Plentyoffish dating forums are a place to meet singles and get dating advice or share dating experiences etc. Hopefully you will all have fun meeting singles and try out this online dating thing... Remember that we are the largest free online dating service, so you will never have to pay a dime to meet your soulmate.
     
Show ALL Forums  > Sex and Dating  > I hate it when men do this during lovemaking      Home login  
 AUTHOR
 3yearsfromnow
Joined: 5/31/2008
Msg: 1
I hate it when men do this during lovemakingPage 1 of 12    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12)
You put a lot into a relationship; then you decide to become intimate. Lovemaking goes well, then all of a sudden he rolls over, pulls out and starts pleasuring himself. What am I supposed to do while he does that? Well he asked me to touch his rear and provide him with anal pleasure. EWWW!!! nasty. I wanted to let him know that sometimes he just wasn't "fresh smelling"; I hated giving him anal; there was no pleasure for me. He called me selfish. I broke up with him, the sex was no fun at all.
So I met another guy, tall and handsome and a real lady killer. Eventually we became intimate and during sex he pulled out, rolled over and started pleasuring himself. Only this man wanted me to kiss his thighs; but it was boring. Again, nothing in it for me. That also did not last.
What's up with this? don't men want a woman any more? You don't need me around to pleasure yourself. Next time it happens I will go watch TV.
 **Tee**
Joined: 3/11/2008
Msg: 2
I hate it when men do this during lovemaking
Posted: 6/30/2008 7:28:18 PM
Ummmm...I don't know what to say?

Sorry about your luck???
 davidsauvignon
Joined: 2/6/2008
Msg: 3
view profile
History
I hate it when men do this during lovemaking
Posted: 6/30/2008 7:31:45 PM
OP: "What's up with this? don't men want a woman any more? You don't need me around to pleasure yourself. Next time it happens I will go watch TV."

Hmmm, OP, I'm realllllly trying to keep a straight face here and respond in a courteous manner, but DANG! Okay, I've caught my breath. Umm, I'm not sure. Were they related by any chance? I mean, as you mention, why would someone do that while with someone?! Unless possibly the session had gone on infinitely and he/they couldn't climax au naturale? Something bugging them, stress, upcoming elections, thinking of their wives, alcohol. Other than that, I'm perplexed.

I would venture a guess that if you got back out there and rounded up another guy, that there's no way he will do it, too. Money.



~ds~
 isspringhere
Joined: 3/18/2008
Msg: 4
I hate it when men do this during lovemaking
Posted: 6/30/2008 7:34:45 PM
holy crap..............what are the odds of having sex with 2 guys that did this??

I really have no idea as to why they would do that but to each his own............can't blame ya for bailin on em though........................
 everlast_toronto
Joined: 5/28/2008
Msg: 5
I hate it when men do this during lovemaking
Posted: 6/30/2008 7:35:22 PM

Ummmm...I don't know what to say?

Sorry about your luck???


haha......
sorry, but I agree, sh*t luck...
OR, how old were these guys? your profile says your 53... maybe its a thing older guys like????

the answer to this question might be important....
 3yearsfromnow
Joined: 5/31/2008
Msg: 6
I hate it when men do this during lovemaking
Posted: 6/30/2008 7:40:16 PM
Yes, they were older: The first guy was 59; using Viagra. The second guy was 51; he denied using meds.
 everlast_toronto
Joined: 5/28/2008
Msg: 7
I hate it when men do this during lovemaking
Posted: 6/30/2008 7:43:58 PM

Yes, they were older: The first guy was 59; using Viagra. The second guy was 51; he denied using meds.


hhhmmnn... can older guys comment on this.... is anal pleasure required/requested when you get older?
 Jake52177
Joined: 12/18/2007
Msg: 8
view profile
History
I hate it when men do this during lovemaking
Posted: 6/30/2008 7:44:59 PM
Maybe the coochie wasn't all that. They rather just beat off and scram.
 reservedone
Joined: 6/3/2008
Msg: 9
I hate it when men do this during lovemaking
Posted: 6/30/2008 7:47:38 PM
wow!! sounds like not so good for you. what are you doing 3 years from now?
 maggiedoyle
Joined: 6/21/2008
Msg: 10
I hate it when men do this during lovemaking
Posted: 6/30/2008 7:49:21 PM

Ummmm...I don't know what to say?

