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 Seafarer227
Joined: 11/8/2007
Msg: 3
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How to treat a lady
So, uh... Queens like whores and whore like queens, right?



I gotta tell ya ending your post with "enough said". That's awesome. You mean we should all read what you have to say and take it seriously but you're not the slightest bit interested in anything that anyone else has to say. Way to get a conversation going there, champ. Bravo.
 ladyc4
Joined: 2/14/2006
Msg: 4
How to treat a lady
Posted: 10/3/2008 12:28:39 PM

Chivlary is for fat guys.

See, you can't even SPELL "chivalry".
Dude, are you for real? Did your last relationship partner beat you around the head and shoulders a lot and damage your brain?
Cindy O
 Seafarer227
Joined: 11/8/2007
Msg: 5
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Posted: 10/3/2008 1:01:45 PM

And whats this Queens like whores, and whores like Queens?
So, women are whores, and men who are gentlemen are some kind of gay Queens? is that what you mean, Sea farer? Please tell me I'm misunderstanding that remark.
Wow, yeah I guess that's one way to take what I said. You'd be completely wrong but you could take it that way.
 davidsauvignon
Joined: 2/6/2008
Msg: 7
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Posted: 10/3/2008 1:18:43 PM
Wow! I believe this thread is going to be a whole lot more interesting than I initially thought.

Carry on......please.





~ds~
 ladyc4
Joined: 2/14/2006
Msg: 8
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Posted: 10/3/2008 1:29:50 PM
Truly chivalrous gentlemen and ladies are that way because they were bred and brought up that way, trained to the Golden Rule. It isn't an act you put on, it isn't a ploy to impress the opposite gender, it's a state of mind. Trying to explain that to those whose upbringing was substandard is like trying to teach a pig to sing opera...it can't be done. You either get it or you don't. And because there are also women who never learned the true essence of chivalry, there will be those who DO go after the so called "bad boys". Don't hate them, they provide employment for law enforcement, the family court system and TV shrinks.
Cindy O
How to treat a lady
Posted: 10/3/2008 1:40:27 PM
How about a hot fudge sundae? That is my favorite treat.
 Seafarer227
Joined: 11/8/2007
Msg: 10
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Posted: 10/3/2008 1:42:45 PM

Wow! I believe this thread is going to be a whole lot more interesting than I initially thought.

Carry on......please.





~ds~
LOL... Just you wait until the moderators get a hold of it.
 Fefe_FXDL
Joined: 2/24/2007
Msg: 12
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Posted: 10/3/2008 2:10:48 PM

Chivlary is for fat guys.


That explains men to me more than anything else ever has.

The men that act like jerks do it because they get away with it. Women have let them. Women have excused boorish behavior from men they thought were worth having based on superficial attributes. If a guy doesn't have to try or make an effort to get a girl...he WON'T!

Age plays a role...generally speaking, youth chases beauty, but with age comes wisdom, and as we mature we seek maturity in others more than the superficial things. That is not gender specific.

But I ask the women out there to consider: what did we "teach" the men of our youth, when we let them get away with being rude to us because we were only dating them as a fashion accessory? And now we expect them to know how to act like gentleman. They don't know how.

I say, give the guys a chance. I once got a long haired biker type to help me with my coat...so it can be done. But if they can't be taught, then move on!
 GoneSailinBabe
Joined: 7/6/2008
Msg: 13
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Posted: 10/3/2008 2:11:44 PM
Ok I"m throwing a penalty flag for this one....


Getting tired is for fat guys


While also LMAO!!!
I don't care who you are that chit was funny!


No, no, no I'm not approving of the childish manners, only saying it made me laugh and spit a wee bit of soda bubbles on my monitor.

OK?
Everybody laugh now!

Chivalry is lovely. Truly. And it IS nice that you are a gentleman. It may surprise you to know I also open the doors for men AND women - it's respectful if my hands are free and theirs are not.

Period.

Some common courtesy practiced amongst all members of our society might result in a much more pleasureable environment where everyone was delited and nay - eager to be sexual and giving....

"All you need is love....."
If spreading a little gets you some....isn't that an ok thing?


lalalalalalalalala
 briargate
Joined: 8/18/2008
Msg: 14
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Posted: 10/3/2008 2:16:50 PM
I remember years ago when womens' lib was just starting to get a head of steam. My dad was of course still holding doors open for women, as he always had done growing up in New Orleans. One day this young woman stopped at the door and just glared at him. He knew what was up. She was indignant about the door. So he glared back and said, "Oh yeah?" and let the door slam shut in her face. We all laughed at home when he told us about it.
 GoneSailinBabe
Joined: 7/6/2008
Msg: 16
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Posted: 10/3/2008 2:25:49 PM

And I always thought it meant I was to become a knight, wear shining armor, ride a great steed, slay dragons, joust at the tournament, and perhaps be worthy of my lady’s favor (the token given to the knight from his lady - let’s not get our minds in the gutter now).


