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 windloverr
Joined: 2/29/2008
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Big difference between a high sex drive, and being easy. If by "high sex drive" you mean you have sex with multiple men in a short period of time; then you are certainly going to limit your prospects for a "relationship." If, however, you mean that once involved with someone you want sex daily, or multiple times daily, this is NOT a relationship problem. My ex and I went months before we only had sex once in a day; and well over a year before we missed a day. We were late 20's early 30's at the time; and together for 20 years; so a high sex drive is definitely NOT a killer by itself; however, disrespecting yourself, and being easy, is.
 ron385
Joined: 10/31/2005
Msg: 5
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Posted: 10/21/2008 3:13:24 AM
It's fine as long as you don't jump every guy that comes your way. Is this what you do? If it is, you may need to seek counseling. Or maybe come by my house(just kidding). But you may have a pathological need for sexual fullfillment deriving from some deep seated psychological need for something that's missing from your life, or a need not fullfilled from your youth Just my OP
 867love
Joined: 3/16/2006
Msg: 8
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Posted: 10/21/2008 3:40:06 AM
dear PENTHOUSE:
 jojoaus
Joined: 10/28/2007
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Posted: 10/21/2008 3:57:15 AM
Well at 44 i'm no girl but... the high sex drive is surely there. I am in a great relationship, 100% monogamous on both sides and as my bloke said last saturday- he's never had a woman who wants to f*** him so much and how he loves that... So maybe its an age thing??? Young women who truly love sex are seen as easy because they enjoy physical intimacy... never mind if its only with someone they care for?

I do think there are double standards tho. Woman who loves sex= nympho hornbag. Man who loves sex=jack-the-lad good 'ol boy. Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!!
 grizzelda
Joined: 6/25/2006
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Posted: 10/21/2008 5:26:48 AM
Well, I have a very high sex drive for a girl..


How do you know this? I love it when women decide that all other women are broken compared to them because they get horny. You know nothing about other women's sexuality and libido, so this statement is ridiculous at best. To be sexually attracted to someone is one thing, to act upon that feeling with everyone that ticks that box is potentially foolish behaviour. So do you have a higher sex drive or do you practice risky behaviour more often than most girls that have the same "sex drive"?

VVVVVVVVV I wasnt going to go there, but that does seem to be the motivating factor with most younger girls. I also think that they get a kick out of the "power" that they have when it comes to sexuality, but they dont really understand the dynamic differences between males and females emtionally when it comes to sex.
 deerdog1
Joined: 12/29/2006
Msg: 11
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Posted: 10/21/2008 5:32:21 AM
Question is ...do you crave sex because you have a high sex drive ?? or is it a thing where you crave the attention of lots of men ...If it is the former and you can find one guy to give yourself to ..both you and he will be ecstatically happy for ever ..if you want sexual attention from every guy who catches your eye ..well you got issues ...also even if you have one guy and yall screw each other s eyes out ..if you flirt with others he will question your fidelity

if you are not ready for a relationship and just want to play the field ...well YOU ARE EASY...accept it ..but so what most guys your age are easy also ... when you want one guy ..you will find one guy
 sxyvirgo
Joined: 7/26/2006
Msg: 12
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Posted: 10/21/2008 5:36:19 AM
It can definitely be a relationship problem...while men are quick to say that they can't find a woman who likes it as much as they do, sometimes when they DO they feel like they can't keep up. It's at that point where the guy may start to put you down because he feels inadequate!

Just be prepared that not all men will have the same drive as you...! So, be prepared for a little different relationship dynamic - you may end up having to "pursue" him by asking for sex...learn how to do so in a way that gives him a way to turn you down without making a big deal over it. Remember, it's rare for couples to always want sex at exactly the same time. Whether it's the man or the woman wanting it more, it still has to be worked out between you...or you have to know when your needs just aren't being met and end the relationship.
 edster1224
Joined: 2/27/2008
Msg: 13
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Posted: 10/21/2008 6:57:22 AM
I have a high sex drive myself and I love to date women and have relationship with women who do as well.

