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 untamed one
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 2
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 fetish4u
Joined: 4/18/2007
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men what do you think of??
Posted: 7/20/2008 8:06:51 PM
I don't care so much about receiving but won't be happy if I couldn't give the woman I'm with oral.It's something I like doing.I don't see where it's dicusting.
 windloverr
Joined: 2/29/2008
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Posted: 7/20/2008 9:58:01 PM
I don't want to judge, or condem; and I obviously don't know what your issues or experiences are; so I'm not going to give you some trite quip about what you should do. You have issues here that go way beyond simply enjoying, or not enjoying, particular aspects of sex. Disgusting is a judgmental term; and "I had some bad experiences..." simply does not wash either. We've ALL had bad experiences, involving every aspect of sex; and if that was the criterion, none of us would have sex at all. I'm not trying to trivialize, or minimize, whatever is in your past; just saying that these are psychological issues, not physical constraints; and things that need to be handled outside of the bedroom.

I feel that everyone deserves a satisfying sex life. I hope you don't settle for "Well, this is how I feel..." or "This is how it is..." I think counseling could be very helpful; and, depending on exactly what your issues are, may be fairly straight forward. Even things as horrible as rape and abuse can be overcome. Straightforward, or not, I don't think you're going to be happy sexually, or otherwise, until you have worked through them; and a professional is definately the way to go. Good luck.
 313sfinest
Joined: 1/31/2008
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men what do you think of??
Posted: 7/21/2008 7:27:46 PM
well, im sorry but he didnt know what he was doin im only 25 and i think i a pro, better yet i am a veteran
 BaldyisBeautiful
Joined: 3/28/2008
Msg: 17
men what do you think of??
Posted: 7/22/2008 2:32:56 PM
I don't understand the question. Doesn't like oral? Sorry doesn't compute!
 BaldyisBeautiful
Joined: 3/28/2008
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men what do you think of??
Posted: 7/22/2008 3:44:29 PM

I actually had not idea that men just thought about oral sex and that is all. What
about how we like it ?You are not the only one in bed. Do you think about us

uhhhhh ... of course. Why do you think we do oral? (well besides REALLY enjoying listening to a woman moan and feeling her squirm).
 windloverr
Joined: 2/29/2008
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Posted: 7/23/2008 3:36:54 AM
Gypsy...don't fool yourself, you have lots of side effects; if not from the rape, from something. Counseling is a LOT more than "just talking about it." They guide you to where your real blocks are, and underlying issues; and guide you through working them out. In the end, all of the answers are yours; but a lot of the artificial, or old, garbage is knocked out of the way.
 Tim61
Joined: 3/2/2007
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Posted: 7/23/2008 4:10:09 AM
my girl wont give me oral unless i wear a flavoured condom, but thats ok as long as she is prepared to give me oral thats all, i love to give her oral, im sorry to hear abt your bad experience try not to let it judge you us guys are not all the same you know.

Best wishes Tim
 platypus_man
Joined: 8/29/2007
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Posted: 7/23/2008 7:11:56 AM

Counseling is a LOT more than "just talking about it." They guide you to where your real blocks are, and underlying issues; and guide you through working them out. In the end, all of the answers are yours; but a lot of the artificial, or old, garbage is knocked out of the way.

In the end, some of the answers are our own, but some we do get from others. But 'therapy' is not a cure all; we don't get to 'work out our issues' and become completely free from things that happened to us in the past. Some 'issues' ARE forever, no matter how much we wish they would go away. While modern medicine would like people to believe that they can 'fix' everything, they really can't. The best you can do, is cope with what's happened to yourself, and it doesn't always mean becoming what everyone else thinks you should be. Gypsy came here to ask a question (though she probably already knows the answer), most likely looking for some support for her position on various sexual opinions; that said, yes, Gypsy, there are plenty of men in this world who aren't interested in either oral or anal sex. But with each activity you eliminate from prospective mates, the percentages of finding someone who will be interested in you lowers as well. So, just be up front about it in your profile, and those of us who are still interested will make themselves known.
 guyot
Joined: 5/6/2008
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Posted: 7/23/2008 8:07:31 AM
It would be fine with me. I much prefer to have my head closer to her head, and really like time spent face to face. It feels like there is more real person to person communication that way.

Why do some of the posters make such quick judgments about other people's preferences?

-Gray
 DoughStacks
Joined: 7/26/2006
Msg: 27
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Posted: 7/23/2008 12:33:21 PM
It would be a problem for me since I love both giving and receiving.
 windloverr
Joined: 2/29/2008
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Posted: 7/23/2008 1:17:37 PM
Just_for_Forums, good idea giving her complete control. Persoanlly, I was a bit surprised she is good with the bondage thing. There's always a lot more to it than what you see on the surface.
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