a common context of some sort when you're both at the same place at the same time. Sometimes there's something to use to start a conversation other times there is not. When there hasn't been I tend not to say anything.

As to making a comment on her picture(s).... well I always thought that wasn't exactly something that was going to get a guy anywhere. That it was generally looked down upon. Not to mention that just about any comment to a woman's picture online seems to come off like 'nice tits' to some degree or another. Some times nicer, some times cruder, but unless she has pictures that show some sort of interesting context it's going to be about one body part or another.
 meegway
Joined: 11/19/2006
Msg: 38
What's a good first email when their profile is essentially blank?
Posted: 6/25/2008 11:55:54 AM

tuckerjo


I have to disagree with you there. What's the point in trying to initiate a date with someone that you have nothing in common with. I personally would not want to spend 6 months dating someone only to find out that she's my complete opposite. That just doesn't make good romantic nor financial sense to me. There's no point in setting yourself up for possible failure just because you don't want to take the time to read someone's profile. That would be like going to a bar, meeting someone, not listen to a word they said throughout the course of the evening and then start dating.
 meegway
Joined: 11/19/2006
Msg: 39
What's a good first email when their profile is essentially blank?
Posted: 6/25/2008 12:01:11 PM

bostonsportsgal789


Simple and straight to the point, I like your approach. Unfortunately I just find it odd coming that way from someone in a legal profession....lol. Just kidding.
 _Red_
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 40
What's a good first email when their profile is essentially blank?
Posted: 6/25/2008 6:01:32 PM
None? What's to interest you if the profile is blank?
 xeot
Joined: 10/25/2007
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What's a good first email when their profile is essentially blank?
Posted: 6/25/2008 8:05:36 PM


> What woman online or anywhere else will want to talk about the history of NASA
> instead of herself?

I am a woman online or anywhere else that often discusses attractions in or near my city. Some of the most sophisticated and interesting men I know have started conversations in just that manner which is where I got the idea. Of course, I don't usually date yokels (at least not more than once) who feel that they must pander to me or stroke my ego.


Location based stuff is only reasonable when she lives far away from you. If it's someone local it just seems well, stupid. In a more general approach requires _INFORMATION_ about the woman. Something to go on. It seems rather stupid to try and start a conversation oh say about "Battlestar Galactica" or the politics of the liberty movement or the design of gears or any other topic when there is zero clue that she has any interest in it. The odds of hitting a correct subject are approximately zero. Plus, it's what a lot of spam does, just paragraph about some random subject... I suppose it's good at getting a huh? response, which is what the spammers are looking for... I just don't see it working to actually get a conversation started. There needs to be a nugget of something to start with.
 xeot
Joined: 10/25/2007
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Posted: 6/25/2008 9:44:52 PM

Something is only stupid if a stupid person doesn't understand the concept or how to execute it.


Ahem,... it's stupid to ask someone near you over a computer what the weather is. Look out a window, go outside... It's stupid to ask someone who is in the same city simple geography questions. It makes you look like a moron at face value. If you just go up to someone and start talking about some random subject without any context basis they are going to think you're insane.

Or maybe what you are saying is, it's just another game where both parties are supposed to know what it's for without admitting it.... in which case if falls under 'games'. I prefer straight forward conversation, not some stupid word play.


People talk to complete strangers whom they know nothing about every day. Really! Have people become so socially inept they have no idea how to start a casual conversation?


I can't see what you are reading over the interweb. I can't see your shopping bag over the interweb. I can't see that you are dressed for a bicycle ride over the intarweb. I guess you missed that from my previous post. There's all sorts of context oriented things one can use in person. That doesn't work over the web, you are completely dependent upon what the other person decides to share. That's why the profile is there to fill out, because we can't guess your interest in underwater basket weaving from the scuba mask and wicker sticking out of your purse over the the computer.
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