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 SueCat51
Joined: 8/11/2007
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OP - great story!!!! I quit doing "mirror, mirror, on the wall, who's the fairest of them all". When I look in the mirror, I see a human being. One who came into the world, innocent, buck naked, and with a soul that wanted to explore the world. Yeah, sometimes I hate seeing a white hair in my eyebrow, or a laugh line around my eyes. I think to myself "this is my outer shell", it doesn't count! My body is my transportation. When I look into the mirror, I see a wonderful human being, who's creator stamped "unique" on my forehead (invisible to the world), that will always be young in heart. Age is nothing but a number. I just pray to god, that when I celebrate my birthdays that the number of candles won't have the fire department coming to my house. On second thought, there are some darn good looking firemen out there!
 PosterChild4Ugly
Joined: 12/27/2006
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Posted: 7/27/2008 10:44:20 PM
I wrote this sometime ago ... and have posted it in other threads, before I found this one. At any rate, I think it "fits" here, in this thread, and I'm so happy someone started it ... PC4U

The Mirror©

Sunshine shoots through the windows and fills the house with grace,
Ricochets around the room and finds my weathered face.

Standing at a mirror I see refracted light
On wrinkles, lines and eyes of mine reflected to my sight.

The youth that once looked back at me
Has gone – I know not where – in vain I search the glass, and find: No … it isn’t there.

Instead I see the wrinkles – they are stress of many years
Produced by times of doubt and my unfounded fears.

My eyes see lines and furrows as they track across my face
Hard times are buried there as my eyes complete the trace.

At the corners of my eyes I see a pair of old “crows feet”
They’re etched there forever from those times my life was sweet.

A lifetime full of memories comes bouncing off the glass
A memory consumes me - as I feel still more time pass.

In the Winter of a lifetime, ‘tis memories that come to stay
Oh, thank God I have them – pray they never go away.

I turn from my glass mirror – that used to be my friend
As thoughts of those reflections I try to comprehend.

My face it is my diary of experience I’ve had
And then I tell myself: “You know … those lines …
they really aren’t so bad.”
 Sapphireeyes
Joined: 1/13/2008
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Posted: 7/27/2008 10:59:20 PM
What I see in the mirror everyone keep telling me isnt true, I saw a 49 year old cancer survivor with two teenagers who looked totally frazzled and who was trying to deal with the things in life that had kicked her butt. I wonder about the popularity at this age. I see the difference in myself now and the past and see true beauty in my 17 year old daughter.

All the comments and the false popularity from being on favorites until I realized rather than keeping on deleting them (up to 5 times now) I have come to accept that to some I am beautiful and I wont fight their impression of me, I just hate that they dont see who I am, where the real beauty lies.

When my father died my mom went to buy a new car she was 67 years old and the salesman asked her out...for a cup of coffee. She thought he was horrible, someone sleezy who was after what little retirement she had. She never saw her beauty and judged him to harshly.

I think it is just as important to let others see us the way they wish and forget who we see in the mirror unless we are looking into our hearts and minds cause that where true beauty is. I dont care what I look like, I care who I am. I care that I took the time that day to make sure my kids know I love them. I care that when I have to make a decision I make the one that is right for me, not one I let someone else convince me to be right.
 mollymousse
Joined: 7/3/2008
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Posted: 7/28/2008 10:48:19 AM
its strange in a way to put my thoughts to this, if your mother was happy and looked forward to the coffee shop why go and spoil it?.ive 3 daughters and at times tease them oh ive a toy boy 25 etc,just to see there faces, but at the end of the day as long as he treats me right and im happy thats all they want,yes sometimes seeing some pics of the dolly birds about it makes you look in the mirror,but as we get older we show in our faces the characters we have become,and who wants someone that spends more time making sure there lippy is still on etc,,but maybe ive got this thread wrong if i have i apologise, jules xxx
 mollymousse
Joined: 7/3/2008
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Posted: 7/29/2008 3:40:20 AM
yes i understand it now, ive no doubt at all you loved your mother, i wasnt saying that at all, i just couldnt grasp what it ment, for which i did apologise if i was wrong,jules
 Moonchild51
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Posted: 7/29/2008 4:42:17 AM
I once saw a documentary about a group of ladies in their late 70's, early 80's. They were in a drama group, putting on plays all over the place. One lady when interviewed, said that even though her physical appearance did in fact elude to her age, she was 21 on the inside. She had the heart and soul of a 21 year old. Something she said would never change. I was much much younger than I am now and wondered just how the lady could think that way. Guess what? Now I too, can understand exactly what she meant! I look in the mirror today and see an external me that has changed over time.But, I see a gal with a huge heart, who has learned a great many of life's lessons, one who has the love of family and friends. One who has overcome many of life's hardships and who still stands with her head up, ready to greet each new day and what it has to offer. One who still very much harbours that "young girl" within!!
 rossal
Joined: 12/5/2005
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Posted: 7/29/2008 10:56:43 AM
That's a beautiful story. I know I will always be 16 inside!

