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 Sapphireeyes
Joined: 1/13/2008
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Moreso, cause I know Im better now than I have ever been before. If someone has a low sexual appetite I dont think we would get along at all.
 arwen52
Joined: 3/13/2008
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Posted: 8/29/2008 3:26:51 PM
No, sex is *more* important to me than it once was. I put up with a man who was selfish in bed way too long. If someone isn't a good & generous lover, they're outta here!
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 8
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Posted: 8/29/2008 3:30:50 PM
I enjoy the full dimensions of a woman now more than at any prior time in my life, and while I would happily add several ladies to the mix, only one of those relationships would be a sexual one. That would be the most important one, and yes, its sexual side would be highly important to me.
 clasact
Joined: 1/18/2008
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Posted: 8/29/2008 3:54:01 PM

I`m just curious how aging has effected your sexual appetite, and if good and satisfying sex would be considered imperitive to you in a relationship
It hasn't affected it at all. Yes, it is imperitive to me in a relationship, very.


Would you consider a sexless or less frequent or lower quality sex life now , which you might not have considered when you were younger?
In a word, "no" I would not consider it.
 Sapphireeyes
Joined: 1/13/2008
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Posted: 8/29/2008 4:43:54 PM
lol desert I can see alot running to post there aint nothing wrong with their plumbing!!!!!!!! I doubt that as many have an issue as what you think. I have enountered very few who seem to think there might be an issue and normally they are upfront about it.
 clasact
Joined: 1/18/2008
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Posted: 8/29/2008 4:44:09 PM

Wow, only one response from a man.
Hee, hee I noticed that too.
They are unusually quiet, I bet they will post soon.

What say you, men of Pof? lol
 clasact
Joined: 1/18/2008
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Posted: 8/29/2008 5:44:49 PM
^^^^ See there, he's already rolled over and gone to sleep.

Wanna sandwich too?
 heygirl49
Joined: 6/10/2008
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Posted: 8/29/2008 6:14:21 PM
Sex is still important to me. I hope it will be as long as I have a pulse!
 Optimistic for 2008
Joined: 5/2/2008
Msg: 22
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Posted: 8/29/2008 8:01:02 PM
Sapphireeyes, you took the thoughts, feelings and words right out of my head and mouth....
 ankkka
Joined: 8/29/2007
Msg: 26
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Posted: 8/30/2008 6:16:09 AM
Well...sex never was important for me...
It was something coming to me naturally...when I was in love...
And it was all the stuff important ...starting from smile...his arms...kisses...and the rest was instinct...primitive instinct...with wonderful feelings...
At my age...I feel the same...
 justme1201
Joined: 7/22/2007
Msg: 27
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Posted: 8/30/2008 7:09:25 AM
Definitely more important to me now. And that's as far as I'm taking this answer.. lol
 ankkka
Joined: 8/29/2007
Msg: 28
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Posted: 8/30/2008 8:07:07 AM
Funny...I never try to look sexy!
Be yourself...natural...it is me!
 ankkka
Joined: 8/29/2007
Msg: 31
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Posted: 8/30/2008 10:38:56 AM
noangel......It is...I can't say better...
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 33
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Posted: 8/30/2008 11:33:01 AM
[I would absolutely love to say this without question but focussed on men....caught my attention (lol)]
Thank you! I love your "name", the images it evokes.
 TxSippiGal
Joined: 9/30/2007
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Posted: 8/30/2008 1:48:39 PM
One thing I have noticed recently that I have just started thinking about is how my life has changed at 55 from like 25.

I will say that yes sex is as important to me has it was 30 years ago but there is a difference... many times now at my age the frequency has depended upon mine and my partner's responsibilites to those who are depending upon us. That is a huge change from 30 year ago when I have very little responsibilities nor accountability to others.

I think for the over 45 crowd that sex is a smaller part of our lives but still very important but we have other priorities that come first many times at least they do for me.

I had this end a promising relationship I had a few months ago because he lived about 45 miles from me and between our responsiblities to others plus our job responsibilites sometimes we could not get together for a date for weeks at a time. That sure puts a damper on things.. but I don't think I would want to change my life right now.

I am currently begining to see a man in an nonexclusive relationship who like me has a lot of responsibilities and we have to steal away to spend time together..but we are both willing to wait in lieu of our other responsiblities. So I guess it works for us. We are making plans to spend a weekend away together where sex will become a priority but that won't happen for awhile because of the nature of our work and our responsibilites to others.

