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 JadeMuse
Joined: 11/3/2007
Msg: 2
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Listen fellow Golden Bear...

You've been here two weeks and don't find it odd that you are receiving negativity ALREADY.... Hmmmm.

...Perhaps you need to go to a forum for a profile review.

Just a guess...
Good Luck!
 untamed one
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 4
Does being old mean you have to be rude?
Posted: 6/21/2008 3:03:24 PM
Respect yer elders ..... they have a wealth of experience to teach you ..

Edit : Again women jumping in on a male -only thread ...
 HarleyKat~
Joined: 3/30/2008
Msg: 8
Does being old mean you have to be rude?
Posted: 6/21/2008 3:45:55 PM
Oh....I am so byoo-tee-full that old men send me messages reminding me that there is more to life than my looks!

THAT is what it sounds like you are saying...so when you receive negative replies HERE, think about it for a moment, otay? ;)

But...since you have "only" received 4 of such...I would not worry so much! :)

And if that is mean, then I guess nearly 42 bumps me into the "old" category! ;)
 HarleyKat~
Joined: 3/30/2008
Msg: 15
Does being old mean you have to be rude?
Posted: 6/21/2008 4:06:45 PM
Oh Gosh...well then I can answer THAT!

Simply because they CAN.

Really!

Because they want to see if they can irk you...because many a great relationship has been started out in weirder ways...whatever their reasons, I dunno...they...just...can.

Kinda like HERE. We had no brilliant answers...some of us even PffFfffttt at your question...but we STILL REPLIED. :O)
 crayonzz
Joined: 11/14/2007
Msg: 19
Does being old mean you have to be rude?
Posted: 6/21/2008 4:24:07 PM
I have been a member here since June 4, 2008.

I have only received 4 negative messages since that day. 2 of them came from really old men that has the same similar message to send me: "Being beautiful isn't everything" and one had the audacity to add "I bet you have not spoken to a real man before, email me at bittergeezerrod at yoohoo dot com.

Does being old mean being mean to others?
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A little race reversal===

I have only received 4 negative messages since that day. 2 of them came from black or Asian men that has the same similar message to send me: "Being beautiful isn't everything" and one had the audacity to add "I bet you have not spoken to a real man before,
Does being a forigener mean being mean to others?
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Now you know how loud the screams of racism would be if you posted anything like this. It's exacly the same with age.
If you really want to hear rudeness then get yourself to any lighspot and listen to the girls , kni=ocking back requests for a dance. Thats where REAL rudenes occurrs.
 wahya
Joined: 3/1/2006
Msg: 20
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Posted: 6/21/2008 4:24:17 PM
I am in the age range you speak of, and have two thoughts on the subject:
1. Rudeness can come at any age.

2. If the older men tried to contact you a different way, would you have responded? The way they contacted you got a response, if only in this forum.
 xeot
Joined: 10/25/2007
Msg: 29
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Posted: 6/21/2008 5:54:29 PM
If I had not seen your forum post I would have assumed that your profile was that of some sort of spam bot using pictures grabbed from the net somewhere. The reason is that all the pictures are professionally taken... and seem as if I had seen them before somewhere too.

They might be lashing out because they think that it's someone using someone else's pictures. Other than that, well, there's lots of arseholes out there.
 bucsgirl
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 31
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Posted: 6/21/2008 6:03:43 PM
The topic is not what's in her profile, she's not asking for a review (input).

Noone can tell anyone what to expect, anything and everything is what I would say...not exactly specific and general on purpose.

The only ones who know the whys are the men who wrote. Anything else is just a guess. OP, I would tell you only because you referred to "logically"...that isn't something I would expect here..behavior that's logical.

Just ignore it and have fun here anway. It is possible, don't let what anyone else does or says get under your skin.
 El_Mariachi
Joined: 4/21/2007
Msg: 32
Does being old mean you have to be rude?
Posted: 6/21/2008 8:53:49 PM

Seriously, I am waiting for people whose membership is alot older than mine, such as yours, because I truly believed you would have a guess as to why anyone, logically speaking, would view a profile on a dating site and if they do not like your photos or what you say in your profile, would waste their time lecturing someone for their appearance or statement.


Didn't you read Luke's comment? He told you why he thinks they were rude to you. The old man stuff in your profile may have prompted the old man jerks to hatemail you.

You're asking people why they think a certain sect of the board is rude to you and when they tell you their thoughts, you're just rude to them.

Here's a thought... you get what you give. Here's another... don't ask for opinions that you plan not to accept.

