He says he wants to find a woman to love
How did you respond when he said this?
but at the same time he seems to put his gaurd up when I think I'm starting to get "close".
Get "close" how? You've been out a couple of times and haven't seen him lately. When is it you believe you are getting close? What are you saying to him and how does he reply that seems like you're getting close? What does he say or do that you perceive as his guard going up?
If he is asking you if you are seeing another guy, you must not be exclusive....free to date others....right? And he is, too....right? If so, what makes you think you're getting close? It sounds like you are friends (at the most) based on the limited info.