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 ishaun
Joined: 6/20/2008
Msg: 1
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I chat online usually in yahoo game rooms (no random porn bots messaging you every 5 seconds)

I don't put on an act, use fake pictures, or lie in any way to impress any women I may come across. Somehow though, through the internet most girls seem to like me, and even say I'm hot when they see my pictures -- yet in real life i'm too ugly or repulsive in some way. I'm just confused as to why this happens at all, what is so different about the internet?

I assume that looks don't register at all, upon initial contact, and it's all in the personality. What about later? Do they just paste my face on Brad Pitts body and go from there? lol

None of this probably matters anyway as I don't do the internet dating thing, it seems too fake to me, and not just because of the above contradiction with real life, just overall.

Does anyone else seem to get different reactions online than you would get in real life?
 HarleyKat~
Joined: 3/30/2008
Msg: 2
What is with the Internet?
Posted: 7/21/2008 10:34:04 PM
Maybe for someone your age, it is simply that there are more your type with common interests, on a Yahoo game room??

Do I get different reactions online than in real life? Not really. Some won't contact me online, some won't approach me in real life. Some do online, some do in real life. Oh...and rejection...online...and in real life! LOL
 Polarbear656
Joined: 8/13/2006
Msg: 3
What is with the Internet?
Posted: 7/22/2008 9:01:18 AM
First of all yeah the porn bot thing is beyond annoying, Second of all yeah i get the different reaction in real life and in person. It's just the way of the internet.
 ishaun
Joined: 6/20/2008
Msg: 4
What is with the Internet?
Posted: 7/23/2008 3:07:24 AM


Maybe for someone your age, it is simply that there are more your type with common interests, on a Yahoo game room??

Do I get different reactions online than in real life? Not really. Some won't contact me online, some won't approach me in real life. Some do online, some do in real life. Oh...and rejection...online...and in real life! LOL


Lol, maybe there is more my type in a yahoo room, but I don't go there to hook up. I just go there in an attempt to fight boredom, and I hardly even play games, just chat. Either there are interesting people there, or there is a bunch of ppl whp tlk liek dis or some shit. im not bien meen heer, wats teh problim if thy cnt type?

I apologize if that hurt the eyes. I guess you have it balanced out pretty well with no real change online and in real life. For me there is no change if it is Plenty of Fish online, as it's all local. I just meet some interesting women online sometimes, who seem to like me (some even pushing for internet dating) and I just wonder why it never happens in real life lol (not that you'd push for an internet date in real life.)



Men in real life actually talk to me LOl. Men on here don't. I dont know why.....
so I have the same problem as you...only opposite LOL


haha ever deadly, I wasn't talking about on here though, as it is close enough to real life (all local peoplE)

At least I'm not the only one, though!




If you don't do internet dating then what is the problem?


Problem is I get completely different results in real life, and wonder why. If I could live my life online, I guess that would solve my problems lol.



First of all yeah the porn bot thing is beyond annoying, Second of all yeah i get the different reaction in real life and in person. It's just the way of the internet.


In real life and in person are the same to me. Unless you mean to say online lol.

Well at least I'm not alone.
 good_catch77
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 5
What is with the Internet?
Posted: 7/23/2008 9:20:02 AM
OP ~ When it comes to real life vs online dating. I've got much more of a chance to date someone in real life with my personality. So I'm just here for the forums now on here.

But I see your point it could get annoying

Best of luck to everyone
 Gangster Kitten
Joined: 4/3/2008
Msg: 6
What is with the Internet?
Posted: 7/23/2008 9:35:15 AM
Staring someone in the face, and looking into their eyes, is a lot different than reading someone's text and writing back. Body language is absent, so people can conceal themselves more.

As much as people like honesty, we all like to hide what we think are our less-than attractive traits at least until it's "safe" enough to be vulnerable. Every person does it to some degree, and the internet makes it extremely easy to do. You also don't get as accurate picture of someone through a photograph or internet pic, as you can in real life.

