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 mindlover1
Joined: 12/25/2007
Msg: 1
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Some women who I have come into contact with lately can't seem to handle the thought of me making love to their mind before I make love to their body. Why is this? Is this what women want and crave? Advise please.
 Aurora772
Joined: 12/1/2007
Msg: 2
Making love to the mind.
Posted: 7/31/2008 3:04:59 PM
What exactly are you talking about?
 Invictus01
Joined: 2/20/2008
Msg: 3
Making love to the mind.
Posted: 7/31/2008 3:07:06 PM
I'm begging myself to stop typing this reply before I say something that would get me kicked off the site and banned forever. Please, sssssttttooooppppp ttttthhhhhiiiissss rrreeepppllllyyyy........................................................
 indehills
Joined: 2/23/2008
Msg: 4
Making love to the mind.
Posted: 7/31/2008 3:09:50 PM
It could be that they are misunderstanding exactly what you mean by "making love to their mind". Saying you want to "enlighten" them sounds kind of awkward, too, or at least it does to me. It makes it sound like you are inferring that you are somehow superior to them.

If I'm getting the meaning of what you are saying, you might tell them that you want to bond with them emotionally and spiritually before taking the next step of bonding physically. If that's what you mean, I think a lot of women are looking for the same thing. Heck, probably MOST of them are. But they might simply not understand the way you are putting it into words.

Of course I could be totally misunderstanding you, in which case it would make sense that they probably are, too.
 pretty moon
Joined: 6/25/2008
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Posted: 7/31/2008 3:30:27 PM
Is this like a mindmeld???????

I need more info. I'm old my mind is slow. It's my body that s in good shape. So making love to my mind could take more time then I have.

I'm getting the feeling you like to tease. Isnt that the womans job? Well, I should say ........isnt that what women are accused of.


PEACE......
 SapphirePoet
Joined: 8/29/2007
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Posted: 7/31/2008 3:34:51 PM
Oh My....finally a man that gets it!
As you can see if you read my profile it is what I crave.

Many women are not going to get where you are coming from.

It can lead to a level of intimacy that many have never achieved so they have no idea how to react or respond.

Too bad you are so far away!
 atouchoftink
Joined: 7/20/2006
Msg: 7
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Posted: 7/31/2008 3:41:40 PM
My sentiments exactly. Wonder if he means mind sex over the internet?
 msflis
Joined: 2/21/2007
Msg: 8
Making love to the mind.
Posted: 7/31/2008 3:42:14 PM
OP, do you mean you want to play with the body's biggest sex organ? So you're after full frontal ... lobes? Foreplay with the forebrain?

Maybe you need to stop saying it and just do it.

--Ms. Flis
 SapphirePoet
Joined: 8/29/2007
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Posted: 7/31/2008 3:52:49 PM
Op let me ask you a question?

Are you in love with these women?
If not, and they surely know this, well then there is no "Love Making" of any kind going on is there?
 takemeaway2chi
Joined: 11/10/2006
Msg: 10
Making love to the mind.
Posted: 7/31/2008 3:56:48 PM
I want it, I need it, I crave that. Maybe it's a GREEK thing? Ha! If a man can make love to my mind 1st and foremost, the rest comes much more easily/naturally.
 SweetnSassyNatureLover
Joined: 4/11/2008
Msg: 11
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Posted: 7/31/2008 4:02:48 PM
Oh My....finally a man that gets it!
As you can see if you read my profile it is what I crave.

Many women are not going to get where you are coming from.

It can lead to a level of intimacy that many have never achieved so they have no idea how to react or respond.

Too bad you are so far away
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^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ Saphirepoet !!!!! You know what he means !!!

I have a friend that says that foreplay is 90% mental and if done right the 10% that comes later is out of this world, it's a rare thing but wow when it happens. And I dont think it is possible with just anyone, must have some serious deep emotional connection there.
 dysfunction_junction
Joined: 7/17/2008
Msg: 12
Making love to the mind.
Posted: 7/31/2008 4:47:42 PM
:::camera pans slowly to 10,000 clueless guys, slackjawed and staring:::
 BaldyisBeautiful
Joined: 3/28/2008
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Making love to the mind.
Posted: 7/31/2008 4:51:49 PM
Is this anything like being Mind f*cked?