Ed
 colquittman
Joined: 3/25/2008
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Posted: 10/21/2008 8:04:08 AM
well my x-girl freinds has got one and we just broke up last night and that is one thing that was brought up.. i have always known that she has a high sex drive and during the past 2 weeks we havent done much of anything. well i asked her if there was someone else and she let me know it wasent that. it was just too much stress on her at the time.. so ladies if your man knows you have a high sex drive and things arent going the way it usally does let them know.. or they might think there is someone else in the picture takeing care or their business.
also a girl having a high sex drive does not make them cheap..
and yes you can still have a meaningful relationship.. even with a high sex drive
 namrael
Joined: 8/10/2008
Msg: 16
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Posted: 10/21/2008 8:43:43 AM
I've had meaningful relationships, and I have quite a high sex drive myself. This was one of the things that made my relationship with a man of similarly high sex drive work so well; we were both quite the naked time enthusiasts, and loved sex together. IME, yo might not get on so well with a man with a lower sex drive, but there are many men who would be thrilled to date a woman with a higher sex drive. You just need to find one of them. :)
 duckling
Joined: 2/28/2006
Msg: 17
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Posted: 10/21/2008 8:54:57 AM
As others have said, "a high sex drive and cheap or easy aren't the same thing". For me, it's imperitive that the woman I'm dating has a high sex drive. If she's cheap or easy, I wouldn't waste my time.
 Blondecharmthe3rd
Joined: 8/7/2008
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Posted: 10/21/2008 9:55:05 AM
If you are not banging every guy you run into... I would say you are not cheap or completely driven for your high sex drive.

You can have a high sex drive together with the desire to be with one person to share that with. But keep in mind if you are single, its all ultimately your choice.

There is nothing wrong with a high sex drive, nor a low one. We all have our speeds. The only thing is if you want a meaningful relationship, perhaps build something before you let them know your true level of sexuality. A meaningful relationship is not usually based on sex, even though sex can play a very large part in it.
 Blondecharmthe3rd
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 21
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Posted: 10/21/2008 10:09:04 AM
I agree with you deena, older I get the more I want/need it. BUT, I take my time and choose accordingly and don't spread em for every person that comes my way. A high sex drive with the right person is the ratio I like the best.
 startle
Joined: 7/22/2008
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Posted: 10/21/2008 10:39:09 AM
traditionally, the woman has been the one who is expected to put the brakes on in sexual matters. the issue is not the sex drive which might or might not be stronger than other women. this a choice on the woman's part to take a certain path. men are going to respond to you depending on alot of issues in their lives. the chances of you falling into a serious relationship are as good as anyone elses. personally, i applaud your decision to be sexually free. alot of anxiety, depression and emptiness is caused by the denial to ourselves of sexual satisfaction. you will be a calmer, happier woman because of your accepting attitude toward life, men and sex. because you have an uninhibited attitude toward sex you will appeal to likeminded men. stressed out, traditional type men will be suspicious of you. open, free-thinkng men will consider you a dream come true. these men are the ones who enjoy long , experimental sessions in bed. you are a partner who could enjoy this as much as they do. therefore, the trick in life is knowing who you are and pursuing those who appreciate what you have to offer.
 swingpup
Joined: 10/21/2006
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Posted: 10/21/2008 12:59:47 PM
It's relevant and open to comparison. In other words a "high sex drive" compared to what? A collective group of people...what group? Who's libido?

There are women that are great in bed with high sex drives that make excellent partners, there are women that are terrible in bed that I'm sure would make someone an excellent partner.

If you tell the women that have ten orgasms a day that you have a "high" sex drive does that indicate you have fifteen a day?

Hell, there are guys as well as women out there that couldn't care less if they get laid once a year, on the other hand there are those that desire to get laid once a day, once an hour....etc. etc.

Congratulations on your high sex drive!!! Yes, there is someone for everyone some where. A high sex drive is certainly a terrible thing to waste....Share the wealth.
 sgrlndguy
Joined: 10/13/2008
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Posted: 10/21/2008 1:26:54 PM
In my experience you're more to the norm although there are some out there with a diminished labido. It doesn't make you cheap either. Remember all of us are human and our sexual drive is part of it. If the guy cannot appreciate that maybe it's time to move on.
 sleepsafe
Joined: 4/29/2007
Msg: 27
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Posted: 10/21/2008 1:42:04 PM
Soooo brave for posting this here. Well I can only speak for myself, but a serious relationship with a woman who has a high sex drive would be like Christmas every day. You are a beautiful young woman, and if you have a great sex drive good for you. I would think that would be highly desirable to any guy who would be looking for a serious relationship. And sorry....also desirable for any guy with a pulse.
 midnightangel0
Joined: 5/2/2007
Msg: 29
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Posted: 10/21/2008 10:32:25 PM
daisypetals01 made some good points. For some there could be psychological problems behind it all. But not everyone.