Please!!! If you would do this wearing a leather loin thong and be contributing with some of that "fake sucking up" I've been hearing about we may be able to negotiate a blow job, or two but that would only be until marriage.

Then you know the drill!
It's De Walt or nothing!

Be warned I have a chastity belt and I know how to unlock it!
 GoneSailinBabe
Joined: 7/6/2008
Msg: 17
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Posted: 10/3/2008 4:01:49 PM

only Broke Shields would be the only legimitate lady in US.


This does not make ANY sense in American or Spanish.
Comprende?

Wow.
Broke Shields.
Like from Blue Lagoon right?


Some folks should not reproduce.
 Closing Shop
Joined: 7/24/2008
Msg: 18
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Posted: 10/3/2008 4:06:46 PM

Some common courtesy practiced amongst all members of our society might result in a much more pleasureable environment


Ding ding! Niceties shouldn't be restricted to one gender whether giving or receiving.
 davidsauvignon
Joined: 2/6/2008
Msg: 19
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Posted: 10/3/2008 4:57:41 PM

My grandparents raised me, and in doing so, showed my why and how, to treat women.

The word in this sentence from the OP that jumped out at me the most, was "why". Why would there be a "why", unless it was a reason or means for 'something'?


So, OP goes on to answer the why of the "why"....



Show the lady you are with some attenetion, and you will go far in her book.

Why be chivalrous? "To go far in a lady's book." So what is the difference between being chivalrous in order to go far vs. behaving in any other manner whatsoever to go far? Doesn't it all really depend on the lady? Afterall, per the OP, it was his grandparents who 'taught' it to him and consequently, he 'learned' the behavior. I think we all have the capacity to learn it....no matter what age. Just depends on the lady and if it is a high enough priority for her and whether the gentleman values her enough to learn it (if he hasn't already). Just the same as if she has a hobby or interest she would like him to learn so they can enjoy it together. If he is willing to learn it, it's because he values her and wants to please her.

Caution though, is the better part of valor....leopards and spots and all that. Some men would view it as, "she's trying to change me" and resist. Others will view it as "she means the world to me and I want to meet her needs and please her on whatever level I can (while staying true to myself).

Just MO.





~ds~
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 22
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Posted: 10/3/2008 5:45:16 PM

To me there is no such thing as an ugly lady, just a lady that acts ugly.

My exhusband was quite stunning in appearance. One day I looked at him and without so much as a thought to censor what was about to come out of my mouth, it happened. I said, "You know, I finally realize what ugly from the inside-out means." I didn't stay married too long after that. (He wasn't very attractive on the inside at that stage, I don't think he understands the concept nearly 9 years later ~ poor soul.)

~OP~ Wonderful post. Chivalry is, indeed, a wonderful thing. Kudos to your grandparents and to you for not following some current trends/mindsets that those things don't matter anymore. They matter and a true lady will always appreciate the kindnesses they are offered!
 OldFolkie
Joined: 6/8/2008
Msg: 23
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Posted: 10/3/2008 6:21:44 PM
Chivalry is not a trick for getting lucky on your first date. It is, in the medieval sense, a code of ethics:

"a. marked by honor, generosity, and courtesy b: marked by gracious courtesy and high-minded consideration especially to women" (Merriam-Webster's definition).

Nowhere in the medieval code, or indeed in the modern concept, of chivalry is there a word about expectations for reward (in the sense of this thread being able to "score"). Chivalry was, and is, it's own reward. It is all about self-respect and your personal sense of honor.

I'll freely confess that I see less and less of that concept of honor and ethics in the world we live in. Maybe I'm just getting old, but I was raised to believe in honor AND chivalry, in its classic sense. I am not chivalrous because I think that behavior will get me laid, I am chivalrous because it is the RIGHT thing to do.

By the way, the idea of the Neanderthal's post above that chivalry is only for nice guys is hardly new. Women have been kicking guys to the curb for being chivalrous for a long time. The song "Greensleeves" was first recorded in writing in 1580, but the melody and the sense of the lyrics are much older.

Alas my love, ye do me wrong
to cast me off disc0urteously:
And I have loved you so long,
Delighting in your companie.

Greensleeves was all my joy
Greensleeves was my delight:
Greensleees was my heart of gold,
And who but my Ladie Greensleeves.

I have been readie at your hand,
to grant what ever you would crave
I have both waged life and land,
your love and good will for to have.

