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 desert wildflower
Joined: 6/4/2008
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I was just wondering if the people here thought there was a correlation between poeple who really attract the opposite sex a lot, opportunities all of the time, lots of interest in them etc. and being able to stay in a monogamous relationship? I`m not just talking physical attraction, I mean that dramatic drawing personality. ( Pleaser types that love making other people feel good)

It seems to me, that people who have that kind of magnetic aura and a strong sexual attraction factor , a charismatic and inviting personality,may have a bit more difficulty staying and working on a LTR. First, they have a lot more temptation and opportunity, because people are approaching them
all of the time. Plus, they may innately know that it is not difficult for them to met possible partners, therefore they aren`t desperate, and may not put the effort into the relationship to make things work when trouble occurs. They know that they won`t be alone unless they want to be.

I would think it is possible for this type of person to stay in a LTR, but they may have to try a bit harder, change their sparkly interactive behavior a bit to not put out the attraction vibes as much. Do you think this is something to consider when choosing to date someone? I mean what usually attracts you is also attracting a lot of other people.
So it might be a bit more to deal with.
 BigDaddyJinx
Joined: 11/4/2006
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Do attractive people have more trouble being monogamous?
Posted: 8/20/2008 11:05:00 AM
Ok, saw it and HAD to speak up.

You can have a million dollar body/aura but still have a 10 cent brain.

If you are a charismatic/attractive/aura person, and you are in a relationship, you choose to stay in it or choose to indulge with some "strange". It's all about choice.

Just because people attach themselves to you or pursue you, doesn't mean you have to act on it. Nor should one have to "tone it down" so to speak, just to avoid the temptation. It's all gonna end up being their choice if they wanna be monagamous. This applies to the unattractive as well.

Being pretty doesn't mean you can't say "No".
 urinemyway
Joined: 5/4/2008
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Do attractive people have more trouble being monogamous?
Posted: 8/20/2008 11:06:29 AM
How attractive is Bill Clinton?
 Ferruginous
Joined: 5/12/2008
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Do attractive people have more trouble being monogamous?
Posted: 8/20/2008 11:26:11 AM
I think it has more to do with a person's morals, and their commitment to their partner, than their attractiveness.


If a person is committed to a monogamous relationship, they'll completelty ignore, or not even notice, any opportunities to cheat.
 geeleebee
Joined: 5/26/2008
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Posted: 8/20/2008 11:28:39 AM
'Attractive' is subjective. Monogamy has more to do with what's on the inside, rather than the outside.
 Beholder123
Joined: 6/25/2008
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Posted: 8/20/2008 11:35:47 AM
I dont think looks has ANYTHING to do with monagamy. I think cheating has to do with self esteem issues, actually.
 isoU
Joined: 6/15/2008
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Posted: 8/20/2008 11:36:34 AM
YES ... good looking ppl DO NOT NEED to be monogamous !!!!!!

They have more opportunity therefor more temptation.

Without a doubt good looking men sleep around more.
 duckling
Joined: 2/28/2006
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Posted: 8/20/2008 11:48:11 AM
I wouldn't know. I was just curious what the attractive people thought (and who thought they're attractive)!
 carolann0308
Joined: 12/9/2006
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Posted: 8/20/2008 12:34:49 PM
I would say monogamy is attached more to self esteem than looks. Ugly people cheat too.
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
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Posted: 8/20/2008 12:35:28 PM
Most attractive women I have gone out with were severely monogamous. Some very attractive guys are just whores, but then what I have seen with others is that they just find some incredibly hot woman and stick together like glue. So it's relative. If anything it is the attractive guys the ones that sleep around more.
 Dean Moriarty
Joined: 2/7/2007
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Posted: 8/20/2008 12:36:24 PM
I'm just glad I am ugly.
 zentral
Joined: 10/30/2005
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Posted: 8/20/2008 12:40:03 PM
Statistically, attractive people are more likely to cheat, based on research I've read about. The reason is that they are often subjected to more opportunities, advances, and temptations. Psychologically, some (and I believe this applies more to men than women) may feel entitlement, especially if their existing partner is less attractive than themselves.

Research has also shown that if a man is somewhat less attractive than his wife, he is less likely to cheat, tries harder to maintain a good relationship, and that in turn reduces the motivation for his wife to cheat as well! He may feel he has a great catch and may not do as well if he had to find someone else.