I don't think a high sex drive makes you cheap or anything. however some people could look at it like that. And some guys may not be able to handle a woman with a high sex drive. A lot of guys want to dominant in the world of sex. Ignore the haters as best you can and find the guy that's right for you.

Frankly it would be cool if I could find a woman with a high sex drive.
 bigsexyteddybear
Joined: 8/22/2007
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Posted: 10/21/2008 11:23:39 PM
OK, so you have what you consider a high sex drive. Some may have a higher sex drive than you who knows? But, one of the issues with having a desire to engage in a lot more sex than the "average" person is the need to find a compatible mate. So you may run through a lot of potential partners until you come across the one that matches your needs. I don't really see what the problem is. You can't tell if a potential partner or mate is a sexual match even if your "normal" until you try them out. But once you make the connection with someone who rocks your world in all areas, you have hit the jackpot :)

Now, if I meet someone and they require a lot more sex than I do, or honestly I just can't keep up some of the time, I still want to be supportive and 'lend a hand' as needed. If your happy with the time we spend together and I have no problem if you satisfy yourself with or without me and vise versa, then its all good.

But be it a male or female if the need for sex causes you to ruin relationships or cheat as a result of the need then I do feel you need to look at the issues as to why or why you pick people that are not compatible when you know your own needs.
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
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Posted: 10/22/2008 5:11:21 AM

cause some guys just take that i'm easy and dont consider serious relationship,
but really.. a girl having high sex drive just makes her cheap?


It doesn't make her cheap, but it does make her tiring. Seriously, a woman with high sex drive beats a woman with low sex drive any day. I'd rather be worn out than frustrated.
 surely im shirley
Joined: 6/14/2008
Msg: 35
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Posted: 10/22/2008 6:05:33 AM
Not one poster has admitted to a 'low' sex drive. I'd be curious to know what classifies a 'high' sex drive.
 blonde chickie
Joined: 11/3/2005
Msg: 36
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Posted: 10/22/2008 7:39:14 AM
I always had a high sex drive, and it seems the older I get, the higher it gets.
 want to travel
Joined: 7/29/2006
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Posted: 10/22/2008 7:39:29 AM
A high sex drive is a must..... for me anyway, that does not mean I sleep around, I don't
sex is best with a woman that you are in a serious relationship with
 smartn2sexy08
Joined: 1/6/2008
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Posted: 10/22/2008 8:29:57 AM
Not one poster has admitted to a 'low' sex drive. I'd be curious to know what classifies a 'high' sex drive.


Well I can't speak for what others count as a high sex drive, but mine is high enough that I went to the doctor concerned. They did blood work to test my hormone levels. I came back very high in testosterone levels, which is what drives the sex drive in both men and women.

And for the poster that was referring to women being called nymphos, well for any of he women that have posted on here really, there is an interestng book I really recommend. The book is called Nymphomania: A History. You can find it on Amazon. Its an a great read that really tells where thhe term came from and how women became defined sexually.
 SwampHunter
Joined: 6/1/2007
Msg: 41
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Posted: 10/22/2008 10:27:21 AM
OP, when I was about your age, or maybe a little older, I dated a girl who also had an extremely high sex drive. In fact, at the time, I called her a "nympho", but to be honest, I think she actually was. If you knew just how to touch her, she was almost helpless. For example, I could gently caress the soft the soft spot on the inside of her elbow, and give her a full blown orgasm.

Unfortunately, almost every guy she'd ever been with also knew just how to touch her... And she'd lose control of herself almost every time. Well, obviously, that not only caused her a lot of shame and guilt, but also caused her to trash relationships, including ours...

If your "high sex drive" falls into THAT category, then it's a problem. If it doesn't, and you tend to just have tons of sex when you're in a committed relationship and you're not out sleeping with every guy in town, then ease up on yourself. I think for a young woman, part of maturing and coming into your own is learning that it's okay to embrace your sexuality...

When you're young, and you have sex, it's almost like the girl is losing something, and the guy is winning something. As a woman gets older though, most learn they don't have to judge themselves so harshly, and it doesn't need to be so black and white. It CAN be a win-win situation...

My 2 cents for what it's worth...

Mark
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