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 OneMoreTimeWithFeeling
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 3
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Oh be glad to be rid of him. I would flipped the script on his ass so fast, he wouldn't of known what hit him. You should of told him the reason you didn't cum was because he wasn't man enough to take you there.
 deerdog1
Joined: 12/29/2006
Msg: 6
Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 11/3/2008 11:09:46 AM
you should have said gee i never had that happen with anybody else ...but you are small ...guess i just need a man to get me there
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
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Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 11/3/2008 11:19:14 AM
Seriously???? I rarely orgasm with a new partner the first time. That man was a fool..
 Leeanne
Joined: 10/14/2005
Msg: 8
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Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 11/3/2008 11:30:48 AM
He found the situation to be a refelction of his own inablities - so he blames you! Sad little man ain't he!?! You are best to have him out of your life - don't give him a second thought!!
 867love
Joined: 3/16/2006
Msg: 9
Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 11/3/2008 11:32:32 AM
i wouldnt let it bother you, he was probibly comparing you to a previous lover...
-to put two strangers together for the first time and expect them to write a symphony.
 Insurance_guy
Joined: 5/12/2007
Msg: 18
Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 11/3/2008 12:48:36 PM
It just amazes me how guys can give guys a bad name! That is one lame excuse! You definitely have nothing to be ashamed of nor feel inadequate. Sounds to me it would have been a challenge and I would have been tapping on you...I mean your door the next day!
 MelloDLyn
Joined: 10/25/2004
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Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 11/3/2008 12:55:37 PM
Lol that is funny! If u didn't cum it is not your fault it would be his fault or his lack of skills! I can get off with my clothes totally on just by touch alone. So I find it funny since u didn't cum he blames u. Maybe he just wasn't doin it for u. He could of took a little more time to accomplish this and been proud and felt good about himself.
 ThymeKiller
Joined: 2/1/2008
Msg: 22
Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 11/3/2008 1:00:43 PM
I going to make a joke about it but I've reconsidered but I wonder why you're hung up about it. Obviously he wasn't great in bed or you'd have had the big O. You didn't and are better off without the drama of the egotistical, bad in bed, spoiled brat.

I've never heard of a bigger Red Flag in my life. Run forrest run.
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 26
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Posted: 11/3/2008 2:00:43 PM

spiders rule:This whole pressure to come thing....I'm freaking sick of it. Sick of the big deal guys make of it, sick of the bragging they do about their exes who could come if they just looked at them (yah right), sick of the bragging some guys do on these forums about what experts they are (making us sound like machines with dials and buttons instead of feeling, real human beings), and then how some women on these forums will chime in bragging how easily THEY come every single time (yah right).......ARGH SICK of it.


Good Lord Woman.....who pissed in your post toasties?
Just because u haven't had the pleasure of experiencing the kind of man that gets off on getting a woman off.....doesn't mean they don't exist. and in no way does that mean they think of us as machines......and yes......there are some of us women that are lucky enough to cum easily....(thank god!! )
I'm with Rock on this one....u need to meet one of these men and let off a little steam girlfriend!!

OP: sounds like this isn't something that has tramautized you...just something u wanted to discuss.....Kuddos to you for not letting it be a reflection on your own sexuality...too bad others let something like this ruin them towards ALL men...
Keep on Fishing ......there are definately better fish in the pond than what u just experienced!
 Leeanne
Joined: 10/14/2005
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Posted: 11/3/2008 4:12:33 PM
General comment.......
Wow reading some of this stuff really opens your eyes to the fact that there are women out there who allow themselves to be treated like crap - over and over again! Then blame their foibles on the rest of the world! Like it's somehow their fault for being able to achieve what they cannot! If you are 'dating' someone who has treated you like crap - you walk - no questions asked and you never look back! You most certainly don't blame every man and every woman who has positive experience - for your inability to be fulfilled. If you can't move on from such a situation - get therapy!!
 windloverr
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 34
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Posted: 11/3/2008 4:41:22 PM
Wow! There's a lot of anger in this thread! Inhale...hold...exhale slowly; inhale...hold...exhale slowly...

This whole concept is incomprehensible to me. OF COURSE you have nothing to feel badly about; simply by demonstrating you are stone cold normal. The only thing I would be concerned about is how badly your judge of character trait failed you on this one. I mean what a d!ck! It's almost funny it's so stupid.

What kills me is everyone's need to blame someone..."Oh, it's HIS fault for not being able to get you off." Nooooooooooo...repeat after me...everyone doesn't orgasm every time. In the text books they label that...are you ready for this..."normal."

