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 69cobra
Joined: 7/28/2006
Msg: 14
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You ask; "Will he have Good Memories or Negative Ones"?? That is HIS choice....It's called selective recall...We remember events the way we choose to! Give the guy his space or it WILL become a negitive memory for him. Drop him a simple note saying that you regret your last e-mail exchange and that when he is ready, if even, that you are open to talking. Leave it in his court for now and get on with your life...It's the only way it can work...for either of you.
 Randominternetguy
Joined: 12/25/2006
Msg: 16
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Posted: 7/20/2008 7:58:52 AM

I hate for our relationship to be characterized by that last exchange.


This comment sure sounded familiar to me. But you don't have control over how he will view the relationship, although you can see past the final exchange to something better. I have to agree with the others and say you want it more than he does. And as such will always be looking for reasons why it isn't working as you think it should.

Bob
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