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 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
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We all want the perfect relationship and we have our ideas as to how it should look , but in the "real" world there is no such thing. We are all looking for the same thing, someone to love and someone who will love us back. I've thought about all the positives in a relationship, and its definitely body contact for me. Thats what I want, that what I hunger for. I want to wake up and see him lying there next to me, I want to watch him breathe... I want to listen to the sound of his heart beating, drink in the smell of him and feel his warm embrace. I want to feel his lips on mine and on my body, not in a sexual way, but yet intimately...



...This is taken from my profile....and no, it actually fills my heart with sadness and I ache inside to think I may never know that touch of warm skin against mine...yes, that's probably what I miss the most about not being in a relationship.


...maeflowers

 Moonchild51
Joined: 3/11/2007
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Posted: 11/17/2008 3:54:31 AM
Geeze Miss Mae!
Yours was the first post I read this morning. You gotta stop doing that stuff to a gal who hasn't even had her morning coffee yet! lol
OP? I have to agree wholeheartedly with what you felt. I too have been through it. I remember "spooning" my baby sis by the fireplace on my very first Christmas Eve alone. Nothing sexual about it at all. I just so very much missed the human touch. I am not sure I will ever lose that craving, and quite honestly? Don't think I want to either!
 Moonchild51
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Posted: 11/17/2008 4:57:07 AM
^^Oh gee Oscar! Can I ever relate to that statement!
Nope, nothing like having to be touched by someone you no longer have feelings for. Has to be the worst feeling in the world! But, the need for physical closeness of any form, be it hand holding, sex, sitting next to another, is always there with us and is what keeps us here right?
 moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
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Posted: 11/17/2008 5:32:51 AM
"it actually fills my heart with sadness and I ache inside to think I may never know that touch of warm skin against mine..."

I sure am glad I got over the sadness and ache you are refering too. Such feelings could be very destructive if not dealt with.

My friends and I are very huggy, touchy people. I got to massage often. I have a jacuzzi, and when I travel, I make sure to use the hot tub facilities.

Now the opposite would be to crave physical touch too much and get involved with the wrong people and then we would really know what sadness and physical ache really about.
 Moonchild51
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Posted: 11/17/2008 6:22:01 AM
^^Well now hunny? I can help you out with a hug, a soothing voice and what not.
But as much as I wuvs ya, I simply can't go giving you the "velvet touch"!
No worries g/f. This too shall pass. Hopefully well before we do!
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
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Posted: 11/17/2008 6:25:45 AM

I sure am glad I got over the sadness and ache you are refering too. Such feelings could be very destructive if not dealt with.

My friends and I are very huggy, touchy people. I got to massage often. I have a jacuzzi, and when I travel, I make sure to use the hot tub facilities.

Now the opposite would be to crave physical touch too much and get involved with the wrong people and then we would really know what sadness and physical ache really about.


No mori, I said "I would be very sad" to know that I would not again feel the touch of skin against mine....besides, in my opinion, there isn't anything wrong with having those longing ...it's very normal to crave physical touch. When I stop feeling those emotions than you might as well bury me.

...maeflowers

 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
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Posted: 11/17/2008 6:55:26 AM
Ladies, ladies.....

Do not despair. Myself and many other men on this site are prepared to have an empty, meaningless physical encounter with you whenever you wish. The feel of warm skin against your body, the heat of interest exchanged between two people in a passionate embrace, the delicious taste of each others' sweat, and the sweet satisfaction of the closeness that follows the peak of pleasure is but an e-mail away......
 saggy ass and saggy tits
Joined: 5/22/2008
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Posted: 11/17/2008 6:58:29 AM
^^^^^^^^^ lol lol lol very funny
 rossal
Joined: 12/5/2005
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Posted: 11/17/2008 7:15:27 AM
I feel exactly the way you do, op......and I have never been prepared to be alone for the rest of my life.

I had a similar situation (being touched by a professional), and of course, he didn't and couldn't have known what that brief touch did for me.

I consider myself the poster-child for "touchy-feely"----and it is not happening.

Hugs, Rossal
 spicynicegirl
Joined: 8/10/2008
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Posted: 11/17/2008 7:19:33 AM
maeflowers you will find all of that again, trust me. I know it seems impossible right now (I've almost given up many times) but I believe that if I'm patient it will come.

It's funny but I thought that once I was out of my marriage I wouldn't crave another man forever...........oh how wrong I was...................
 Moonchild51
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Posted: 11/17/2008 7:23:58 AM

I have no sympathy for women when they talk about missing anything. You all can get what you all want anytime you all want, as men are endlessly generous towards women when it comes to love and affection.


^^Couldn't agree with you more with that post! Applicable only when one is in the mood for an emotionless "fluck"
 rearguard*2
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Posted: 11/17/2008 7:41:18 AM
I don't know. I experience all kinds of emotions whenever I make love to a woman. No such thing as an "emotionless" ***K as far as I can tell. Its more like the expression of those emotions might not be exactly according to the requirements of your partner.
 coca2
Joined: 2/17/2006
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Posted: 11/17/2008 8:13:26 AM
Massages are great. Find a massage school near you. The students work on you. so the fee is low. I am addicted to them.
 duckling
Joined: 2/28/2006
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Posted: 11/17/2008 9:08:29 AM
Are you content to go through life without ever feeling the velvet stroke of warm skin on yours?


There's no reason to feel that way. There are always opportunities for personal contact. Go for a hair cut and let someone run their fingers through your hair. Fall into a swimming pool and let a life guard grab you by the chest and pull you to safety. Take twenty bucks off a casino table and run for the door. You're just not trying hard enough!
 Some0nesX
Joined: 10/21/2008
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Posted: 11/17/2008 9:10:40 AM
OP asked
Are you content to go through life without ever feeling the velvet stroke of warm skin on yours?