Sorry about your luck???


Hope that's not what we have to look forward to when we get to dating old guys...
 Stumbled In
Joined: 4/8/2008
Msg: 11
I hate it when men do this during lovemaking
Posted: 6/30/2008 7:51:59 PM

hhhmmnn... can older guys comment on this.

Sure

... is anal pleasure required/requested when you get older?

Not just no but... HAIL NO!! LoL!
 ry-guy23
Joined: 11/22/2007
Msg: 12
I hate it when men do this during lovemaking
Posted: 6/30/2008 8:07:49 PM
Maybe they just wanted to test you to see what kind of person you are??? Some girls find pleasure in giving pleasure and those are the best kind of girls, i cant stand the ones who say "what do i get out of it" ... its like if a friend was in trouble and needed your help or your best friend fell off a ladder and broke his/her ankle and wanted some company in the hospital what are you going to say "what do i get out of this" selfish very selfish, god forebid some of you woman do something for a guy and not get anything out of it right away, we have to listen about your "stupid co-workers" and "how shitty and horrible your day was everyday" and how everyone else thinks of themselves before they do about you or someone else, hmmmmm i wonder why .... you have to give a little to get a little so quit complaining and lick his ass and maybe after he'll lick everything of yours :)
 ForumFilly
Joined: 5/14/2008
Msg: 13
I hate it when men do this during lovemaking
Posted: 6/30/2008 8:18:39 PM
If you are putting a lot into the relationship, why don't you discuss it with the man? Ask him if there is a problem or why he pulls out when you have yet to climax. Anal stimulation can be extremely erotic for both parties. Sometimes, pleasuring your partner takes priority. You pleasure him and he'll pleasure you. It's a two way street. If he wasn't 'fresh smelling', entice him to take a shower with you before lovemaking. Few men will turn down such an offer. What is wrong with kissing a man's thighs? I love kissing a man all over his body. It is anything but boring. Talk to the man your with if you find you aren't being satisfied. Tell him what excites you and ask what excites him. Explore each other and see what little tricks really arouse your partner. Don't worry so much about 'getting yours'. If you are a considerate and exciting lover, most men will be more than happy to reciprocate.
 Traveling Man MS
Joined: 9/7/2006
Msg: 14
I hate it when men do this during lovemaking
Posted: 6/30/2008 8:21:43 PM

ummmmz...maybe they're so used to being 'alone' that they can't get off anymore aside from that...?


I am guessing that this may be partially true. In a lot of cases, a man that is 'alone', as this young lady put it so eloquently put it, he is unable to get off otherwise. I'll bet the Viagra had something to do with it, and I would bet the other dude was lying about using meds. As for the anal, I can't comment as it doesn't do anything for me, but some guys get off on a prostate massage.

As for getting two dudes that do that, bad luck is all I can say. Keep trying and I'm sure you will find a better lover. Now, don't forget, sometimes you may want to do something for your lover that doesn't necessarily do anything for you but it does please him just as you should expect he would do the same for you. Sure we would like all of our love making sessions to result in orgasm after orgasm for both partners, but we all know that doesn't always happen. I can understand that the first time that you are intimate you would rather this doesn't happen and most likely it won't next time. But, we all know that three time's a charm!

Good luck.
 Tat_2d
Joined: 5/10/2008
Msg: 15
I hate it when men do this during lovemaking
Posted: 6/30/2008 8:26:35 PM
Maybe you should introduce them and they could give each other rusty trombones.
 laughinglibra
Joined: 11/6/2007
Msg: 16
I hate it when men do this during lovemaking
Posted: 6/30/2008 8:41:06 PM

Maybe the coochie wasn't all that.


That's the first thing that entered my mind too.... sorry to say.

I give the first guy credit for asking for what he liked.... I think it's a very secure and erotic man who is comfortable enough in his sexuality to ask his partner to stimulate him anally.... to play with his prostate. If he wasn't clean enough for you, you could've suggested a shower for two.... that may have inspired many more fun options!

You said that when they rolled off you and started to pleasure themselves that it was no fun for you... well... hate to break it to you, but sometimes sex is about giving and not just taking. Apparently you weren't that into giving pleasure to them, so they decided to take it upon themselves to do so.

Apologies if this sounds harsh, but it's just my take on the situations given the information you have shared with us.


