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 thatswhatshesaid
Joined: 12/28/2007
Msg: 1
Never been hit on by women?Page 1 of 5    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5)
I was having a conversation with a guy friend recently, and he asked me what it's like to be approached and propositioned frequently by strange guys. He said a woman never came up to him out of the blue and just hit on him (though, he's pretty cute) and he was curious what that was like.

So my question is this, for the guys who have NEVER been hit on. If you were to be hit on by a women, what do you imagine a woman's pick up line would be...and what do you WISH it would be?
 LongAfterDark
Joined: 5/17/2008
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Never been hit on by women?
Posted: 6/25/2008 1:33:15 PM
All I'd really need is a look and a smile. But walk down the street or at a bar and all I get are blank stares or nothing at all.
 thatswhatshesaid
Joined: 12/28/2007
Msg: 3
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Posted: 6/25/2008 1:35:39 PM
Awww. That doesn't seem right. You're so cute!

So if a woman were to come up and hit on you, what would you WANT her to say. No need to be realistic, this is "Ask a Guy."
 thatswhatshesaid
Joined: 12/28/2007
Msg: 4
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Posted: 6/25/2008 1:41:36 PM
No, I won't disagree. Ladies do get slutty and unladylike after they've known you a while though.

Honk honk. Nice.
 TheOneWho_
Joined: 3/22/2007
Msg: 5
Never been hit on by women?
Posted: 6/25/2008 1:42:33 PM
Every time that has happened, I only realized it long after the fact (or not at all).

Yea, I can be that oblivious!

Edit to answer your question:
If a woman did come up to me & say "Let's go f#ck", I'd probably be too busy untying my tongue to say anything intelligible.
...oh wait, something did happen kinda like that many years ago. I'm still flustered!

Eye contact, conversation, more eye contact, and moving in closer than normal (in that order) would probably be enough of a clue to get my attention (...maybe).
 thatswhatshesaid
Joined: 12/28/2007
Msg: 6
Never been hit on by women?
Posted: 6/25/2008 2:39:46 PM
Yeah, I think that's common that girls "show interest" where as guys have been known to say stuff like, "if I set you up in an apartment, could I come visit once a week"

Before you guys get all up in arms, I know, I know, this is not a common, normal thing that guys say, but it has been known to happen. Most girls I know have had this kind of "out of no where" proposition at least once in their lives. Guys, however, get it less frequently, (though I'm sure a few of you have your share of stories )

Also, this guy friend of mine is from Mexico, where guys are traditionally a little more "the pursuer" and girls never are. Women take a more passive role in allowing or not allowing advances, probably since advances are plentiful.

So, apart from just "showing interest;" hair flips, touching your arm, whatever, let's say, what do you fantasize a woman who is hitting on you would say? Or is it unerotic for a woman you don't know to come right out and proposition you in an unsubtle way?
 thatswhatshesaid
Joined: 12/28/2007
Msg: 7
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Posted: 6/25/2008 2:57:56 PM
(i.e. "I just shaved my legs. Wanna feel?").


I'm confused...are you putting this in the "subtle" category? Errrr, how high up was the offer for?


Man, I miss being good looking. :(


I'd consider you pretty good looking, Raphael Adroit, but seriously, you are missing some MAJOR signals!
 creativedisco
Joined: 5/18/2006
Msg: 8
Never been hit on by women?
Posted: 6/25/2008 3:00:58 PM
A girl I was dating for a while slapped me across the face once.

Wait...different kind of hitting.

I dunno. The whole grabbing my junk and honking approach would kinda throw me off. Of course, I'd probably react the same way the guy in Msg. 7 did. That, and I suppose I'd naturally be suspicious of any kind of direct approach like that--not so much because she's slutty or anything, but more because it would almost seem too good to be true.