Content, no-but have been "alone" for over a decade + and long ago ACCEPTED the fact that I may never be part of a "couple" again.

Supposedly humans need a minimum of 8 hugs a day to be emotionally/mentally healthy and thankfully, I always got my daily minimum dose from my children but now that I'm faced with being an "empty nester" I am dealing with a major daily hug deficiency and so friends have been warned I may unexpectedly hug them multiple times to get my minimum daily requirement
 duckling
Joined: 2/28/2006
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Posted: 11/17/2008 9:20:54 AM
Enroll in a Greco-Roman wrestling class?
 rd1955
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Posted: 11/17/2008 10:00:09 AM
My 2 cents on this topic....

after I got divorced I was alone for a while and not feeling very much like even being near women. it was probably quite a while since I had physical contact with anyone, and someone came up to me from behind at work and touched me and I must have jumped 2 feet in the air! It really made me aware of how I had not had any physical contact for so long and how much I missed it

years earlier I was in a very bad car accident. I was laid up in bed, feeling awful physically and emotionally, and with the pain I hadn't slept for a couple of days which made my state of mind even worse. I heard the side door of the house opne (my room was in the basement) and my ex-girlfriend came walking in. We were on good terms and as much as I was in a "state" it felt good to see her. She told me how she heard I was in an accident and she had to cme and see me. She laid on the bed next to me and just held me....I eased off to what would be the only peaceful sleep that I would have for a month or so. I think touch has a lot of healing power and conversely lack of touching or being touched is not healthy (trust me I know this all too well)
 AgelessWonder
Joined: 4/12/2006
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Posted: 11/17/2008 11:21:09 AM
IMO, it is normal to want that human touch.

An older lady told me once that we need 12 hugs per day! Now I don't know about that but human touch is very important.

Booker, I work with the elderly and they are truly a blessing. We even have some in their 80s who have b/f and g/f . It is amazing to watch them, come to the dining room in a walker and their eyes light up when they see their SO in the room.

You are never too old to want that human touch!

JMO
 Moonchild51
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Posted: 11/17/2008 11:23:18 AM
^^^I am in total agreement with you my wee lassie! I hope I never grow to old to miss the contact of another human being. And I am sorry but have to admit? Whilst hugs and kisses from friends/family are awesome? I damned sure do miss what a man brings to the equation. *sigh*. Hey wait? I just got an idea for sumpin to put on my Christmas wish list to Santa...brb...
 Sapphireeyes
Joined: 1/13/2008
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Posted: 11/17/2008 11:44:32 AM
OP wow I cant imagine what you are feeling...if i was around I would surely give you a hug. I get a ton of hugs and affection from my kids and from the three pets i have, I often wake up surrounded by them. Still isnt the same as waking up to someone special but hey on cold nights I'll share body heat!

I guess some of the men missed the point that it isnt about sex ...it is about the RIGHT touch...one that is far more than rutting like dogs...vs one the incites the senses. I doubt there is a female on POF who would have a problem getting laid...it is being loved that is the problem. It is the touch of companionship, the way you feel with the warmth of another's hand etc and while it can lead to more it is enough in and of itself.

I hope I die before I become so bitter and withdrawn that I would say I no long want a physical touch...I would rather make a mistake and be with the wrong person for the right reason that to deny the core of human existence to the point I became would become so ugly on the inside.
 Moonchild51
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Posted: 11/17/2008 11:52:00 AM
Well said Miss Saph!
As an example? My younger bro passed away just a couple of weeks ago. He had no insurance. Being the oldest of 8, and not all of the 8 getting along, things were way more difficult than they needed to be. We all got through it though. All during this entire event, I got hugs from family and friends. But oh, what I wouldn't have given to have had that special someone to come to, have him enfold me in his arms and to just be there. Heck, he wouldn't even have had to have talked. Just knowing I was loved by him and that he cared about what I was going through would have been sufficient. And no, I am not talking just sex here either. The gals know what I mean...
 moraima
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Posted: 11/17/2008 12:14:14 PM
Mae It is the word crave that I have a problem with. "...it's very normal to crave physical touch. "

Sure I would enjoy physical contact with the right person, but I don't crave it, as it isn't something that I am going to lose sleep over. I just don't think it makes sense to crave things I can't have right now, and may never have again.

"When I stop feeling those emotions than you might as well bury me."

Well, I am sure glad that I can live a happy, fun filled life without a partner. It will take a lot more than not being part of a couple for me to want to be dead.
 moraima
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Posted: 11/17/2008 12:21:01 PM
"I hope I die before I become so bitter and withdrawn that I would say I no long want a physical touch"

So unnecessarily dramatic.

There is a big difference between being happy and functional in life without a partner, and being bitter and withdrawn.

The friends I will be joining next week in Cuba would laugh at the thought that I am bitter and withdrawn. While on the subject of Cuba, I remember one day at a fest and it was very chilly for Cuba that day. The men ended up outside playing games, and the women stayed indoors. We spent the day brushing each others hair, and sitting around chatted cuddled up and holding hands. This isn't anything to do with being interested sexually in other women. It is everything to do with a touchy loving society. Too bad most NA people don't touch each other as much as they should. My Canadian friends never meet and leave each other without kissing and hugging.
 Moonchild51
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Posted: 11/17/2008 12:35:12 PM

Yes we all know. So why is it you are on a dating sight again?


All due respect Mr. Atsome? This is not strictly a dating site hun. One can be here for many reasons!
 Moonchild51
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Posted: 11/17/2008 12:50:56 PM
Well Mr. Atsome? If I figure out what the reason is for my being here I will be ahead of the game.

OT: Now c'mere and let me give you a great big hug!!!
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