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 Ferruginous
Joined: 5/12/2008
Msg: 4
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I don't see it as arrogant. (although, that may depend on the manner in which you rejectyed them)
I'd consider it to be responsible on your part for not dating someone, or looking for a relationship, while you weren't in a the best position to have a relationship.
 DreamDancer44
Joined: 2/19/2008
Msg: 6
Was I being arrogant??
Posted: 10/10/2008 12:45:19 PM
I'm slightly confused. Did these women approach you and ask you out or did you assume they were interested?
The girls might not have known you were so down on your luck. You can be near the building it doesn't mean you were living there, for all they know, you could have been a volunteer.
Either way why are you still thinking about this? It's behind you. You said you can be arrogant so you already know to work on changing that.
 Diadora
Joined: 6/16/2008
Msg: 9
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Was I being arrogant??
Posted: 10/10/2008 2:06:20 PM
No, I don't think you were being arrogant. I think you had your head on right and had taken the first step in taking care of yourself.
Now, as far as the women. This won't be true of all of them BUT many are looking for a project. They see the men at the shelter as possible projects. The ground between them will never be even. That is to say they can be the "giver" and feel good and that is a rush for them. The really sad part is often these project relationship fall apart when the man does get himself together. And the women moves on to another "project".
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