My 3rd grade teacher (now 96!!), coined the term, "fairy-child" for me....I still am (living in the moment, living on the edge, dancing, singing, writing, being bold).

Hugs to all, Rossal
 texasbaby
Joined: 7/21/2005
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Posted: 7/29/2008 11:09:50 AM
The children in my family keep me informed about who that really is looking back at me in the mirror.
I have young children, at dinner last night our conversation was about my Mother, who had come for a visit earlier. The kids opinion was that I looked like my Mom's sister... Looking in the mirror later, I had to consider that they might be right.

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 Sky at sunset
Joined: 12/20/2006
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Posted: 7/29/2008 4:23:41 PM
Lovely story and one I can identify with. My mother is 82 and still believes she is much younger and active. She talks a great walk. Her solution is just not to look in mirrors. On the other hand, she is interesting and interested in life.

My dad, who is also well, had more trouble with aging and I see two of my brother going the same way.
 grapevine
Joined: 10/2/2005
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Posted: 7/29/2008 7:44:25 PM
As soon as I start getting depressed about my age and whatever associated aches and pains I may have, I remind myself that my mother, at nearly 80 years of age, is still working a full-time job and attending church regularly, in spite of ever-increasing health problems. (She recently went back to work the day following her release from the hospital after being treated for a pulmonary embolism). My grandmother (her mom) lived to be 100 years and 4 months old. Im blessed with good genes, I guess. I've been told it was due to the Irish part of my ancestry. :-)
 woobytoodsday
Joined: 12/13/2006
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Posted: 7/31/2008 7:16:15 AM
Aw, don't lose you that light in your eyes
Never too late to love
Never too late to try
When somebody needs you
Give them all you can give
When you live in the love
Your lovin' to live

Stay young keep your wheels in motion
You've got everything that you need
Stay young with your rock an' rollin'
All the best things in life are free

Aw, don't you feel like playin' the fool
Step out of line
Break all the rules
Don't let them tell you
It's not for you
Don't go growin' old
Before you're through

Stay young keep your wheels in motion
You've got everything that you need
Stay young with your rock an' rollin'
All the best things in life are free

Stay young keep your wheels in motion
You've got everything that you need
Stay young with your rock an' rollin'
All the best things in life are free

Stay young keep your wheels in motion
You've got everything that you need
Stay young with your rock an' rollin'
All the best things in life are free

Written By: (B. Gallagher / G. Lyle)
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
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Posted: 7/31/2008 8:19:54 AM
As we get older and are thrown into the arena of dating again we are scared and delusional.


....lol, delusional is right...who knew? I never thought in a million years I would dating, ( or trying to get a date) at this stage in my life.


We all still have that younger version of ourself in our brain.


...How true is that? our brains play nasty tricks, they fool us into thinking we can do anything...... I was at the lake for a couple of days and frolicked like a school girl, both in and out of the water...when I got home last night I was totally "played out".


We don't all see the older woman in the mirror.


...Oh I see her....and its my mom staring back at me and yelling, "Act your age" ..and at one time I would have shouted back, " I am acting my age"......It's funny cause I am still trying to figure out how people my age should act.

...maeflowers
 BrownEyedLeo
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Posted: 7/31/2008 9:40:45 AM
When I look in the mirror, I see the stress life has put in my eyes. I see a few wrinkles time has placed there. I see the age spots most of us women are blessed with after menapausal years. I don't look at any of this as negative things I see. I look at it positively. It is part of the aging process. I am grateful I can see myself in the mirror.
I also see so much more when I look in the mirror. I see myself. I see dark eyes still full of mischieve and wondering. I see a smile welcoming a stranger to open up to me. I see who I am inside, the woman in me. I see a sensual woman with hope in her eyes. I see a woman with laughter deep in her soul. I see me, exactly where I want to be. I am a woman at peace with myself and my place in life. I see so more more than what the physical reveals.
 2sirinlove
Joined: 8/24/2008
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Posted: 8/31/2008 7:35:40 AM
First of all, this is such a lovely thread and even tho I am a little young here, I couldn't let this one go by without a comment.

I am very young at heart. I have always been like this. Sometimes I look silly (as I probably do now) but I feel that this keeps me thinking young, and therefore, making me live longer and with full of hopes and dreams of how my life will pan out.

Life is exciting and should be lived to the fullest each and every day. Recently I was on a little bit of a downer in life and with the support and care of those who cared around me, also my mind, I brought myself back up again.

If you think you are old, you are going to be old. If you act old, no matter what age you are, you will be old. Think young, and you will be forever young.

When I look in the mirror, I see a happy, content and confident person. Someone who is worthy and someone who deserves the best in life, what ever that may be. I also see an aging face compared to with what I had in my 20's, but I am also proud of it, along with this, I also see lots of hair dye packets to cover them greys, but I like them because they are a part of me and because it is my face, and one that I have come to admire with everything that I have been through.

