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 GeneralizingNow
Joined: 10/10/2007
Msg: 2
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Did you learn that all men want this by looking at a porn movie? Cuz that's not real, you know. They do it with mirrors.
 Urbanessa
Joined: 8/15/2007
Msg: 5
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Posted: 8/14/2008 11:59:30 AM

men want women have red dress, red shoes, tall, slim,, long hair ,, hey where is your hearts,,, I choose men for good heart and personality..... and who are alots of funl. nothing to do with clothes slim and money money its not love.. hey men think hard,, would rather be woman who dress nice than bad personality. huh!!

YAY, another pity post by someone who feels she's too not-slim to get a decent date. Woohoo!

OP, this might come as a surprise, but from my experience men are not looking to date a woman's closet (unless they are cross-dressers maybe...), so your lack of red shoes most likely isn't the problem.

If you feel, however, that your haircut, weight or clothing style keep the men away stop complaining and do something about it. It's really not that difficult to lose weight, grow hair or dress in a body-flattering way, and none of that is going to change your personality. Men, just like women, are looking for a complete package they can adore.

And just for the record: I have never had problems in finding decent dates despite the fact that I have never owned a red dress or red shoes ...
 Urbanessa
Joined: 8/15/2007
Msg: 8
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Posted: 8/14/2008 1:05:06 PM

Moreover, I'd rather be alone than with an ugly woman.

I guess you're happy to be alone then?
 techgirl27
Joined: 9/5/2005
Msg: 11
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Posted: 8/14/2008 1:51:01 PM
OK so all these women that are independent and can more than well enough take care of their own responsibilities (and did way before they met you or any other man), you think they're desperate and "need" men for that?

Go back to your cave.

Protection? Just a dirty look from me if someone tries to mess with me sends them running...haha. Besides, I have biceps and self defense training.
 Urbanessa
Joined: 8/15/2007
Msg: 12
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Posted: 8/14/2008 2:06:05 PM
... on second thought: I do have two pairs of orange shoes. Three pairs if I count in the orange-and-white-and-dirt Chucks. Maybe those men I've dated have mistaken those orange shoes for red ... ?

*scratches head*
 Urbanessa
Joined: 8/15/2007
Msg: 14
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Posted: 8/14/2008 4:25:50 PM
... or maybe it was the pink shoes and the purple dress ...

*keeps wondering*
 Urbanessa
Joined: 8/15/2007
Msg: 15
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Posted: 8/14/2008 5:51:33 PM

I have the red dress, red shoes, I am tall, slim and have long hair. Ummm I have a great heart and think that I am fun and most think I am pretty personable. Money isn't love, but without it, I can't pay my bills. So I think I dress nice and have a good personality. Is there a reason you aren't supposed to dress nice and have a good personality?

Well, apparently you need to be short, overweight, short-haired, poor and badly-dressed to be allowed a good personality. If, on the other hand, you are tall, slim, long-haired, able to support yourself and dressing nicely by definition it is impossible that you have a nice personality or a good heart. It's really as simple as that. Or so I learn from those countless pity-postings.
 techgirl27
Joined: 9/5/2005
Msg: 17
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Posted: 8/14/2008 8:20:14 PM
A kick in the jewels gets any man down on the ground and writhing in pain! So watch out scoundrel, people are hunting you down. Stop wasting your time with your bad spelling (compleat?? more like you're making a "compleat" azz of yourself) and intimidating tactics, and accept the reality that you have nothing good to contribute.
 Urbanessa
Joined: 8/15/2007
Msg: 18
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Posted: 8/15/2008 9:52:23 AM
... or could it be the purple shoes and the leopard print dress ... ?

*still wondering*
 gentlemanforLady
Joined: 6/24/2008
Msg: 19
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Posted: 8/15/2008 2:19:13 PM
I can't agree with your stereotyping men and putting them into the same "what they want in a girl" box. There are men (as well as women) who are very superficial and only looking for their next conquest but that's not all of us. The other ones you missed completely in your question have just as many diverse interests as there are men that don't fall into the category you've lumped us in; maybe more if you count in those with split or multiple personality disorders.

Personality for me is more important than looks but I'm also looking for someone who takes care of themselves has a great sense of humor and enjoys life. The great thing about this brief moment we're flowing in the stream called time is, there's someone out there for everyone, if only we take the time to look around us and smell the coffee. Good luck!
 Stray__Cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 20
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Posted: 8/15/2008 6:53:28 PM
A girl who looks good in red....
Always looks good in bed.

You can wear your blue, black, or white.
But it's RED that makes me want to turn out the light.


Now ya know.
Next question.
 Urbanessa
Joined: 8/15/2007
Msg: 21
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Posted: 8/15/2008 8:29:45 PM
A girl who looks good in red....
Always looks good in bed.

You can wear your blue, black, or white.
But it's RED that makes me want to turn out the light.

Now ya know.
Next question.

