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 des_angel
Joined: 11/4/2008
Msg: 1
Condom Debate...Page 1 of 6    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6)
Okay, Condoms are a needed part of society, and I get this. They help protect against disease and pregnancy... yay for condoms!

The problem is I've heard so many guys complain that they'd rather have sex without the condom. Personally (I'm not on any other birth control), if you don't wear the condom, then you're not getting in my pants (or a personal fave saying "wrap it or whack it"). I get it, though... I can see where a condom can be uncomfortable for the guys.

The other problem is, I can't tell when a guy finishes unless he's overly vocal about it. And condoms certainly take away from that feeling as well. I feel like a dumbass saying, "did you cum?" but... sometimes I don't know. My current friend with benefits continues to move a lil after he cums, and I can't tell until he pulls out. And sometimes, it's a shock to me that he's done.

So... the ups and downs of condoms... let's hear em. Have any funny stories dealing with condoms? And tips on picking out the right kind? Anything dealing with condoms... lay it on me, babe.
 hondaman147
Joined: 1/12/2006
Msg: 2
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Posted: 12/22/2008 6:59:40 PM
yea condoms suck for me i cant feel nothing after awhile and sometimes my shit will go soft esp if im not really horny. i remember 1 time i was lasting for like 2hrs without a nut and the chic got like 15 nuts to my 0. i was working hard as shit trying to get a nut my heart felt like it wass gonna come out my chest. i was like **** it and stopped, i couldnt go no more. she was all worn out from 15 nuts i was worn from not gettin a nut. i dont see how dudes can enjoy sex thru those thick ass magnums. i be trying to get the thinest possible, but alot of those condoms fit too tight. oh another thing, chics dont think they're attractive when ur shit is going soft on them.
 des_angel
Joined: 11/4/2008
Msg: 3
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Posted: 12/22/2008 7:10:01 PM
Yeah, I once had a guy who couldn't finish worth anything. He probably went for an hour and a half, and I got tired of it, so I just had him stop.

There's a lot of different kinds... I guess it's just a matter of finding the right kind for you.

Once got with a guy who was too small for the kind I had in my purse (I thought it was an average condom... not a magnum or anything) and he ended up falling out of it, and accidentally leaving it inside of me. That's not a good way to end a date, either.
 des_angel
Joined: 11/4/2008
Msg: 4
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Posted: 12/22/2008 7:15:45 PM

if you cant tell if he cam or not then you aint doing it right !!


Well, if he's wearing a condom I won't feel it... and if he's not giving it away with his sounds... how am I to know?
 hondaman147
Joined: 1/12/2006
Msg: 5
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Posted: 12/22/2008 7:20:08 PM
you feel it throbbing....no homo
 canoist
Joined: 8/4/2007
Msg: 6
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Posted: 12/22/2008 7:24:19 PM
A vasectomy is far better for preventing pregnancies. Monogamy will take care of the STDs.

Des Angel and ZeppDog complain that they (not together) were hammering away for an hour and a half to two hours, and that Zep's girl got 15 Os to his one. Where's the complaint?

I love it when our lovemaking goes for hours. I love it when I can give her the multiple Os. In every situation there's a silver lining.

Canoist
 des_angel
Joined: 11/4/2008
Msg: 7
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Posted: 12/22/2008 7:33:46 PM

Des Angel and ZeppDog complain that they (not together) were hammering away for an hour and a half to two hours, and that Zep's girl got 15 Os to his one. Where's the complaint?

I love it when our lovemaking goes for hours. I love it when I can give her the multiple Os. In every situation there's a silver lining.


Well, when my guy was doing it, I wasn't getting 15 orgasms. I was getting nothing but dry and sore. That's why I had him stop.
 des_angel
Joined: 11/4/2008
Msg: 8
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Posted: 12/22/2008 7:35:00 PM

I find condoms rip often when I have sex. I would say every 10th time I use them. I get checked for everything, and switch the brand up...I dont know whey they are so unreliable. I wont sleep with a girl without one though unless she gets tested with me, and goes on the pill. I have met 4 woman over the years from online that got upset I wouldnt do it with no condom, and they were not on the pill. I had to explain to each of them that they will wind of with a disease eventually if they keep that habit up.


I think you're right... and gross! That's why I wear condoms... because there are people like that who don't.
 PardonMeMiss
Joined: 2/4/2006
Msg: 9
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Posted: 12/22/2008 8:51:51 PM
Condoms are obnoxious and seem to dry out most girls, which can lead to breakage. A splash of a decent lube helps a lot though, so don't be a fool. Wrap your tool.
 Renaissance_Dude
Joined: 12/14/2008
Msg: 10
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Posted: 12/22/2008 8:52:27 PM
Well naturally its better without - but that's for committed long term relationships. If you don't see yourself spending the rest of your life with this person, best take precautions.