On top of that, you're asking us to delve into the minds of jerks we don't know... we have no way to even fake accuracy there.
 John_Mon
Joined: 4/30/2008
Msg: 33
Does being old mean you have to be rude?
Posted: 6/21/2008 9:10:25 PM
I agree with jademuse.
 John_Mon
Joined: 4/30/2008
Msg: 36
Does being old mean you have to be rude?
Posted: 6/21/2008 9:41:31 PM
I do see more talking on the forums then via profile chatting. I've only been here for a month or so though. If anything, my responses have slowed since my first sign on weeks. Probly a sign of things to come.
 El_Mariachi
Joined: 4/21/2007
Msg: 47
Does being old mean you have to be rude?
Posted: 6/22/2008 8:05:03 AM

Such hostility, lady, when I could say this back to you:...


I dunno where you get hostility from my post, perhaps you're looking for it. I think that based on your replies to everyone who has pretty much done what you asked (given their opinions.. which YOU asked for, by the way) only to have it shoved back at them quite rudely is the only real source of hostility so far. And guess what sugar.. it's all coming from you.


No one forced you to read this thread, and yet you behaved like someone was twisting your arm to write that. LOL.


I'm the one who is hostile though, right? You're discussing my behavior as if yours isn't/hasn't been somewhat appalling thus far. And pointing out the obvious... no, I didn't have to read this, but I did. Why? You asked for opinions and answers... then got them... then proceeded to $hit all over people for doing just what you requested.

Bad. Rude. Not real bright.

Hahahahaaa...

I think the old men who were jerks to you could simply just smell their own kind. You're not all that different from bitter, crotchety old men.. even though you're young. You're acting like a d*ck. What's worse, you're acting that way right after asking people to devote time to you.. giving you opinions and answers.

Learn some manners and realize that it's bad bad bad form to ask for opinions and then spend the entire thread telling people their ASKED FOR opinions are stupid and insulting them.

Now THAT above... THAT was hostile. Look up the word if you must.. I can wait.
 El_Mariachi
Joined: 4/21/2007
Msg: 53
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Posted: 6/22/2008 9:07:42 AM
Example of not accepting answers given:


You chose to be here and yet you offered two of the most obvious answers and yet there is no actual answer or explanation.


Other rude examples. Note that these were in response to posters who gave answers you didn't like:


A couple, maybe three women that made it obvious to the naked eye that they are beautiful, secure, and very confident about themselves that they don't need to stoop to the beeyotch level.


So we're all b*tches and probably ugly because we think you're not exactly the picture of non-rudeness?

You told ME I was hostile when I answered you as well. I asked if you'd read luke's comments properly because it seems you me that you did not. At all. If I'm wrong and you read them.. well, it's fairly obvious that you didn't understand what he said.


Is this website like the other blog site where a group of seven women said I am not who I am....

... The same women pretended like they did not act ignorant, jealous and petty.... sniff sniff.....


You don't think much of other women.. particularly if they don't fall all over themselves to agree with you or treat you bad in some way (as described in the snipped out quote part), but you're seemingly at the point where you imagine what ain't there.

You take simple non-hostile comments and tell someone they're being hostile when all they did was answer you in a way you disagreed with or did not want to acknowledge.

Note how you've been rude or snotty to EVERYONE who has NOT told you that you're beautiful.

Flip back through the posts, I can wait.

The basic truth is NO ONE can tell you WHY those initial old men were rude to you. Probably not even those old men in question. NO ONE KNOWS. So ok, you asked for opinions probably realizing that none of us will have a clue why for real so when asked, we're gonna offer opinions... then you $hit all over that which you asked for.

Are we all clear now?

God I hope so.
 broncsbuff
Joined: 4/18/2008
Msg: 54
Does being old mean you have to be rude?
Posted: 6/22/2008 9:29:21 AM

Because I got a message from a moderator who asked me to remove my photo in a red one piece, because he said women were complaining.


this is a bold face lie...I have seen women on here with cleavage hanging out...half there ass hanging out, in lingire on the bed posing doggy style, and I have seen TONS of bathing suits...and your the one they picked to remove a photo?...

Something my mom always told me..

"if you tell the truth, you dont need a good memory"
 HarleyKat~
Joined: 3/30/2008
Msg: 65
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Posted: 6/22/2008 12:33:54 PM
Yanno...I cannot help but ask...

SO MUCH emphasis has been placed on the fact that you asked this question in ASK A GUY, UC....and you seem appalled by the women who chose to respond since it IS in ASK A GUY, after all!

But the subject matter is nothing gender exclusive...so WHY DID YOU put it in Ask A Guy?! Hmmm....me a curious Kat!
 Mirage111
Joined: 3/8/2008
Msg: 66
Does being old mean you have to be rude?
Posted: 6/22/2008 1:01:01 PM
only way they can possibly get your attention darling!!! be beautiful.
 Greyfeld
Joined: 1/11/2007
Msg: 67
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Does being old mean you have to be rude?
Posted: 6/22/2008 1:14:16 PM

I have been a member here since June 4, 2008.