So it's got to be red after all?
Damn.
*sighs*

Why didn't anyone tell me earlier?

*Grabs her wallet and heads for the mall*
 Urbanessa
Joined: 8/15/2007
Msg: 22
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Posted: 8/15/2008 8:45:16 PM
Wow, does that mean the red dress I am trying to buy has got to be green, too?

*scratches head*
 Miss W
Joined: 12/4/2006
Msg: 23
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Posted: 8/15/2008 9:15:14 PM

If I am wrong about the red nightgowns, let me know cause I just sent my VS order in...

Actually, you want black cuz my now dearly departed Grandma said so. wink:

She should know for she had one of the world's happiest marriages (incredible sayings) and passed away in the mid 80's (my grandfather passed in the late 50's and she never looked at another man) and told my older sisters who passed along this knowledge after I turned 25 (after Grandma looked under the table and down the hall for "little pitchers with big ears"): said that the secret to a successful sex life is having a black nightie.

If Grandma said it, I believe it for she was wise.
 clasact
Joined: 1/18/2008
Msg: 24
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Posted: 8/15/2008 9:15:21 PM
men want women have red dress, red shoes
Is THAT it? Sheesh, I don't have a red dress or red shoes.....
And here I thought the lil black dress went everywhere...damn it!
 Greyfeld
Joined: 1/11/2007
Msg: 26
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Posted: 8/16/2008 3:29:11 AM

Lolwut?


This man winz t3h int3rw3bz
 Urbanessa
Joined: 8/15/2007
Msg: 28
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Posted: 8/16/2008 7:22:10 PM

send me an e-mail with information on how I can order your product.

Are you a woman?
 Urbanessa
Joined: 8/15/2007
Msg: 29
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Posted: 8/17/2008 9:41:00 AM

I have been called a p*ssy-ass b1tch a few times in my life, but I don't think that really counts.

Indeed it doesn't unless your hair follicles are very much in touch with your inner woman...
Sorry, man.
 platypus_man
Joined: 8/29/2007
Msg: 30
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Posted: 8/17/2008 4:08:33 PM
OP, your profile has three pictures, and what appear to be 5 different women in them. Not sure where I'm heading with that, but it is confusing.
Men want women we find physically attractive. This varies a little, but if you want to attract more men, there is a formula; don't be overweight (you don't have to have a perfect 36-24-36 figure, but some vague resemblence to the classic hourglass would be nice instead of being 'round'), don't cut your hair too short, and yes, wear feminine clothing (form fitting dresses, skirts and the occasional form fitting slacks or capri's preferred over a woman who wears, oh, lets say flannel shirts and loose pants all the time).
Personality is nice, but can't make a man sexually interested if the physical attraction isn't there, while a great body will get us to overlook a so-so personality a bit longer.
 Henry L. Moon
Joined: 6/1/2008
Msg: 32
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Posted: 8/17/2008 4:38:51 PM
Alright Em...a healthy, confident woman with the attitude sets the style with whatever color she thought she MAKES look good....at the time she put it on!... .....If you need to run out to the mall every time a new color ( not found in nature ) of shoe comes out on the market....you aren't doing it right.....When you are a good enough customer, and you make their clothes look better just by trying them on....the mall comes to YOU!.....
 innocentantic
Joined: 7/22/2006
Msg: 33
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Posted: 8/17/2008 5:20:55 PM
Can a man mate with a personality? Merely wondering your take on that, OP. I'm not saying I'm shallow enough to only care about looks. I do value my own interests enough to not date someone I'm not physically attracted to. Everyone's not like this, though. Someone that is very close to me, recently married someone who he says has great personality. I don't see it. But people are different. Hang in there if you're not finding your type.
 Seavoyage
Joined: 1/18/2007
Msg: 34
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Posted: 8/18/2008 10:52:37 PM
Who said that's what men want. I didn't know someone made you the spokesperson for men. I like a woman in a red dress, red shoes, but I really don't care. If I am attracted and she comes in decent looking jeans and a t-shirt, then I don't care. If we get along, then I really don't care. Most men don't care about that and most women don't dress up like that.
 Stripeycat
Joined: 6/11/2008
Msg: 35
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Posted: 8/19/2008 12:06:26 AM
Why red? It's scientifically proven that RED goes faster. Red Ferrari vs green Ford Pinto. The red car is faster. Why do you think police cars have RED lights? Why are Fire Engines RED? To get to the fire FASTER. Ambulances are RED to get to the hospitals FASTER.

By the way, I like women with red hair.
 pokerjimmy
Joined: 11/10/2006
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Posted: 8/19/2008 9:34:43 AM
You choose men for good heart and personality? You would be the less then 1% of women that do then, but amoung the 99% that say that.

The younger the woman the more looks matter granted, but they always matter. Ask any short fat bald man that isn't wealthy how much play he gets.

To your question. We want looks we want first off. That means different things to different men or we'd all want the same woman and THEN we want the personality that alines with our own.
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