Anyhow, not my fave but I'm OK with 'em. Some are better than others. In general I find I like the lubricated thin ones like durex. I don't like the ones with spermacide - I seem to be sensitive to it (it BURNS for HOURS like when you were a kid and used too much bubble bath). And I don't like the dry ones. The non-latex alternative ones (which I think are polypropaline or something) are really sheer and allow good sensitivity while being tough, but they cost more. There are also the natural skin ones like fourex - made from lambskin - they feel good, but if the goal is disease prevention, the lambskins are non-starters even though they feel the best. They're not impermeable to viruses but they will prevent pregnancy. Also, they are the most likely ones to slip off.

It would be a good idea for you to explore personal birth control for yourself BTW. Accidents still happen. Condoms slip off or leak.

A nice bit of insurance is to always have some KY or other personal lubricant and make sure you are nice and wet - its when things get dry that condoms are likely to tear. We men like wet anyhow. Wetter is better. If everything is really wet, the condom is less noticeable to everybody.

If you want to make your date happy, take the lead putting the thing on him and make it a sensual experience. Makes things less awkward and there's no "wait - I have to go put on a condom" to crash your groove.

As an aside - I find the picture of you with a cigarette on your profile captioned "my favorite bar before it burned down" oddly profound and you have some of the most kissable looking lips I have ever seen. Sadly we live nowhere near each other and I'm too old for you.
 LonestarStar
Joined: 12/14/2008
Msg: 11
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Posted: 12/22/2008 9:13:37 PM
I'm not a fan of condoms, but you're right...in this day and age, you have to wrap your twinkie . Even if you're being monogamous, your partner may not be. It's quite scary, when you think about it!
One mistake I'll never make again is going down on a man wearing a spermicide condom! My tongue was numb for hours...ick.
 forallintents
Joined: 12/16/2008
Msg: 12
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Posted: 12/22/2008 9:22:40 PM
Condoms only somewhat protect against certain kinds of infections, so if you really want to be safe you will not have sex, of certain kinds, even using a condom. They also fail sometimes to prevent pregnancy. Condoms are not 100% effective, so calculate your risks and act accordingly.

In terms of STD/STI transmission, you either have one or you don't. If you do a condom may help prevent transmission. If you don't have one a condom serves no purpose unless you blow it up like a balloon and play with it that way. The upshot or bottom line, depending on you preference, is that for times you need a condom it's not reliable and so you're safe only when you have sex with someone who you know can't give you anything (not presents, infections.)

On the pregnancy side of the equation you are safe only if at least one of you is infertile. Otherwise there is the perhaps small risk of pregnancy and so if you do take the risk you would do well to be able to handle the consequence of pregnancy in case it happens.

The question of the right kind of condom to use is secondary, in my opinion, to the question of whether you should be having sex with that person in the first place. But let's say you decided to go for it. There are different kinds of condoms, made of different materials and having different features. After considerable research I have come to favor Kevlar for the material. Kevlar is best known as the magic fabric used in bullet proof vests. It is also very resistant to abrasion and is used in protective clothing for auto racing and motorcycle riding. It can stand up to severe use without breaking through. Kevlar is not elastic like latex or urethane, which are the most common materials used for condoms. Because it does not stretch the Kevlar condoms must be custom fitted and special ordered. I feel the extra expense is worth the peace of mind. If I ever do find myself in a position to use a condom I will be well prepared.

Personally I do not like using condoms, so I just don't have sex unless I am sure about my partner and do not need to use one. (This means I don't have sex.) But I still like having my box of custom tailored condoms just in case, and in cold weather wearing one helps keep me warm on the motorcycle, as it makes an excellent wind breaker of a sort.
 des_angel
Joined: 11/4/2008
Msg: 13
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Posted: 12/22/2008 9:24:05 PM

As an aside - I find the picture of you with a cigarette on your profile captioned "my favorite bar before it burned down" oddly profound and you have some of the most kissable looking lips I have ever seen. Sadly we live nowhere near each other and I'm too old for you.


Well, thank you very much. No matter the age or location of a person I'm always open for compliments.
 des_angel
Joined: 11/4/2008
Msg: 14
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Posted: 12/22/2008 9:29:15 PM
But I still like having my box of custom tailored condoms just in case, and in cold weather wearing one helps keep me warm on the motorcycle, as it makes an excellent wind breaker of a sort.

OKAY... THAT... made me giggle.
 LonestarStar
Joined: 12/14/2008
Msg: 15
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Posted: 12/22/2008 10:51:35 PM

If she still insists on a rubber, I'll usually bounce and keep looking. It'll be a rare day I wear one ever again.


