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 GeneralizingNow
Joined: 10/10/2007
Msg: 5
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If you don't want to be caught in the tug back and forth, you need to tell her what you want, exactly, from the relationship. Basically, an ultimatum, and stick to your guns. It sounds to me like she is usuing you as a fallback guy for emotional reassurance, and doesn't want you for a BF, for whatever reason. IMO, it's not fair to you, but only you can decide if it's ok by you.
 Diadora
Joined: 6/16/2008
Msg: 7
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Ok ladies give me your advice or opinion
Posted: 10/8/2008 4:23:59 PM
Time to get together for a weekend and have THE CONVERSATION.
Who are we. What are we together. What are each of us afraid of.
Do we want something specific from each other. Do we want to put and end to this relationship, continue as is or redefine.

In other words look at each other and open up.
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
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Ok ladies give me your advice or opinion
Posted: 10/8/2008 4:36:04 PM
Argh. She stops sleeping with you when she finds someone else she wants to be in a relationship with. I see nothing wrong with that. She calls you back when that relationship has ended. Again, I see nothing wrong with that.

You had a fight 2 mo ago.

Decide what you want. Do you want to do the yo-yo thing with her? If not, you need to explain to her that you can't do that anymore. You either have a relationship with her (you've said you love one another) or you have a friendship with her and stop sleeping with her.
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