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 carolann0308
Joined: 12/9/2006
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What people are having a tough time accepting is that you are still married. Until you get that mess taken care of you cannot expect a woman to take you too seriously, she will know she is in a rebound relationship with little chance of it lasting.
 wanderbaby
Joined: 9/4/2006
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Posted: 6/26/2008 3:44:44 PM
You may not feel you are sounding needy, but your original post and title speaks of it subconsciously. You're also addressing that it's hard to meet people with having the kids half the time. As someone suggested, it may not be the issue of you having the kids half the time, but more of your status of separation. I"m sure there is a story to it, but some women don't want to date those who are separated once they hear they are, since there may be some who feel that it's either a rebound dating, or the separated person is in limbo and may go back to the wife. Once your divorce is final, it may be a different story and some women may give you more chances than when you are separated now.

my advice is to seek a group for single parents, maybe you can find some friends that way that can relate and offer support and friendship. try meetup.com

you haven't mentioned how long you have been separated, but perhaps you need to join a hobby of interest to do something you enjoy doing. Since you've stressed about giving others happiness, why dont' you take this time since you are single, to focus on what you'd like to do so you won't burn yourself out.
 wanderbaby
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Posted: 6/26/2008 9:47:11 PM
thanks for sharing. Of course, you didn't have to share, but it's good to let it out and maybe that's what you're really looking for. Nothing wrong with that, it can be overwhelming to have that feeling that as a single parent a lot of things are done by a parent and you can only hope it's for the best interest for the kids. And since your kids have gone thru a lot, you're stressed to know if you're doing the right things in whatever you do with your kids. Having an outlet, as in talking it over with other family, friends, or a support group may help relieve some of the overwhelming feeling of doing this on your own, it doesn't necessarily need to be fulfilled by the person you are dating.

Given on what's going on wiht your kids, perhaps you should put dating on hold til they see how stable you can provide their environment, which most kids are seeking. Seeing guys go into their lives like a revolving door isn't healthy nor is it a normal way of thinking that it's suppose to be that way. Another advice is that when you do date, don't introduce the kids to her til you see the relationship going towards long term.
 daddy-day-care
Joined: 6/12/2008
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Posted: 6/27/2008 4:26:50 AM
thats good advise klopper it may make or brake his arse in court if she where to cut and paste them for the judge to read!!
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