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 desert wildflower
Joined: 6/4/2008
Msg: 1
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I was just wondering if the people here thought there was a correlation between poeple who really attract the opposite sex a lot, opportunities all of the time, lots of interest in them etc. and being able to stay in a monogamous relationship? I`m not just talking physical attraction, I mean that dramatic drawing personality. ( Pleaser types that love making other people feel good)

It seems to me, that people who have that kind of magnetic aura and a strong sexual attraction factor , a charismatic and inviting personality,may have a bit more difficulty staying and working on a LTR. First, they have a lot more temptation and opportunity, because people are approaching them
all of the time. Plus, they may innately know that it is not difficult for them to met possible partners, therefore they aren`t desperate, and may not put the effort into the relationship to make things work when trouble occurs. They know that they won`t be alone unless they want to be.

I would think it is possible for this type of person to stay in a LTR, but they may have to try a bit harder, change their sparkly interactive behavior a bit to not put out the attraction vibes as much. Do you think this is something to consider when choosing to date someone? I mean what usually attracts you is also attracting a lot of other people.
So it might be a bit more to deal with.
 urinemyway
Joined: 5/4/2008
Msg: 2
Do attractive people have more trouble being monogamous?
Posted: 8/20/2008 11:06:29 AM
How attractive is Bill Clinton?
 Ferruginous
Joined: 5/12/2008
Msg: 3
Do attractive people have more trouble being monogamous?
Posted: 8/20/2008 11:26:11 AM
I think it has more to do with a person's morals, and their commitment to their partner, than their attractiveness.


If a person is committed to a monogamous relationship, they'll completelty ignore, or not even notice, any opportunities to cheat.
 geeleebee
Joined: 5/26/2008
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Do attractive people have more trouble being monogamous?
Posted: 8/20/2008 11:28:39 AM
'Attractive' is subjective. Monogamy has more to do with what's on the inside, rather than the outside.
 Beholder123
Joined: 6/25/2008
Msg: 5
Do attractive people have more trouble being monogamous?
Posted: 8/20/2008 11:35:47 AM
I dont think looks has ANYTHING to do with monagamy. I think cheating has to do with self esteem issues, actually.
 isoU
Joined: 6/15/2008
Msg: 6
Do attractive people have more trouble being monogamous?
Posted: 8/20/2008 11:36:34 AM
YES ... good looking ppl DO NOT NEED to be monogamous !!!!!!

They have more opportunity therefor more temptation.

Without a doubt good looking men sleep around more.
 duckling
Joined: 2/28/2006
Msg: 7
Do attractive people have more trouble being monogamous?
Posted: 8/20/2008 11:48:11 AM
I wouldn't know. I was just curious what the attractive people thought (and who thought they're attractive)!
 carolann0308
Joined: 12/9/2006
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Do attractive people have more trouble being monogamous?
Posted: 8/20/2008 12:34:49 PM
I would say monogamy is attached more to self esteem than looks. Ugly people cheat too.
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 9
Do attractive people have more trouble being monogamous?
Posted: 8/20/2008 12:35:28 PM
Most attractive women I have gone out with were severely monogamous. Some very attractive guys are just whores, but then what I have seen with others is that they just find some incredibly hot woman and stick together like glue. So it's relative. If anything it is the attractive guys the ones that sleep around more.
 Dean Moriarty
Joined: 2/7/2007
Msg: 10
Do attractive people have more trouble being monogamous?
Posted: 8/20/2008 12:36:24 PM
I'm just glad I am ugly.
 Last Chancee
Joined: 8/6/2008
Msg: 11
Do attractive people have more trouble being monogamous?
Posted: 8/20/2008 12:58:04 PM
a wise man said
"if you wanna be happy for the rest of your life don't make a pretty woman your wife so from my personal point of view get an ugly woman to marry you.." by Trini Lopez 1963
 WarmBrandie
Joined: 7/12/2008
Msg: 12
Do attractive people have more trouble being monogamous?
Posted: 8/20/2008 1:04:17 PM
I tend to agree with Zentral. It makes a lot of sense. Although no matter how unattractive someone is, someone will be attracted to them. No one is cheat proof.
 CEO of Hoagie Inc.
Joined: 7/30/2007
Msg: 13
Do attractive people have more trouble being monogamous?
Posted: 8/20/2008 1:14:37 PM
only if they are inherently a whore!
 fancynanci
Joined: 8/21/2007
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Do attractive people have more trouble being monogamous?
Posted: 8/20/2008 1:46:06 PM
No. Cheaters are the people who have trouble being monogamous.
 Beholder123
Joined: 6/25/2008
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Do attractive people have more trouble being monogamous?
Posted: 8/20/2008 2:05:36 PM
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ ya think?! LOL!!! I am sorry but that was too funny NOT to say something
 Blueeyedbaldman
Joined: 1/4/2008
Msg: 16
Do attractive people have more trouble being monogamous?
Posted: 8/20/2008 2:09:09 PM

I was just wondering if the people here thought there was a correlation between poeple who really attract the opposite sex a lot, opportunities all of the time, lots of interest in them etc. and being able to stay in a monogamous relationship?


