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|You wouldn't possibly be generalising here? Do you think we just delete the foreigner's emails? Think again. :)|
How can you categorically state that us women do not contact or date men because of the colour of their skin or their nationality?
You may not be having much success on this dating site, but how do you know your fellow countrymen or other nationalities are not?
I for one have met allsorts...a Spaniard, an African, an Indian, a gawdless American and one from the ice box above them. Although I didn't date any of them, it had nothing to do with their colour/nationality - they remain friends.
Posted: 11/16/2008 12:09:21 PM
Why do you think that the reason your not getting replys is because of your origins or skin colour? Most guys on this site give out about women not responding to their mails, reguardless of their skin colour. Maybe the e-mails your sending our are just not interesting enough, or possibly 'too sweet' e-mails.
On a personal note I took a look at your profile and the only exciting thing on it to me was that you surf, everything else to me was just all a bit plain. I dont mean to be harsh, but although your profile seems to paints you as a nice guy, (which by the way Im sure you are) I dont think it was a profile that i would remember.
Posted: 11/16/2008 1:59:23 PM
|Where did you learn to spell ? One minute you're really good at spelling big words and the next you are writing 'wud' & 'sed'|
Now the least I would expect from a man is an ability to spell correctly before I make the effort to mail him back.
I agree with malasam that it's probably a good idea to create a more interesting profile because I am sure most women check out profiles first before they reply to random messages sent to them.
It's not very nice, as an Irish woman, to read that we are apparently extremely rude and also prejudiced. Why can't you men say something nice about us for a change ?
Posted: 11/16/2008 3:01:27 PM
as for the asumption that most women check out a guys profile u would
be able to see who has seen ur profile or not , an the majority of irish women whom i have mailed havent,it was read an deleted for the few irish women who have bothered to make the effort
well then, if that is the case you cannot then draw the conclusion that women are avoiding replying to you because you are a foreigner as they haven't even looked at your profile.
It seems to me that your problem solely lies in the content of your messages and not with the women you mail.
Posted: 11/16/2008 9:23:52 PM
|"there is always a pic displayed with the messages"|
Have you tried messaging with the option of showing your picture clicked OFF?
It is actually suggested on this site that on the 1st message, don't attach your pic.
Curiosity is human nature. With no pic., wanting to check out who sent it, they'll have to check out your profile.
You might get more nibbles on your bait that way.
| Beth 1|
Posted: 11/18/2008 4:08:33 PM
|I think your assumption that we are " Color biased " is a attempt to make out we are rasist . |
I personally would not date a " foreigner" for lots of different reasons.. One been the different culture aspect as well as the language barrier. How can one be expected to form any kind of relationship with someone when they cannot even speak the same language ??
Posted: 11/18/2008 4:52:02 PM
|Good question Beth hehe..|
but I am sure the foreigners who live and work in Ireland know enough of the English language to get by in reality.
You could always follow the example of Katherine Lynch's mate Sheila Sheik and simply immerse yourself in your brand new fella's culture and possibly learn their language too..maybe ?
It's good to broaden your horizens, I think.
| Beth 1|
Posted: 11/18/2008 5:13:07 PM
|Not where i live !!! I have to repeat myself several times before I can get any service in my local shops !! |
I am always pleasent and curtious and they are back ...Dont get me started on the ones that come here and collect every freebie our stupid goverment allowed them too !!!!
Posted: 11/18/2008 5:23:25 PM
|Go on girl...say what's on your mind.|
You've reminded me of the time that I went to our local Spar and some guy..I think he was Persian...couldn't understand what I was asking for when I requested some salted peanuts, took me forever to explain to him what they were, finally I found a packet of them so I could show him what they looked like at the very least....I don't know what his problem was but he just couldn't seem to accept that peanuts are called peanuts...and I know damn well I speak clearly enough not have the word 'peanuts' come out of my mouth and be mistaken for some other word I will not write on here..but I am sure you get my drift regardless..
Thinking about it now ..he may well have been taking the p1ss because I did offer him lessons in how to communicate in the English language so he can be understood and understand other people who speak that language and he refused them saying that he was fine and can speeka-de-englash-vary-wull.