Life can dish out all kinds of things at us. Whether it be great times or complete sadness. It is in our mindsets of how we choose to deal with every little thorn or bed of roses we come across.
 boomboom4u
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Posted: 1/9/2012 3:44:15 AM
I loved the mirror poem test
 Ready_Real
Joined: 12/30/2010
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Posted: 1/9/2012 7:54:03 AM
Dear OP,
Thank you for sharing such a poignant story. The following is not meant in any way to connect with your mom!! Your story, however, does raise such a huge thing for all of us over 45: the challenge to find our own individual balance between "go[ing] gentle into that good night" and "rag[ing] rag[ing] against the dying of the light" (-- Dylan Thomas).

Those "young or old enough" to have seen "The Thorn Birds" might remember the one and only line that 80 year old Mary Carson delivers to "Father Ralph." "The girl" hidden within her otherwise seemingly nasty, bitter character surfaces -- for one beautiful little moment. Only to go "poof," disappear and morph into an even nastier vindictive old witch. The painful truth is that her money and power and status cannot get her past her own defiant refusal to embrace each and every year of her life as a blessing. The viewer can't help but mourn the loss of such human potential to create joy and love for so many fellow human beings. . . if only she had found the courage and strength to cherish every minute of her existence on earth, dozens of other preoples' lives would have also been blessed. . . such a tragically sad waste of human potential to love and be loved. . .
 Molly Maude
Joined: 9/11/2008
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Posted: 1/9/2012 12:15:09 PM
reading this three and a half year old post, I was struck by how few of the posters still had profiles or photos up ...

so I'm wondering what happened to them ... of course, some are still among us ... and you know who you are!

as for the person in MY mirror ... it shocks me every time I see that aging woman ... I feel much as I've felt most my life ... but the vision staring back at me from that mirror MUST be someone else! that can't be ME ... she looks ok for an older woman ... but where am I in that view???

 kailania
Joined: 4/10/2008
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Posted: 1/9/2012 1:18:14 PM
this is a great post and some of the things written brought tears to my eyes.

I agree with the poster who said that when we are depressed we look older in the mirror ( and to others)

and when we are happy we look younger in the mirror and to others.

I mean that is what I see when I look in the mirror. I have been through a lot of sadness in my life and when I feel that way I dont even like going out.
Maybe now I will find a nice little coffee shop to sit in...
and meet someone there instead of on here cause then he will be local and not
accross the country. I feel encouraged after reading this. very nice OP
 Stevenin2012
Joined: 1/24/2012
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Posted: 1/29/2012 9:12:08 PM
I had a dream once where I was in the back of a limo and talking to one of my drivers in the front. I was feeling impatient and asking when we would get where we were going. I was also annoyed at the old man sitting next to me on my left, who remained silent. I walked with the driver a little more and then glanced to my left and realized the old man was me, reflected in the glass of the window. It was my own reflection.

 soxinaus
Joined: 5/25/2007
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Posted: 1/30/2012 3:44:01 AM
what a great post , thanks for sharing, i may look old, but still feel young, one day im sure that will change,
but not today !
 Gwendolyn2010
Joined: 1/22/2006
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Posted: 1/30/2012 7:13:49 AM
I broke off a relationship with a man who has been abroad for a year--time and distance were too great.

But a couple of weeks before that, he sent two pictures. I looked at them and though, wow, he has aged a lot in a year. I think it was mainly the retreating hairline and new gray hair.

I went to the mirror to look at myself, wondering if I had aged as much. I couldn't see that I had. I talked to my older sister who said that I "never" changed much.

Maybe her observation is the refusal to look at herself clearly in the mirror but truthfully, I can't see that she has changed much, either.

~Shrug.~
 BLoNde__ANgeL
Joined: 9/20/2011
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Posted: 1/30/2012 10:18:42 AM
a beautiful story...we are as young as we feel...
 starfishgazer
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Posted: 1/30/2012 11:47:27 AM
Thank you for your wonderful personal story it touched my heart & made me smile.

I met my eldest son for lunch last week (as he is at university)and I was discussing that I may need a little motor bike if I change jobs as it would involve more travelling and I want the car just for family.
He promptly said " Please don't mum. If you fall off because you are older your bones would take longer to heal!" Oh how gobbed smacked and tickled was I for his concern and honest reflection that I must seem so ancient at 45 to his 19 years.

Working with terminally ill patients makes me appreciate every lesson and joy life gives me and aging is part of the journey.
I do forget how others see me sometimes and find it a pleasant surprise if complimented & I have always tried to see the inner person with those around me before looks or age.
Thank you again a golden story ;)
Starfishgazer x
 1388SmartBlonde
Joined: 5/15/2011
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Posted: 1/30/2012 2:20:50 PM
I often look in the mirror and catch glimpses of my mother when she was in her 40's/50's. I thought she was old then, but I realize now at this age that youth and love are in the heart not on the face. I have all the tell-tale signs of being my age and have no desire to erase or eradicate a single laugh line lest I miss seeing my mother's dear face.

Your story is very moving, Starfishgazer, and I too, miss my dear parents.
 starfishgazer
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Posted: 1/31/2012 2:19:58 AM
Thank you 1388SmartBlonde really kind of you.
And I enjoy your threads really stimulating discussions.
Take care.
Starfishgazer x
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