So, I suppose for me, I guess I'd want just something simple like "Hi, my name is so-and-so. I think you're kinda cute." Simple and direct. Just like that.
 thatswhatshesaid
Joined: 12/28/2007
Msg: 9
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Posted: 6/25/2008 3:04:29 PM
^^^^So.... what'd she (they) say? what did she say to make it unequivocal (and yet, not seem like it was a joke and you were on candid camera or something)
 Terrible Flirt
Joined: 5/13/2006
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Never been hit on by women?
Posted: 6/25/2008 3:09:57 PM
Well you asked for comments from guys who've never been hit on and I don't qualify, but I will tell you of an approach that, cheesy as it sounds, worked a charm on me. I was sitting at a bar in Vegas just playing video poker and enjoying the lounge act when a cokctail waitress walks up to me, smiles, points across the room to a table of ladies, singles out one of them and tells me that the lady would like to buy me a round of whatever I'm having. Female attention and free booze, VERY effective! Later on she had her wanton way with me and I felt cheapened, but I got over it.
 thatswhatshesaid
Joined: 12/28/2007
Msg: 11
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Posted: 6/25/2008 3:16:46 PM
^^^^^you know, that's pretty smart. (of course, if the woman was 30 years older than you with a big belly and no neck, you'd be as grossed out as the ladies who get hit on by this type).
 thatswhatshesaid
Joined: 12/28/2007
Msg: 12
Never been hit on by women?
Posted: 6/25/2008 4:07:50 PM
Wow, this is turning out to be a much more interesting thread than I thought it would be. You guys really miss alot, for a gender that's often accused of thinking about sex every 4 minutes or something! Ubkobalt, I'm feeling seriously sad that you missed out on dating that girl back in high school.


In general, I find that women are too shy. Their idea of hitting on a guy is trying to convince him to hit on her.


It seems like a lot of ladies have figured out that you only recognize a sexual opportunity when it's your idea.
 thatswhatshesaid
Joined: 12/28/2007
Msg: 13
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Posted: 6/25/2008 7:40:19 PM
They can sense danger
 chris1999
Joined: 1/6/2005
Msg: 14
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Posted: 6/25/2008 9:48:45 PM
Something straight foreward. I would like that cause it takes all the guessing out of it so your not wandering if she was hitting on you or just being nice.
 thatswhatshesaid
Joined: 12/28/2007
Msg: 15
Never been hit on by women?
Posted: 6/25/2008 11:23:59 PM
Ha ha ha. Some of you guys, like sosse, have pretty elaborate suggestions.

The thing about girls and their frustrating signals; though sometimes it might be due to ambivolence about showing feelings or worrying about rejection, or just being plain sexually neurotic, sometimes it is because we do the opposite of what "life of leisure" says to do. Instead of thinking "what do men do" women, who get hit on by guys in sometimes unappealing ways, don't want to be presumptuous and commit the same offense by being too aggressive and rude. So we precisely DON'T do what guys do :(

Sure, it's awesome for a guy, (or a girl), if someone you think is sexy, comes right up to you and says "go out with me" but its not very appealing when someone you don't find attractive in the least comes up to you and says, "I live real closeby, wanna hit it?". There's always a spectrum of attractive to unattractive as well as how sexual or how emotional/relationshippy the offer is. Ambiguous flirting is how ladies try to figure out where they stand on these issues.

But we can all stand to be a little more masculine sometimes too :)
 SAIUN
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 16
Never been hit on by women?
Posted: 6/26/2008 3:39:10 AM

So my question is this, for the guys who have NEVER been hit on. If you were to be hit on by a women, what do you imagine a woman's pick up line would be...and what do you WISH it would be?

Yeah, judging from what I've read here and heard elsewhere, women don't tend to use pick up lines. More subtle forms of flirting that are often missed or misinterpreted seem to be the order of the day.

What I'd wish it to be? A hello and then starting into friendly conversation works just fine for me.
 thatswhatshesaid
Joined: 12/28/2007
Msg: 17
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Posted: 6/26/2008 10:24:18 AM
^^^^R.A.E, You are covered in cute women in all your profile pics! I think you need hypnosis to overcome your obstacle in seeing when girls flirt with you. You have major ladies and you don't seem to know it.
 TheOneWho_
Joined: 3/22/2007
Msg: 18
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Posted: 6/26/2008 11:38:39 AM

....is a waste of time for the most part.
Very true!!
However... the alternative is to never approach a woman you'd like to meet, and therefore never meet her.

I did something REALLY stupid a while back and approached a woman I wanted to talk to. I even said to the people I was with "I'm about to go do something really stupid..."