I once told a girl she had the most beautiful eyes in the world ... would she mind if I ripped 'em out and skull f*cked her!
 msflis
Joined: 2/21/2007
Msg: 14
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Posted: 7/31/2008 5:03:50 PM
Ooh, Baldy, I finally understand what "I wanna f*ck your brains out" means!

--Ms. Flis
 SweetnSassyNatureLover
Joined: 4/11/2008
Msg: 15
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Posted: 7/31/2008 5:04:45 PM
Is this anything like being Mind f*cked?

I once told a girl she had the most beautiful eyes in the world ... would she mind if I ripped 'em out and skull f*cked her!
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Oh Baldy, you are sooooooooooooooo hot!!!

But no doll it is not the same as being mind****ed - not at all. Mental foreplay baby, mental foreplay.
 pazoozoo
Joined: 8/28/2006
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Posted: 7/31/2008 5:09:48 PM
Oh great! Now the secret is out. I sure hope not many men read this thread, and I hope those that do won't understand it.

If guys ever catch on to foreplay of the mind, women will be sunk. We will lose all the ground we've gained in the last 100 yrs. We will become putty in their hands.

Mods, please delete this thread and save the women of the world.
 c_deacon
Joined: 3/13/2005
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Posted: 7/31/2008 5:11:15 PM
You can have that mental foreplay with your eyes, body language, hand movements, even the way you lick your lips..........

You take this and add verbal stimulation with conversation that knocks your socks off, and they will come off sooner than later.......

Now......given all of this........if the body that holds the mind is in dire need of work, even the best of minds will take a back seat to that hot convertible.......

Just my opinion........
 oc_jon1965
Joined: 3/30/2008
Msg: 18
Making love to the mind.
Posted: 7/31/2008 5:13:47 PM
maybe...your pictureless profile doesn't help

or...they just find u NOT attractive enough

untill then...stay away from the free porno sites
It's obviously not a good thing for you...

 msflis
Joined: 2/21/2007
Msg: 19
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Posted: 7/31/2008 5:16:11 PM
Not just putty, Pazoozoo, but Silly Putty!

But I do think there are some men who get it. Never even met the guy who got me the hottest EVER; nor did I talk to him directly. He did it all with e-mail, phone messages and one picture. And the help of my brain... I shudder to think what might have happened if we'd kept going till it was actually an in-person love affair--but it's a shudder of pleasure.

--Ms. Flis
 pazoozoo
Joined: 8/28/2006
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Posted: 7/31/2008 5:21:11 PM
msflis, it happened to me at the Miami airport. Unfortunately, we were talking face to face, and danged if I didn't actually fly to Puerto Rico for a week. Sigh...
 Sweethang100
Joined: 4/22/2005
Msg: 21
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Posted: 7/31/2008 5:52:43 PM
Actually, it really has nothing to do with sex, whatsoever! When a man makes love to a woman's mind (of course, they have to have the same terminology, naturally), he's reaching her on an intellectual and/or spiritual level...with both being equals in the same realm. I'm surprised so few know what it means, though.
 virgilskid
Joined: 10/29/2006
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Posted: 7/31/2008 6:05:47 PM
Maybe it's just me but you're coming off a little John Wayne Gacey or something, and considering you are from Dahmerville you may want to ease up on the "making mind love" schtick, especially with you being 6'7" and heavier, might seem a little creepy. Of course women want men to pay attention to their minds and engage them in stimulating conversation, that's admirable, what else did you have in mind for their, well, minds? Most of them also like to dance a little, you worked on that? Connect on all levels, and have chemistry as well, and there you go. And trim those nosehairs, they'll be looking right up there from their vantage point big fella.
 msflis
Joined: 2/21/2007
Msg: 23
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Posted: 7/31/2008 6:16:15 PM
Sweethang, I think most of us know it doesn't necessarily involve sex at all--we're just having fun with the subject.

Pazoozo, why "unfortunately"?

--Ms. Flis
 Sweethang100
Joined: 4/22/2005
Msg: 24
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Posted: 7/31/2008 7:09:39 PM
Ahhh...humor. You'll have to pardon me; it's very rare when I get to see humor on the forums, without intent...you know, just for the sake of humor, hehe. ;)
 mindlover1
Joined: 12/25/2007
Msg: 25
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Posted: 7/31/2008 7:12:35 PM
Funny man. Most women like a tall, dark, and handsome man.
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