Posted: 11/18/2008 11:53:50 PM
I do not believe that you are rejected solely on account of your skin color and ethnicity (you are quite good looking for an Indian...oh boy this sounded bad -but it is written with no pun intended).
This is an internet dating site and before engaging in any conversation (of written or any other nature) all women have to judge you from are your pictures (which are good by the way) and your profile description, which is only two lines long, badly written and actually says nothing about YOU.
Try to write something more in that box, and make it genuine. Also be very patient and approach women you find attractive freely and without any second thoughts...if they like what they see and read you will catch something in your net eventually :)
Mind you, I would like to bring to your attention that 'having low response rate' as a guy on POF isn't bothering you exclusively...many guys, some even very good looking ones with white skin color for that matter, are unhappy about the amount of responses they get.
My advice is: work on your writing stile (emails wise), write longer and better profile describing yourself and post on forums only when you really have something relevant to say.
All the best
Posted: 11/19/2008 2:35:14 AM
|Yes, rewrite that profile and newer be put down by silly comments....you will be fine eventually :)|
Here goes a big smile for you, from one human being to another
Posted: 11/20/2008 6:18:16 PM
|Dont get me started on the ones that come here and collect every freebie our stupid goverment allowed them too !!!! |
Nice one! It's well known there's only foreigners to sponge off taxpayers (like me)through decisions of a government I may not vote for or against.
But maybe you're not talking about poor souls that cannot help themselves like refugees, maybe you're talking about foreign corporations??
Posted: 11/23/2008 6:42:38 AM
|Hi ,this paul from the Ice box up above the Godless country...this will be brief..the keys on the computer are starting to freeze..and there is a Bear beating on my front door begging to get in from the the cold,..Well miss smartie pants,yes i do have snow here ,3 flippin feet of it,and yes it is cold here..but we have very "warm" Hearts here..So never mind the Africans, Spaniards,or Turks, We are freezinf to death over here so why dont you come over here and give us all a big warm Irish hug....lol..Failing that I will have to ask my mommy back in Belfast can I come home..after she told me to get out of her sight 36 yrs ago..lol..C..Ya.|
Posted: 11/24/2008 2:41:44 PM
|I wouldnt mind dating a foreigner to be honest. Ive been surrounded by Irish women all my life, so a change is as good as any for me.|
Posted: 11/24/2008 4:36:25 PM
|Maybe we can switch countries for a while there fabric.... lol|
Posted: 11/24/2008 4:43:57 PM
|Well that all depends on where your from. If its somewhere cold forget about it. If its some nice, im open to offers. lol|
Posted: 11/24/2008 4:49:20 PM
|In the states. Well I am on the road mostly, so I tend to go from one climate to the next... But it is never boring.... lol|
Posted: 11/24/2008 4:54:52 PM
|Alright, you got yourself a deal. Now well just have to negotiate the terms lol|
Posted: 11/24/2008 4:57:57 PM
|Hehe.... I am sure it is not much different there, than it is here.|
Posted: 11/24/2008 5:01:07 PM
|lol true. There is one difference though. Its 1 am here and im up for college in a few hours. Take it easy my man.|
Posted: 11/24/2008 5:03:11 PM
|You too. 8pm here.... Well in Atlanta, Georgia. Where I am at this moment...|
Posted: 11/25/2008 2:04:47 AM
|Cool. Id like to go to the States one day. A proper holiday, travel from place to place for a year or two and see the real America not just the tourist traps.|
Posted: 11/25/2008 7:21:24 PM
|hello i think dating a foreigerner is a litle differend then dating somebody from your own country .. for the last 24 years in have been living in canada ,but i have notice there is some kind of culture differend between people from differend countries .. special the way we think about certian things ..etc|
Posted: 11/26/2008 10:13:07 AM
hello i think dating a foreigerner is a litle differend then dating somebody from your own country .. for the last 24 years in have been living in canada ,but i have notice there is some kind of culture differend between people from differend countries .. special the way we think about certian things ..etc
That what turns me on about the idea of dating foreigners. Im open to new cultures, customs etc etc, it would be different to what Ive become used to.
Posted: 11/26/2008 10:28:48 AM
|Out of interest what foreign male/ female would you be most likely to date???|
My preferrence would be Scottish, Dutch or English, their accents are just so sexy.