...I've been waking up with her on a regular basis since then.
 DLo!
Joined: 4/23/2008
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Never been hit on by women?
Posted: 6/26/2008 12:18:13 PM
What I do and what works best on me is real simple! There is no rejection to worry about so you don't have to be nervous. It's really easy. Make an observation on what the guy or girl is doing, wearing, perfume, etc.... make a simple comment about it and then ask an open ended question that isn't a yes/no answer and listen for the tone and length of their response. If the answer is quick and short be pleasant- say ok & have a nice day...go about your biz. If they engage in conversation about your comment and question...keep it going...
Simple? If you need further assistance ...e-mail me- Xo~D'Lo!
 867love
Joined: 3/16/2006
Msg: 20
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Posted: 6/26/2008 1:22:25 PM
o/p -pribibly have been hit on by a woman, just didn't realize. -women are quite a bit more subtle about it.
-unless they're really horny -meeeeeoooowwww
 thatswhatshesaid
Joined: 12/28/2007
Msg: 21
Never been hit on by women?
Posted: 6/26/2008 1:44:50 PM

Guys, how many of you actually notice shoes??? The only time I notice shoes are if they have crazy colors, are great running shoes, or someone mentions them.


I was once at a guy's house and asked him to help me take off my blue suede gladiator sandals, as the buckle was...sigh...just too complicated!

Again, he did not realize I was hitting on him, he just asked me why in the world I was wearing such complicated shoes.

He also did not realize I was hitting on him when later I accidentally spilled cold water on my shirt and had to take it off because I was too cold (yet, perfectly warm to sit around in my camisole).

EVENTUALLY we worked it out, but really...You guys sometimes.
Good thing I'm persistent, even if I'm not obvious enough for you all.

Guess that's why I'm enjoying this thread so much. All you guys that miss billboard size signals are clearly the type I go for.
 DGXR
Joined: 6/11/2008
Msg: 22
Never been hit on by women?
Posted: 6/26/2008 2:55:52 PM
My ultimate pick-up line is direct honesty with some class. Something like, "Hi, I noticed you and wanted to (ask your name, say hello, find out about you, etc.)" Not only is she initiating the conversation but she is expressing interest, clear enough for me. It hits me hard when someone is just honest and not afraid to just say what they feel or what they are thinking. Also, it's the next milennium so it's OK to go after what you want and people need to evolve beyond the expectation that others will pursue them 100% of the time. You want something? Go after it! Just have a little class.
 DGXR
Joined: 6/11/2008
Msg: 23
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Posted: 6/26/2008 3:01:01 PM
P.S. A few years ago I got my courage up to ask this girl out, she was working the front counter in her office and there was a cube farm just beyond the counter area. When I finally asked her out, everyone in the back of the room busted out laughing before she even had a chance to answer. Anyway the girl said she was married but I didn't see any ring. Apparently it was all a set-up for their amusement. She was really pretty, I wonder how many suckers they laughed at in a given day.
 Greyfeld
Joined: 1/11/2007
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Never been hit on by women?
Posted: 6/26/2008 3:51:00 PM
honestly, i don't for a minute believe that any of these guys have "NEVER" been hit on before. Maybe the girls didn't come straight up and say "Hey big boy, wanna come back to my place?" But I wouldn't put it past a number of guys to be completely and utterly oblivious to being hit on... because most girls aren't obvious about it, they drop hints, it's in their body language.

Hell, even my fat ass has been hit on... one of them resulted in a short lived relationship. Another one that comes to mind is when i was dating another girl. It's true what they say though, you get hit on like nobody's business when you're in a relationship XD
 thatswhatshesaid
Joined: 12/28/2007
Msg: 25
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Posted: 6/26/2008 10:22:04 PM
Oh, I don't know if "seeming shy and insecure" is really a game. I mean even confident people feel that way sometimes. For instance, you are confident in approaching a guy about his interesting conversation, but the thought of sleeping with that same guy before knowing him better brings out a sort of shyness, that is a bit defensive or a protective measure. Its just a matter of confidence and conviction in your feelings to admit that, well some situations make us all shy. Being honest about that is hardly a game.

So, I think approaching directly gets misinterpreted and subtle hints get overlooked. What about repetition of a subtle hint until it becomes increasingly obvious? Guys? You seem to register our "hints" a minute, hour, day, too late. What if a day later, when you realize that asking you to sit on the bed next to her was a girls way of trying to get a kiss from you, she comes along and manages to duplicate the situation, as similarly as possible. What if, after telling you you look nice in red, this girl says to you the next day when you're wearing a blue shirt, I like your shirt, but you look nice in red. Would the call-back to the initial come on get through to you at all?
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