This guy obviously rode the short bus to sex education class.


This whole pressure to come thing....I'm freaking sick of it. Sick of the big deal guys make of it, sick of the bragging they do about their exes who could come if they just looked at them (yah right), sick of the bragging some guys do on these forums about what experts they are (making us sound like machines with dials and buttons instead of feeling, real human beings), and then how some women on these forums will chime in bragging how easily THEY come every single time (yah right).......ARGH SICK of it.
Whoa! Somebody superglue your vibrator to the headboard darlin? Just because a woman can cum 20-30 times doesn't make him a good lover; and WHY on earth would you be upset at these women because they are able to cum like this? Besides, it ain't braggin if it's true. Sexual arousal and orgams are predominantly mental. If there is a take home message to these threads it is that the ability to have multiple orgasms, and even squirt, are skills that can be learned. Why would that anger you?



I dated someone who actually would get angry at me for having some difficulty arriving with him
See above. I cannot imagine what you had to have been feeling. Although, I can say, that you would have been well within your rights to rock back and laugh at what an ignorant idiot this guy proved himelf to be. However, worse than being ignorant, this guy was callous and cruel with his lover, someone he should have been carring and understanding with. You should actually be happy that you got away from that clown as quickly as you did. The odds are almost certain that you are going to have difficulty orgasming again at some point in the future. Again, it's called being normal. However, if the guy ever tries to make YOU feel badly again, just let them know, "I'm sorry, this one is not on me; you are absolutely among the worst, most insensitive, lovers I have ever had." and leave.
 newblue1970
Joined: 3/7/2008
Msg: 35
Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 11/3/2008 5:41:21 PM
He's an idiot if that was the reason to end the relationship.

Personally, if she has a hard time coming, I take that as a personal challenge!
 blonde chickie
Joined: 11/3/2005
Msg: 37
Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 11/3/2008 5:53:11 PM
What a ****ing ***hole he was. You shouldn't be humiliated, he was just being a complete****ead.
 Lacquered
Joined: 10/10/2006
Msg: 38
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Posted: 11/3/2008 6:41:07 PM
I may be wayyyyyyyy off base here, but if the good ole "in and out" doesnt do it for me...... I am pretty comfortable with asking him to help me finish and fully able to direct him along the path.
If he refused to help, then he'd be an @$$hole...
And if he refused ..... I'd do it myself, with him right there, if thats what it took.
JMO
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 ripley65
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 39
Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 11/3/2008 6:50:13 PM

she didn't cum because he couldn't make her.....


Um....it is not up to the guy to MAKE her cum and i cannot even believe that that^^ quote was written by a man. A woman cannot just lay there and expect the guy to just make her cum. She needs to let him know what she likes and where she likes it.

But, at any rate, that still doesnt excuse this guy or any guy for that matter to dump a woman because she didnt have an orgasm!
 MostlyGoodBoy
Joined: 9/9/2007
Msg: 41
Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 11/4/2008 11:39:18 AM
Well the true irony is that it was he that FAILED... Its his job to satisfy you-- bring you to the point of not only feeling but trust and all that goes into making a woman cum... Maybe if he spent a bit more time making sure you were happy -- This thread would be about "omg this guy rocked my world"..

Anyways--- Sounds like you are the one that actually did make out the best-- you got out early before giving your time, energy and heart...
 ~JustSimplyMe~
Joined: 8/18/2006
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Posted: 11/4/2008 8:40:27 PM
has anyone stopped to think that this could have just been a bullshit excuse to get rid of the op??
He got his rocks off, and needed to get rid of her quick to move onto his next sperm receptacle.
OP, he could have used a million and two excuses...that was just the one he thought of first.
Don't take it personally, or think it is a direct hit on you.....hes a man, they are notoriously lame brained idiots
^^Sorry boys :)(I had to get in on the man bashing a little bit)
 SITH_16
Joined: 10/30/2008
Msg: 48
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Posted: 11/4/2008 8:54:41 PM
If anything, it would make me work harder next time. Stupid reason to dump.
 matchlessm
Joined: 11/11/2007
Msg: 50
Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 11/4/2008 10:01:29 PM
leavemebe,

Please take into account, beforehand, that I'm one of those "notoriously lame brained idiots." Sad to say, my "Y" chromosomes are just something I was born with--sort of like original sin.