Refrain:

Thou couldst desire no earthly thing,
But still thou hadst it readily,
Thy musicke still to play and sing,
And yet thou wuldst not love me.
Refrain:
Greensleeves now farewel adieu
God I pray to prosper thee,
For I am still thy lover true
Come once again and love me.

Just sayin'......
 Closing Shop
Joined: 7/24/2008
Msg: 26
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Posted: 10/3/2008 11:48:55 PM
What does it tell you about the women who apparently love men very much, some of which are apparently on this website, but never write a single line of praise?


Um... maybe it says that the women don't feel the need to start threads to pat themselves on the back for treating men as humans.
 Closing Shop
Joined: 7/24/2008
Msg: 30
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Posted: 10/4/2008 3:17:20 PM

I've been reading the forums for over a year, and I haven't seen a single thread that was started by a woman that speaks well of men, all men.


I don't think there are any women who think "all men" are divine creatures. Likewise, I don't think there are any men who think all women are divine creatures. I'll reiterate that this thread is not praising women, it's praising men who act a certain way toward women. I don't recall any threads from either gender with the sole purpose of praising the other.
 Closing Shop
Joined: 7/24/2008
Msg: 32
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Posted: 10/4/2008 6:00:02 PM
've been reading the forums for over a year, and I haven't seen a single thread that was started by a woman that speaks well of men, all men.


Ok, I took your challenge and posted such a thread. While it's not a praise of all men, it praises some of the things men do. It's in the relationship section:

Things Men Do That I Really Dig
 WanderingRain
Joined: 3/9/2008
Msg: 35
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Posted: 10/4/2008 8:26:43 PM
Chivarly is alright and all that... but if you wanna really study someone, I mean... REALLY study someone...
You have to look at how he treats people around him... not necessarily you.
He's out to impress you.
But he's not out to impress the waiter serving you.
So if you want to get REAL insight, go look at how they treat others: cooks, waiters, bellboys, other restaurant patrons... and also... if they speak ill of others way too easily: their ex's, parents, children, people from work you don't even know... Do they get impatient or complain way too easily about how they are treated in restaurants? These are better signs to look out for.
He may be opening doors for you, but if he lets it slam on that grandma behind you... that's no bueno!

My dos centimos.


 Closing Shop
Joined: 7/24/2008
Msg: 36
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Posted: 10/4/2008 8:30:09 PM
It was not a challenge. I was simply stating a fact. But thanks.


You're the one who deserves the thanks- it was a great idea.
 davidsauvignon
Joined: 2/6/2008
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Posted: 10/4/2008 9:01:51 PM

^^^^ People can talk until they are blue in the face, but it is the actions and how they treat others that tell me the truth about them.


Bingo! Including the OP, correct? I mean, I'm not saying I don't believe he is a true "Southern Gentleman"....nor do I believe he is. All there is to go on, is his words in his OPost. Does it make it so? Nope. Those he meets will have that ultimate evaluation.....just as any who meet me or anyone else....despite any threads I/we start proclaiming anything.




~ds~
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 40
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Posted: 10/5/2008 12:54:10 AM

I've been reading the forums for over a year, and I haven't seen a single thread that was started by a woman that speaks well of men, all men.

Then you clearly are either reading with jaded eyes or you are missing some very enlightening, loving threads. Sometimes, it's the reader, not the poster who is missing something. JMO

~OT~ This thread just happens to be titled in a "pro woman" manner. There are certainly many threads in which each gender praises the opposite gender. You just have to catch them prior to mysogamists or misdandry friends auto-delete them.
 SkycladnScottish
Joined: 9/25/2008
Msg: 41
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Posted: 10/5/2008 1:03:18 AM
Awesome post dude! Of course I like to think of myself as old fashioned when it comes to mannerisms so maybe I'm biased.

Now, if only a woman would write a similar post about women can treat men without some of the ugly cattiness... actually I think it works both ways in just about the same manner, there are just tweaks. I mean if a bunch of women called me pretty, I wouldn't mind but... I'm not gonna wear a dress for it. Besides, they're called kilts! :p

 TheyCallMeMrAwesome
Joined: 7/27/2008
Msg: 43
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Posted: 10/5/2008 4:52:33 PM
Op, was raised by my parents like you were your grandparents, it is true, Chivalry isn't just for someone you look in hopes of something, it is a way of life which I strive for. I was raised different from a lot of people I know. I was raised on Classic music like sinatra and some rock n roll, I was raised to respect women and men EQUALLY and as individuals. I listen and although I don't have a ton of lady friends, the ones I have really enjoy my company.

Chivalry ain't dead, it is just underpracticed.
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