You would take the time to get to know a woman, go and get his and her STI tests, and STILL leave her for someone if she wanted to wear a condom?
Wow, it's a good thing you left your man-ho days behind you!
 des_angel
Joined: 11/4/2008
Msg: 16
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Posted: 12/22/2008 11:05:43 PM

Well for starters, I'd have to double bag with you or people like you who don't take BC and have to hope like Hell that the condom will be enough


Anybody who "double bags" is a moron. Latex rubbing against latex causes latex to tear. You're better off just wearing one.
 PardonMeMiss
Joined: 2/4/2006
Msg: 17
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Posted: 12/22/2008 11:42:48 PM


You would take the time to get to know a woman, go and get his and her STI tests, and STILL leave her for someone if she wanted to wear a condom?
Wow, it's a good thing you left your man-ho days behind you!


Wait... he's willing to put the time and effort into proving he's committed. He doesn't enjoy sex with a condom (which is a common sentiment to varying degrees), yet if after all this time and effort (from both parties), she still wants to use a condom, he is out of line for not wanting to participate?
 MMORPGRTSFPS
Joined: 6/20/2008
Msg: 18
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Posted: 12/22/2008 11:59:43 PM
Condoms are needed until the STD situation is known. New person, or different partners, you'd be a moron not to use them.

Best tip is to try different condoms, shop online. The Japanese one's such as Crown (pink colour) and Beyond Seven (blue colour) I've found to be the best for feeling, and you often will of seen Crown being used in porn, because they offer the best feeling.
Also, if condoms dry out, used a water based lube.

It does feel different though, not as good, but much, much safer. And while vasectomies are great, they don't prevent STD's.
 _jay_see_
Joined: 11/24/2007
Msg: 19
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Posted: 12/23/2008 1:51:23 AM
The only sex I have is with hookers and I wrap my meat 100% of the time.

This is why I always say hookers are safer than picking up chicks at a bar, etc. simply because you're forced to wear a condom every time.
 spicynicegirl
Joined: 8/10/2008
Msg: 20
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Posted: 12/23/2008 1:53:05 AM
Well I'm sort of in the middle of this debate.

I always insist the guy wear one when we first start dating but if it leads into a relationship then after a few months I tend to not use them. It should be noted that I haven't slept with anyone for a long time so it's not like I'm just having sex here and there.

I know I will have rocks thrown anyway so I'm heading for cover.....................
 crimsonandthewhite
Joined: 7/27/2005
Msg: 21
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Posted: 12/23/2008 3:20:28 AM
i personally dont mind them , sure it feels so much better without it

but my mind is at so much ease to use one

i have found that trojans her pleasure and the '"thinner" or "sensitive kind suits me very fine

theres also lambskin but very expensive i think they are like 6-7 bucks for only two of them great for one night stand but cost to much to have sex on a regular basis using those

i have had many experiences where i will dry out and taste the rubber more then i would like

but the trojan her pleasure that i have stated above is lubricated and actually makes me wetter
 StephAnnette
Joined: 9/28/2008
Msg: 22
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Posted: 12/23/2008 10:57:54 AM

Well, if he's wearing a condom I won't feel it... and if he's not giving it away with his sounds... how am I to know?


I know what you mean. The most recent guy I was with didn't really make sounds or anything, and just kind of said he came, then it was done. I felt no physical difference when he did (and he was wearing a condom).
 StephAnnette
Joined: 9/28/2008
Msg: 23
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Posted: 12/23/2008 11:02:50 AM
I am new to having a sex life, so I don't really know what the difference is to do it with or without one since I have only done it with condoms.

As far as I am concerned, right now I won't do anything with anyone unless they are wearing one. I don't want any diseases, infections, or children.
 intownnow
Joined: 4/7/2008
Msg: 24
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Posted: 12/23/2008 11:11:30 AM
I dont get the women who say they cant tell if their man is cumming or not with a condom. That concept is a tough one to comprehend as I would think their bodies tense and pulsate when the cum starts to erupt or maybe that's just me!! Get the super thin ones and the sensitivity is still there, obviously bareback feels the best but we all need to make concessions sometimes unless you're fine with potential outcomes; babies and std's!!
 kkkiiimmm
Joined: 5/31/2008
Msg: 25
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Posted: 12/23/2008 11:11:50 AM
Condoms are absolutely necessary. Unless, #1 the two of you go get STD testing together and #2 you are on some other form of birth control. Don't buy his BS about not wanting to wear one. He'll get over it. He's gonna cum either way.

The question: "did you cum yet?" are you serious? the only reason why you should be asking that question is if you have already cum 10x and you want him to get off of you. If it comes as a shock to you that he is done, then he's not doing his job right with you. Also, tell him to be vocal about it. That is HOT!! Bonus orgasm for you to watch and hear him cum.

Experiment with picking out condoms. Buy a whole bunch of different kinds and test them out. Figure out which ones work best for both of you.

Sounds like overall, you just need to communicate more clearly to what you want in the sack. Like, I said before, he's gonna cum no matter what. LOL
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