I guess for me this works because we both understand the other's responsibilities.
 ReadMeAPoem
Joined: 7/26/2008
Msg: 36
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Posted: 8/30/2008 3:35:01 PM
You know, I find it so interesting that the Viagra and Cialis commercials show all kinds of true intimacy - snuggling, handholding, looking deep into each other's eyes - and no emphasis on "wham, bam, thank you ma'am." It seems to me that if more people engaged on those preliminaries, there might be less of a need for those medicines. I miss the intimacy, the affection, and the touching - I wouldn't get into a booty call type relationship - I've been through that. Sex would be wonderful if I knew the person had true affection for me - otherwise, I'll just wait.
 hard starboard
Joined: 6/21/2008
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Posted: 8/31/2008 8:33:32 AM
Sex is only important to me when I'm getting some.
 sedusa
Joined: 6/13/2008
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Posted: 8/31/2008 2:37:59 PM
When talking about its level of importance I would have to say its not nearly as important to me as it once was. Having sex is easy, making love is everything!

My appetite in essence hasnt changed. If and when I make love with someone again it will be good because I believe in discussing even sexual needs and desires. Although, I must say we will know each other quite well by the time that point comes to pass and will have no inhibitions in the communication department.

The value of a relationship for me is more emotional, intimate, etc than sex is. Love for me is everything! If I fell in love with a man who for some reason could no longer have intimate relations then I could deal with that. Im not saying I would prefer to not have sex, but it isnt whats most important to me.

Age hasnt changed my feelings on this matter at all.
 sedusa
Joined: 6/13/2008
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Posted: 8/31/2008 2:41:57 PM
I realized I just contradicted myself in my previous post:

I would have to say its not nearly as important to me as it once was...

Age hasnt changed my feelings on this matter at all.

What I meant to say was that sex has never been as important to me as love has been, and that hasnt changed with age.

I use to think that having great sex was a big deal for a LTR, but its not anymore. Its now part of having a LTR thats full of love.
 What Grinds My Gears
Joined: 8/22/2008
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Posted: 8/31/2008 7:12:37 PM
Here is one guy who will admit it: Sex is no longer important to me (I lost interest 3 years ago), but I still enjoy a woman's touch - holding hands, dancing, etc.
Ladies, I am sure when you were younger many of you complained your husband "would not leave you alone" . And now that your sex drive is high, often ours is not (life can be cruel).
 professora
Joined: 7/28/2008
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Posted: 8/31/2008 8:57:14 PM
Sapphireeyes: regarding your post:
" If someone has a low sexual appetite I dont think we would get along at all."
I agree with this statement. So far I have been lucky. If the appetite is not there, it could be a major red flag for a successful relationship.

For people with low desire, they are better suited for the same. My experience in research and personal interviews, confirms what you wrote.
 professora
Joined: 7/28/2008
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Posted: 8/31/2008 9:02:56 PM
Ranran18: absolutely true. there is a great deal of research that strongly suggests that sex decreases the aging process. It is not only the sexual intimacy but the skin contact that is so important for us. (oh...so much for this intellectual babble.....)

you wrote: "It's more important. Sex has been proven to be REALLY healthy for a person. Here's to all you health nuts out there!"
 professora
Joined: 7/28/2008
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Posted: 8/31/2008 9:07:12 PM
50Love_
Regarding the 75 y/o and the 68 yr old: sex is still important if the interest is there. I interview people all the time in the work I do. However, sadly I see couples where one is interested and the other is not. This is not only true for hetersexual couples, but i hear similar complaints from long time gay couples.

Matching sexual interest is important if the relationship is going to succeed happily.
 professora
Joined: 7/28/2008
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Posted: 8/31/2008 9:37:04 PM
Sugahsouth- LOVE your spirit. I have heard from men (though I cant confirm this with women) that women like you dont exist! I was talking to a friend recently and he is fit, successful and very active but insists he has never been with a women who was excited or eager for intimacy. You would be his type (i am not making a match...lol...) but I will read him this post & let him know to keep searching.
 professora
Joined: 7/28/2008
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Posted: 8/31/2008 9:46:11 PM
To spartalicious - Love it! well put...

"Remember ladies it's much easier for a man to leave a woman that doesn't make the bedroom an exciting place than it is to leave because she can't make a gourmet meal. "
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