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Joined: 3/21/2008
Msg: 5
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Im confused and need some help.Page 1 of 2    (1, 2)
I've had enough dating experience to say this with full confidence.
We make time for the people we want to spend time with.
And in all cases, we do EXACTLY what we want to do, but sometimes are too chicken sh1t to say that's what we want.

Date other women.

But, dude, she's not that into you.
She said she wants a friend. In datespeak that means "thanks, but you are not boyfriend material".
Do you really want to be romantically involved with a woman who isn't that into you? Or says she wants a friend?
That sir, is a recipe for hurt feelings.

Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 8
Im confused and need some help.
Posted: 8/24/2008 6:20:56 PM
Life is easy if you keep it simple.

WHY she jerks you around, doesn't matter.

It never does.

What matters is, WHAT she is doing. What she is doing is, disrespecting you.

Forget why, look at what. She may change down the road, but most people act naturally, and give you what they are. You won't change her, so move along to find someone who doesn't jerk you around. When you find someone who treats you respectfully, you won't ask why then,'ll already know why :) That's why its not important to ask why.
Joined: 3/21/2008
Msg: 11
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Im confused and need some help.
Posted: 8/24/2008 10:27:10 PM

Then my thing about it is why not tell me the truth?

because the truth is:
a) she doesn't know how to say "thanks but no thanks"
b) you are convenient, because you want HER.

Man, if you want to spend time with her, and she wants you there, do it, nothing we say is going to stop you.
But realize, if she's said "I wanna be friends" - she is NOT the girl that is going to be a LTR for you.

Believe me, I've done a LOT of dating, (as well as former marriage) as has my bf, and when we met, we KNEW this was something we wanted to pursue. You really DO just know.
If that feeling isn't mutual, you have to keep looking.
Otherwise, it just gets ugly.
Joined: 3/21/2008
Msg: 21
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Im confused and need some help.
Posted: 8/31/2008 3:16:51 PM

But what woman doesn't enjoy the chase.? The trill that they have someone coming after then. I have been dating other people but the more I walk away the more she comes after me.

as my dear friend says all the time... "cuz yur my b*tch".
You come when you are called.
She's attention seeking. That's all.

Move along now hun.
Or hushup about it and torture yourself.
But it's not attractive to complain about a situation, and yet do nothing to change it.
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