I have only received 4 negative messages since that day. 2 of them came from really old men that has the same similar message to send me: "Being beautiful isn't everything" and one had the audacity to add "I bet you have not spoken to a real man before, email me at bittergeezerrod at yoohoo dot com.

Does being old mean being mean to others?

PS: Their ages are 53 and 62 years old.


Your profile is pretentious and rude. You sound like you have a stick up your ass a mile long, and you have a slew of modeling pics that, not only look out-dated, but leave one to wonder if they're really photos of you, or pictures you stole from somebody online.

The way I see it, you should be happy ANYONE would bother messaging you, with the way your page comes across. And if you're so damn busy (as your profile dictates) then why are you spending your time pissing and moaning on a web forum about the emails you're getting from strangers twice your age?
 Mirage111
Joined: 3/8/2008
Msg: 69
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Posted: 6/22/2008 1:26:11 PM
you are so very very brutal!! bad boys bad! calm down.
 Greyfeld
Joined: 1/11/2007
Msg: 70
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Posted: 6/22/2008 1:29:46 PM

you are so very very brutal!! bad boys bad! calm down.


I dunno, I'm just in one of those moods today where the more feathers I can ruffle, the better :)
 HarleyKat~
Joined: 3/30/2008
Msg: 71
Does this suit make me look sexy, boys? What about this one?
Posted: 6/22/2008 1:49:56 PM
I still am waiting on an answer to my previous question....but just thought I would inform you that I spoke with moderator who said that photos are removed by Admin/Big Fish ONLY IF THEY VIOLATE POSTING RULES...not simply because they "irked" someone or several people. :)

Personally, I have NADA against your photos...though in all honesty, the only resemblance they seem to share, is that they are of someone Asian...they do not appear to be the same person, unless they were years apart?! Just my opinion.

But if you have problems with people accusing you of such, instead of trying to prove your way with a webcam, snap a pic of you with something dated, like a newspaper?! LOL I think the main reason most would not like your photos is that they are ALL posed, "glamour style," and airbrushed, made up, professional. That's not REAL. And on a dating site, people want to see the real, every day you. :O)
 SLAFFA
Joined: 8/13/2007
Msg: 72
Does this suit make me look sexy, boys? What about this one?
Posted: 6/22/2008 3:10:09 PM
OP, it is my belief that people post pics to GET PEOPLE TO GO TO THEIR PROFILE.
[and hopefully read it???] Men ARE visual. Translated, that means your MAIN picture SCREAMS come see my profile. I am guessing your profile has had THOUSNDS of views from men of ALL ages... in the short time you have been here...

With the way you have chosen to "word your profile" I am quite surprised that ONLY TWO "old men" have bothered to write to you. Does this mean that they DID or DID NOT read your profile? Or decided not to waste their time writing to you? Does it matter?

I am guessing after this post, you MIGHT get a few more? So just how many "silly emails" have you gotten from younger men I have to wonder...
 c_deacon
Joined: 3/13/2005
Msg: 73
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Posted: 6/22/2008 3:57:44 PM
OP......Just a personal note from this "older man".......

Being assertive is one thing.....being aggressive and on edge a totally different one....

Using "tact" in both your profile and yes, your pictures, can show an assertive, yet kind individual that wants to actually accomplish something on a dating site like this one.

You know what you want, what you offer, and what you really look like, and that is what you should offer a glimpse of in your profile, your pictures, and your attitude. How you do this is just as important if not more so, than what you do.

May I suggest using some of those great professional pictures along with some private, personal ones that show you as the every day person you know you are? How about adding more preferences to keep those you so do not want contacting you, from doing so?

Maybe some thoughts and hints about the inner you, your desires, wants, needs and offerings that are more about the personal you, and less about the professional you, along with some carefully worded hints about what you are looking for and will respond to.

Please do not pigeon hole all men into categories, just because a few have over stepped the boundaries of dating, and in return, I bet more of us will not pigeon hole you either........

Just my opinion.......
 El_Mariachi
Joined: 4/21/2007
Msg: 74
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Posted: 6/22/2008 4:09:09 PM

".....Oh, and if you're a pretty, large breasted woman with a great sense of humor who likes to have fun, then you can **** off! Go get a vibrator and a bucket of ice cream to share with your cat you annoying slags."


It's times like these that I wish for huge knockers.

Is anyone else laughing at post number 58? Or is it just me?

I have a cramp now.
 opnmydm
Joined: 3/23/2008
Msg: 76
Does being old mean you have to be rude?
Posted: 6/22/2008 4:20:26 PM
no, nobody should be rude, they probably just forgot to take all their meds for the day..cut them a little slack...:)
 xeot
Joined: 10/25/2007
Msg: 77
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Posted: 6/22/2008 8:08:29 PM

You might have seen my photos in other websites

The only dating websites I look at are here and . Maybe I shouldn't be so fast in assuming spam bots ;) anyways... someone might have lifted your pictures.
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