I wonder what would happen if the situation were reversed, where the woman was satisfied but the guy couldn't get there. And that can happen, for all sorts of reasons. Considering all the anger I see so many women express toward men in general, I doubt he could expect much kindness.
 meatnpotatoes
Joined: 9/5/2008
Msg: 52
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Posted: 11/5/2008 12:07:32 AM
I'm curious....you don't mention how long you had been seeing each other before "breaking new ground" in bed. Just wondering how much time and emotion was invested prior to his shocking news.

I agree that is a dumb reason for breaking it off....in fact, too dumb. Sounds to me like he may have been working his way up to the conquest with the "hit it and quit it" concept in mind all along...then came up with whatever excuse to break it off that would (in his mind) remove blame from him or eliminate any suspicion of him having had ulterior motives. It's just a thought....I could be wrong, but either way, the guy is obviously a big poopy-head.
 lelathecat
Joined: 6/14/2008
Msg: 53
Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 11/5/2008 1:01:10 AM

'm not surprised a guy would do this.....

This whole pressure to come thing....I'm freaking sick of it. Sick of the big deal guys make of it, sick of the bragging they do about their exes who could come if they just looked at them (yah right), sick of the bragging some guys do on these forums about what experts they are (making us sound like machines with dials and buttons instead of feeling, real human beings), and then how some women on these forums will chime in bragging how easily THEY come every single time (yah right).......ARGH SICK of it.

I'm sorry this happened to you OP!

OH forgot to answer your question OP: Yes I have come across this. A few months ago I dated someone who actually would get angry at me for having some difficulty arriving with him; he'd actually get mad and stomp off, leaving me laying there feeling like a piece of tossed garbage, crying.....needless to say, the experiences with him have messed with my head pretty badly.


I can so relate to this!

If someone did that crap to me, that would be THE LAST time they would see me ever!

Real life isn't a porno movie.

And guys wonder why girls fake orgasms!

Another annoying thing is when you know you just aren't going to cum. You're tired or distracted or whatever and you know you just aren't and the guys keeps trying and trying to the point where you are so annoyed at him, you just want him to go away. It is almost like some ego thing to force you to do it so he can prove he is good enough. Yuck! That is when you fake it so he'll just leave you alone.

Besides, men don't seem to get that some women don't need to O every time and we enjoy the sensations and the closeness and all that.


I also get annoyed at how some women lie how quick they can O. There seems to be a whole bevy who can cum in less than a minute. I'm just getting warmed up and it certainly takes longer than a minute.
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
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Posted: 11/5/2008 5:16:36 AM
quote: Another annoying thing is when you know you just aren't going to cum. You're tired or distracted or whatever and you know you just aren't and the guys keeps trying and trying to the point where you are so annoyed at him, you just want him to go away. It is almost like some ego thing to force you to do it so he can prove he is good enough. Yuck! That is when you fake it so he'll just leave you alone.

That would be your choice in men that is the problem.....and a lack of communication.

and once again.....these women that insist other women can't cum easily or quickly.....
Just who the hell are you to tell me what my body can or cannot do?
Have you never been so worked up sexually.....that you cum as soon as your man penetrates you? If not.....than that is just too damn bad......but it doesn't make it impossible......Nor....does it mean we fake it.
Talk about Aaaaaargh......
 jeeplover41
Joined: 9/7/2008
Msg: 58
Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 11/5/2008 8:39:26 AM
I must have missed the "Big Book of Rules for Orgasms" at my local library. How totally dim I must be on the subject of sex, intimacy, orgasms, etc...

Here I was thinking that every time was different, sometimes she can't, sometimes she can right away, sometimes she can many times. Same for the boy. I thought each sexual encounter varied. Maybe that's why I like to do it more than once with my partner, always surprised and never predictable. If it was the same each time, why bother to do it at all?

As far as the OP, guy was a class A douche bag. Wash your hands of it. Why did he say what he said? Who knows? Why did he do what he did? Same answer.

SOME guys are not worth it, SOME women are not worth it. But there are many, many women and men who are worth it, you just have to pull a few weeds to get the flowers to bloom.

Good luck to ya.
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 59
Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 11/5/2008 8:48:04 AM
Consider yourself lucky that you got rid of such moron that is blaming his sexual hung ups on you.
 lelathecat
Joined: 6/14/2008
Msg: 60
Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 11/6/2008 2:13:49 AM

and once again.....these women that insist other women can't cum easily or quickly.....
Just who the hell are you to tell me what my body can or cannot do?
Have you never been so worked up sexually.....that you cum as soon as your man penetrates you? If not.....than that is just too damn bad......but it doesn't make it impossible......Nor....does it mean we fake it.
Talk about Aaaaaargh......


Wow what is all that anger about?

Has it been awhile or something?
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