Being able to stay in a monogamous relationship has nothing to do with looks. Its about morals.
 good kitty
Joined: 2/21/2008
Msg: 17
Do attractive people have more trouble being monogamous?
Posted: 8/20/2008 2:11:15 PM
OP:
No matter how hot you are, no matter how many opportunities you have, if you are a loyal person, you don't stray.

Period.
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 18
Do attractive people have more trouble being monogamous?
Posted: 8/20/2008 2:12:47 PM
Maybe ugly people cheat to feel attractive?
 good kitty
Joined: 2/21/2008
Msg: 19
Do attractive people have more trouble being monogamous?
Posted: 8/20/2008 2:33:50 PM
Yup. Fugly people cheat to feel better about themselves.
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 20
Do attractive people have more trouble being monogamous?
Posted: 8/20/2008 2:43:32 PM
I was just re-thinking this. My ex was exceptionally handsome and a cheater. I don't think it was that he had so many offers (but he did apparently find willing participants) I think he had three issues: no self-esteem, no brain cells above the belt and a winky with wanderlust. That just can't be a good combination.
 SweetnSassyNatureLover
Joined: 4/11/2008
Msg: 21
Do attractive people have more trouble being monogamous?
Posted: 8/20/2008 2:44:51 PM

No. Cheaters are the people who have trouble being monogamous.






Some of the questions that I read just are amazing!!!! OP are you seriously asking this question???

It has nothing to do with a persons looks as to whether or not they are faithful. It has to do with their character, who they are as a person. To imply that people who society considers (beauty is in the eye of the beholder and someone who cheats has NO beauty in my eyes) beautiful are more likely to cheat is ridiculous.
 trailgirl
Joined: 7/1/2008
Msg: 22
Do attractive people have more trouble being monogamous?
Posted: 8/20/2008 3:31:36 PM
Great answer, sweetjem!
What I find more common is very attractive people can be less likely to want to be in a committed relationship to start. But how one behaves once committed is completely irrelevant to looks.
 shamrockguy
Joined: 1/8/2008
Msg: 23
Do attractive people have more trouble being monogamous?
Posted: 8/20/2008 3:47:15 PM
Yes, attractive people have quite a bit more pressure on them from sources outside of their relationship. I am by no means an attractive man. I tend to date very attractive women. I have friends who women drool over as well. Believe me. I don't get hit on, and they got hit on constantly. Most of them have cheated. Sad, but true:(
Of course a person's moral fiber and there regard for their own principals are going to be factors. However, we are all human. All of us. We all are susceptible to temptation when it's there. When it isn't, well then we aren't:)
It's amazing how many people find themselves attractive isn't it?
 massageguy72
Joined: 3/21/2008
Msg: 24
Do attractive people have more trouble being monogamous?
Posted: 8/20/2008 3:59:34 PM
I agree with most people on here that just because a person is blessed with with good cells that molded them into an attractive person doesnt mean they are more likely to cheat. They probably get hit and have a better chance if they wanted to sleep with someone. Less likely to get shot down if they wanted it but it is a persons character. Im average looking and I used to be a DJ in a bar and cruise ship and I got hit on all the time too mainly cos I was the DJ. I had a girlfriend and this really hot blonde girl offered me anything I wanted to play her a song. I said I couldnt accept that offer cos I had a girlfriend but I would play her song. As well, Look at some of the hockey players out there that are ugly as hell, nose broken 5 times, long hair, no teeth and they get offered all the time. They cheat on their wives/ girlfriends all the time too. You just need to be rich and famous not good looking haha.
 boisegoodbadboy
Joined: 8/21/2005
Msg: 25
Do attractive people have more trouble being monogamous?
Posted: 8/20/2008 4:10:03 PM
nope...i dont have a problem being monogamous...thats what i want!!!

*now looks in mirror and admires my puss*
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