Of course, I don't know the sample sizes or methodology of these studies, so they could be full of "it" - but, they also seem to make some "sense."
 Last Chancee
Joined: 8/6/2008
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Posted: 8/20/2008 12:58:04 PM
a wise man said
"if you wanna be happy for the rest of your life don't make a pretty woman your wife so from my personal point of view get an ugly woman to marry you.." by Trini Lopez 1963
 WarmBrandie
Joined: 7/12/2008
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Posted: 8/20/2008 1:04:17 PM
I tend to agree with Zentral. It makes a lot of sense. Although no matter how unattractive someone is, someone will be attracted to them. No one is cheat proof.
 CEO of Hoagie Inc.
Joined: 7/30/2007
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Posted: 8/20/2008 1:14:37 PM
only if they are inherently a whore!
 fancynanci
Joined: 8/21/2007
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Posted: 8/20/2008 1:46:06 PM
No. Cheaters are the people who have trouble being monogamous.
 Beholder123
Joined: 6/25/2008
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Posted: 8/20/2008 2:05:36 PM
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ ya think?! LOL!!! I am sorry but that was too funny NOT to say something
 lh90716
Joined: 1/7/2006
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Posted: 8/20/2008 2:05:55 PM
no i dont think attractive people have a problem with cheating Unattractive as well as attractive people can cheat. Dont play your self and think unattractive people dont cheat. If u that insecure u shouldnt be dating. I dont think attractive people is the problem its u . I like dating attractive people. thats my choice. I also dated unattractive people an found out from the ones that i dated was bisexual, or sleeping around . i also date attractive people who didnt I married an attractive man an is now a widow. I liked waking up to attractiveness. It had no regrets
 Blueeyedbaldman
Joined: 1/4/2008
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Posted: 8/20/2008 2:09:09 PM

I was just wondering if the people here thought there was a correlation between poeple who really attract the opposite sex a lot, opportunities all of the time, lots of interest in them etc. and being able to stay in a monogamous relationship?


Being able to stay in a monogamous relationship has nothing to do with looks. Its about morals.
 good kitty
Joined: 2/21/2008
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Posted: 8/20/2008 2:11:15 PM
OP:
No matter how hot you are, no matter how many opportunities you have, if you are a loyal person, you don't stray.

Period.
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
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Posted: 8/20/2008 2:12:47 PM
Maybe ugly people cheat to feel attractive?
 good kitty
Joined: 2/21/2008
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Posted: 8/20/2008 2:33:50 PM
Yup. Fugly people cheat to feel better about themselves.
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
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Posted: 8/20/2008 2:43:32 PM
I was just re-thinking this. My ex was exceptionally handsome and a cheater. I don't think it was that he had so many offers (but he did apparently find willing participants) I think he had three issues: no self-esteem, no brain cells above the belt and a winky with wanderlust. That just can't be a good combination.
 Funny_Girl
Joined: 10/27/2005
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Posted: 8/20/2008 2:44:45 PM
This is bringing back some very cool memories for me...thanks!:)

When the Italiano stud muffin and I started dating, I did a wee bit of squirming over his looks, wondering what on earth this yummy, handsome, sexy man saw in me, and how was I gonna keep him tied up? He works in a very large city where there's thousands of hot, beautiful women with money, lol, (I was a poor girl!) and coupled with the way he has to dress up for work, I was seriously thinking there wasn't a chance in hell he'd be around too long...so I decided to just enjoy this yummy ride.
So anyway, one day I finally let a lil of my angst out. I said "I bet you get hit on all damn day long, don't you"? Well goodness, that man starting laughing and kept laughing, and I'm thinking "wth"?? Finally he said, "nope...never. I think I must scare them or something...is it the "bad boy" look"?? OK, then it was my turn to laugh! I said "no, darlin. I don't think that's it...that's what would make them hit on you!"
So I was very puzzled. This man is off the charts sexy, smart, polished, confident...what was going on?

Now that I know him a hell of a lot better, I realize exactly what that was all about. He'd been married for 18 years prior to meeting me, and even tho he was quite unhappily married, these women were picking up on his "back off" vibe; he was a committed man that doesn't cheat, which means his vibe wasn't very too very inviting. :)

You can believe his sweet ass is still tied up. This man ain't going nowhere!
 SweetnSassyNatureLover
Joined: 4/11/2008
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Posted: 8/20/2008 2:44:51 PM

No. Cheaters are the people who have trouble being monogamous.






Some of the questions that I read just are amazing!!!! OP are you seriously asking this question???

It has nothing to do with a persons looks as to whether or not they are faithful. It has to do with their character, who they are as a person. To imply that people who society considers (beauty is in the eye of the beholder and someone who cheats has NO beauty in my eyes) beautiful are more likely to cheat is ridiculous.
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