 Sabrosura
Joined: 8/1/2007
Msg: 17
I hate it when men do this during lovemaking
Posted: 6/30/2008 8:45:30 PM
lol - Ok how to respond.............

Usually when a couple is intimate they typical discuss what turns them on and what not. Maybe he wanted a change up during your play time, maybe the kitty wasn't "cutting it" (with all due respect) and he wanted to please himself while you do your thing i.e. please each other for each other or kick it up a few notches and get a bit kinky, etc................

When you state "nothing in it for me" - is this only achieved if they are penetrating you? Sorry, I'm not trying to get too personal (well you did put this out there!lol), but there are SOOOOO many ways and things to spice things up and get your groove onto.

Variety is the spice of life, but you MUST COMMUNICATE with your partner!

 WaywardSeeker
Joined: 7/12/2007
Msg: 18
I hate it when men do this during lovemaking
Posted: 6/30/2008 8:50:11 PM
What you describe is the last thing in the world I would think of doing, if you want one old geezer's opinion. If I don't like the lady I would not be there in the first place, so if I do I probably want more than one chance. That means, gentlemen, ladies first. And, yes, when the gent is older all the plumbing gets a little creaky and don't work like it used to, so maybe he needs a little extra help. But that's no excuse for leaving you hanging. Laughing Libra may be right on the money in general, but not the first time.
 blue70
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 19
I hate it when men do this during lovemaking
Posted: 6/30/2008 8:57:37 PM
I wonder how long you dated these guys before becoming intimate? Sounds like you needed to spend more time getting to know one another.
 gatorsz
Joined: 3/4/2008
Msg: 20
I hate it when men do this during lovemaking
Posted: 6/30/2008 8:59:34 PM
I would go with LaughingLibra's response.

I don't think you could possibly find a 3rd person to react the same way. Consider this a license to try, however. Maybe more "tests" are needed to form a conclusion?

Well, if that's the worst that happens.....

 hopeful_73
Joined: 3/8/2008
Msg: 21
I hate it when men do this during lovemaking
Posted: 6/30/2008 9:57:26 PM
Im with laughinglibra on this one. From the way youve described it, Ive got the impression youre just lying there during sex. For older, more experienced men, that ain't gonna do it. You need to be willing to play and to try things.

Otherwise look to younger men in their 20s...for them any wet slot will do. lol
 _Red_
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 22
I hate it when men do this during lovemaking
Posted: 6/30/2008 10:11:19 PM
Is this a post 50-55ish guy thing or something? If so, I'm now scared to age.

Did they not have condoms maybe? Worried about STDs or something? Even if that were the case, this doesn't make sense unless it's an age related thing?
 Rhett68
Joined: 1/29/2008
Msg: 23
I hate it when men do this during lovemaking
Posted: 6/30/2008 10:23:09 PM
I'm sorry...am I the only one who thinks the OP is actually being a bit selfish?

Now, by that I mean: so the guy asked for anal, so what? Now, I'm not saying you HAD to do it, of course. But what kind of sexual relationship is it when one partner asks for something and the other says "eeewww" and thinks they're a freak.
Of course, the big problem is that he didn't have the right to call you selfish, of course. You have the right to choose what you want to do in bed. Anal is not for everybody and some people do not keep that region clean enough.

As for the 2nd guy.
What was wrong with what he did? He stroked himself and wanted you to help him by kissing his thighs...gasp...NO!
Did he tell you he was done and wanted to finish so he could go home to his wife?
I'm thinking "no".
That's when you take the reins and use your mouth. Go down on him. Stroke him. Stroke him while he's doing it. Use your imagination, girl.
Personally, I find watching a guy masturbate to be one of the hottest things.
 DCinFL
Joined: 7/8/2007
Msg: 24
I hate it when men do this during lovemaking
Posted: 6/30/2008 10:28:28 PM

Maybe the coochie wasn't all that. They rather just beat off and scram.


if the OP was actually real and not a troll, that would be the most likely answer.
 shimbo
Joined: 6/15/2008
Msg: 25
I hate it when men do this during lovemaking
Posted: 6/30/2008 11:04:13 PM

That is just gross!


Which part?
The jerking off, anal stimulation or the dessicated couchie-coup?
Show ALL Forums  > Sex and Dating  > I hate it when men do this during lovemaking