Thus, some people's imaginations fill those blanks up to be much more in tune to their expectations, making you seem more attractive (and even less in some cases) to the person, than you might actuallly be.
 ishaun
Joined: 6/20/2008
Msg: 7
What is with the Internet?
Posted: 7/23/2008 6:46:22 PM


Because the way you socialy interact with people online is completely different to how you would in real life. For example you would never go into your local bar/pub turn to the group of people sitting next to you and state to them what you posted in your first message. Like wise you wouldnt expect to be having a conversation with your friends and have strangers start butting into your conversation with thier opinions.

Same goes for chat rooms I would imgaine (not used them myself), its socialy accepted (and expected) to start and join in with complete stragers conversations. So you would imagine that you are going to meet and interact with more people that way than by random encounters with peopel in real life.

Its much easier to put yourself out socialy if you have the comfort of anomymity on your side in such an enviroment.

Also you need to remember that for the most part people are not even interacting with you as such online, they are interacting with a concept of you based on a wall of text. We all make instant judgements on people almost imediatly on meeting them that shape out opinions which just doesnt happen online (which is wht people on dating sites like this are keen to meet people in real life fairly quickly).

But on the other hand I could be talking complete bobbins, who knows :)


Good shit. That makes perfect sense to me.




I'm sorry I dont have the patience to read some of the essays people write but I just wanted to say that one time I met a guy on-line and he looked SO sexy in his pictures but then I met him in person and his teeth were outrageously bad (I've never seen anything like it). It might be something they didn't see in the picture like smell or dirty clothes... something like that.



haha, I feel sorry for you, tiffanyithink. It's hard to tell in pictures sometimes. I don't know if men do it too, but a lot of women work and work at certain angles, lighting, and maybe some picture effects to make themselves look as attractive as they possibly can, and then they seem to look nothing like it most of the time. I won't lie, I take multiple photos before I find one that isn't so retarded looking that I can post it anywhere. I'm not too photogenic, or good looking, but I never broke a camera yet. I still have a picture of me drunk, or something, so you know what I look like usually without any fancy angles or lighting.
 _Icon_
Joined: 5/18/2008
Msg: 8
What is with the Internet?
Posted: 7/23/2008 9:08:27 PM
Offline I am eccentric and creative, on the internet I'm just weird.

I am starting to understand that my personality doesnt translate online well. I seem to do better in real life.
 Vancer
Joined: 10/29/2006
Msg: 9
What is with the Internet?
Posted: 7/23/2008 9:09:20 PM
Hey, wait a second.
What do you mean bots in chat rooms?
 xeot
Joined: 10/25/2007
Msg: 10
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What is with the Internet?
Posted: 7/23/2008 10:20:30 PM
Every woman I've known online and off because of some common interest or as neighbors or from work or any non-dating situation results in a very similar experience for me. They say I'm a great guy, decent looking if not good looking, blah blah blah. They can't fathom why dating isn't easy for me. The ones that don't live around me say something must be wrong with the local women. The old women think there is something wrong with the young women... etc and so on. I've come to the conclusion they likely are just being nice for the most part but not lying (see next paragraph). Maybe it's the same in your case.

I really don't think it has anything to do with being online. It has to do with context. In the non-dating context those women think of a guy as friend, acquaintance, etc and this makes for a different view. Meanwhile the women of the local dating population see the same man in a dating context are repulsed. Something puts them off so they don't put in time to see the qualities that woman with some common interest or day-to-day exposure knows.
 ishaun
Joined: 6/20/2008
Msg: 11
What is with the Internet?
Posted: 7/24/2008 11:14:03 AM


Hey, wait a second.
What do you mean bots in chat rooms?



Yahoo chat has many names signed in like "sexy_hot_mamma2033" for example (i just made that up)

These names were created mostly for Porn ads or Malicious use. They're logged in from an automated program to continuously display the same message, or a certain number of pre-defined messages every 5 seconds or so. These can be things like "I'm lonely, anyone want to play with me?"

Upon receiving a message, the bot would then either display a link to a site and say they're live on their webcam for you, or actually attempt to talk (using pre-defined messages)

It's pretty funny how most guys wont notice, they'll say "you want to cyber" or something, you say yes, they do a few lines, telling you what they're doing to you (internet sex) Then they display the link and tell you to finish it at the site

You'll most likely have to register, pay, and find out you've been ripped off my some scam site, and got a virus to boot.
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