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|So I meet you in a chance encounter in the mall (where I happen to work) etc and I think that you are attractive and would like to have a opportunity to get to know you. Is it okay to ask yo to meet me in a public place for coffee. Should I ask for her number or maybe offer mine.|
Posted: 12/22/2008 6:10:30 PM
|This has happened to me. We met at the gas station of all places! He asked if I would have coffee with him at the cafe across the street. So, I agreed and drove over to where he was standing waiting for me. |
We had a great conversation. But I realized that would be it and told him so.
Years later a co worker came up to me and asked me if I remembered that coffee date.
Turned out he was a close friend of hers. I was a little surprised when she said he never forgotten and would still want to take me out...years later. He told her he liked how open and frank I was. I told her to tell him hello...but it still would not work.
Nothing ventured...nothing gained.
Posted: 12/22/2008 6:18:01 PM
|Sure. As long as you're approaching her in a fairly public place, as well.|
Posted: 12/22/2008 6:19:13 PM
|Perfectly fine, although some women are a little leery of giving out their phone numbers to any stranger who requests it. |
Perhaps you can offer up a request for something a little more "safe" like a Myspace or email address to keep her from feeling threatened?
Posted: 12/22/2008 8:16:41 PM
|I agree with the others. I might take your number, but would not offer mine.|
My husband and I met in a VERY chance encounter. At a bar that I had never been to, and certainly did not intend on being in that night. (I went in with my daughter who was meeting friends that were late.) As a matter of fact, he says he was thinking "What am I doing here?" when he saw us walk in. We agreed to meet a few nights later in the same bar, as they were having a C/W band he liked. 2years later, here we are. Funny thing is, the bar is closed now.
I guess it's job was done!
So, go for it. You never know, she just might be 'the one'.
Connie & Mike
Posted: 12/22/2008 11:28:36 PM
|I have done the coffee thing in a mall, felt it was safe, friendly and why the heck not? ph# no, thank god! He was mental, but I never considered any guy willing to be public and honest a bad thing! (just leave the meds and purple men at home if ya have 'em!) |
If she isn'r interested you have wasted a few more hrs at work w/out pay, if she is---you just got a bonus!
Posted: 12/23/2008 7:56:08 AM
|I wouldn't ask for her number but certainly offer yours or just ask her to meet for a coffee. Although attempting to pick up women while working is probably not a good idea. Unless you already have pre-printed work/business cards, I wouldn't go that route. Some guy I met gave me his card. When I realized it had nothing to do with a business or such, I was turned-off. All it had was his name/number/email. I may be wrong, but it led me to think that he had 100's printed, just to pass out to women he met. Yes, I know some people do this for other reasons, to exchange emails or such...but .....that's the impression it gave me.|
Posted: 12/23/2008 3:19:51 PM
|I think you personally could get away with it. You have a very nice and soft way about your smile. If I was in your generation and looking... I would feel comfortable giving a nice smile like yours my number.|
I think it depends on the people. I don't think my EX could walk up to somebody and ask for their number... he's not as warm.
Posted: 12/23/2008 3:23:56 PM
|Ted Bundy had a nice smile too..........tiffany...maybe you feel safer because of the gray hair....but don't let that fool you....The murderers that get out after 30 years often have gray hair or no hair........|
Sorry....I wouldn't give my number out to any guy I just met IRL. He can give me his...
Posted: 12/23/2008 3:33:11 PM
|Ted Bundy did not have a nice smile. |
IRL? In real life? as opposed to in your fake life?
Posted: 12/23/2008 3:35:29 PM
|My willingness to give up the digits is directly proportional to how attractive he is to me.|
Posted: 12/23/2008 3:39:40 PM
|IMO it's not any different than meeting someone at a bar or a club. If you have a pleasant conversation with her, then you could ask for her number. You have nothing to lose. The worst thing she could do is say No. |
| Miss W|
Posted: 12/23/2008 3:51:41 PM
|I've had it happen to me but I was encumbered at the time, and understood the courage that it took to approach me so I let him off easy. You never know. Give it a go.|
Posted: 12/25/2008 6:52:14 PM
|Thank You all for your comments I appreciate them. From what I read I get that it is not a turn of to the majority|
I told her where I worked (in my attempt to make her feel safe) as opposed to asking for her contact information.