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 ankkka
Joined: 8/29/2007
Msg: 4
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You mean...I have to change my personality?

I'm real too... just carpe diem...no planning for tomorrow...
 Moonchild51
Joined: 3/11/2007
Msg: 5
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Posted: 12/27/2008 6:40:58 PM
Nope g/f! No self acceptance here! That would mean I have finished growing! Of late, I have spent a lot of time with myself. Not bad company! lol
I have things in mind for the New Year darlin. Lose that nasty 15 lbs, take a couple of law courses just for interest sake. Maybe work in some sex if I can! lmao.
All in all, in other words? No way will I ever accept myself cuz as long as I live I am going to keep learning, living and loving!
Happy New Year!
 moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 11
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Posted: 12/27/2008 9:57:11 PM
I am not chained to a calendar. Growth comes when necessary, but when there is a change in the calendar year.
 rustytraveler
Joined: 4/30/2007
Msg: 13
New Year's Resolutions:if we haven't changed by NOW, will we ever?
Posted: 12/28/2008 12:42:41 AM
I'm putting the house up for sale, does that count?
 Merrylass
Joined: 12/30/2007
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Posted: 12/28/2008 12:56:37 AM
I don't believe there ever comes a time when one ceases to require improvement. New Year's is a handy marker. I have made some changes that stuck and others that need another few whacks before they become good habits. I restart often - I'll have another go this coming New Year. I don't think it has anything to do with self-acceptance. Accepting one's imperfect self does not mean one ceases to develop!
 Brownlady1953
Joined: 12/12/2008
Msg: 15
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Posted: 12/28/2008 5:16:36 AM
Those who want to make changes in their lives, no matter how difficult, start the process when they are ready, irregardless of the date on the calendar.

Those who don't want to make changes just sit and stagnate. And we all know how something smells when it's "stagnant"........it STINKS!
 professora
Joined: 7/28/2008
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Posted: 12/28/2008 5:44:39 AM
People can change at any age...if they want to change.

At 61 I received my masters in Nursing allowing me to teach at a University. The studies were so rewarding that I entered a doctorate program and love it!

I keep a list of goals. Every year or every month (depending on circumstances) I check my goal list and see how I am doing. New Year's resolutions are a nice challenge and fun to put in place.

Peppie
 Yankee again
Joined: 1/26/2008
Msg: 20
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Posted: 12/28/2008 2:49:40 PM
I constatnly remake myself. Many people do. I make changes for me. Where my life is at this point and where I want it to go. Like a car, we need tune ups from time to time. This year the changes are radical to me. Kids have been gone over 4 years. I have made many descisions in my life concerning the care of others. I am taking a page out and taking time for me. I will be traveling a lot this year. And hopefully finding the missing part to who I am. I never knew my father and I will be meeting with his family this year for the first time in my life. I have no questions, but my curiostiy will be solved.

As I ventrure down the highway of life. I find the slow speed and shifting gears slowly agrees with me much more then when I was younger. I am enjoying the adventure. More now then when it was fast paced. I have time to stop and smell the roses.
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 21
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Posted: 12/28/2008 6:20:43 PM
...There is always room for self-improvement, that I cannot deny.....and heaven knows that I need to work on those "little character defects"....but I don't think I need to make a resolution in order to effectively make those type of changes....as someone said earlier, I am already a work in progress.

But if I was to make a New Year's resolution, it would be to spend more time with my family. I have a tendancy to get far too involved with my job much to the chargrin of my family. Right now my eldest is testing her wings and she won't be in the nest much longer...I need to enjoy these last few years with her before she takes flight.

2008 was a very eventful year for our family, for me.....I welcomed my first grandaughter who was born on March the 19th, what a day of celebration that was... and unfortunately, this year I also lost a very good friend...she passed away in early September...what a loss.

What do I want for the future, for 2009? At this point I would have loved to have said something very profound....but in all honesty, I just want to continue to be here for my family, they still need me....how selfish is that?

...maeflowers

 OldFolkie
Joined: 6/8/2008
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Posted: 12/28/2008 6:34:42 PM
That is hardly selfish, Mae. It is GOOD to be needed, and loved. My own family has been my support system in the recent past, just as I have been for them.

So my New Year's Resolution will be to continue making progress correcting my "little character defects" and making sure I will be there for my family.

Oh, and as many of you have posted, change and growth as a person are not chained down by chronology, but only by your own personal will. In the last few years I have changed dramatically, and I'm beginning to like the man I've become.
 angelwinz
Joined: 11/27/2006
Msg: 23
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Posted: 12/28/2008 6:51:25 PM
My new years day resolution this year is to take the 8-9 hours I will be driving through assorted mountain passes and snow to my mom's funeral, reflecting on the good times and let go of any bad that is still lingering. I'm figuring between concentrating on the driving, allowing my mind to reach out and feel, that this is the best resolution I can make for myself. A New Year is always a good time to reflect on what is right in my life and face whatever it is I might want to work on in the future.

Whatever each does, I wish you all A Very Happy New Year. Happy 2009 Y'all!!

 cfb62
Joined: 9/17/2007
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Posted: 12/28/2008 7:13:46 PM
I'm always trying to improve/grow.
It just depends on who you are.
I certainly can relate to the self-acceptance in a lot of ways too though.
LOVE the self-acceptance that comes with age!!!!
 catkin2007
Joined: 12/18/2007
Msg: 27
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Posted: 12/29/2008 10:36:43 AM
I don't think its about being set in your ways as much as things be too familiar. For me, I have been reevaluating life, relationships and career choices the past few months. For me, I am making life enhancing changes in 2009. Basically, it is to do what feels good to me, to be myself at all times, and to slow down and appreciate all life has to offer.

Besides, there is nothing wrong with a little self help/self awareness in our lives.
 BLoNde__ANgeL
Joined: 9/20/2011
Msg: 29
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Posted: 1/1/2012 7:24:55 AM
so here it is 3 years later, how much have any of us changes since then???

i think sometimes one small change can cause many others- the ripple effect
HAPPY 2012 EVERYONE!!!!!
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 30
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Posted: 1/1/2012 7:28:26 AM
Changing for the sake of changing is not all that bright in my opinion. Now,,,,if you actually "know" of a thing or two that you "know" will "improve" yourself,or even improve your "self worth",get a er!!!!

Me,,,I looked in the mirror this morning, and well, even I gotta admit, there's sweet phuck all that I should be tweaking. Of course, once the whiskey wears off that could change. Happy New Year all, changes or not!!!!
 zippytwo
Joined: 6/7/2006
Msg: 34
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Posted: 1/1/2012 2:45:33 PM
Nope, stopped making New Year's resolutions....if I resolve to do something I'll just do it no matter what time of the year it is.
 madm4u
Joined: 4/25/2011
Msg: 35
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Posted: 1/1/2012 3:35:00 PM
I resolve to do one thing I have always wanted to do, but never bothered, each month.
Already booked January and february,laughter yoga this month (starting gently) and caving Feb.
So I resolve to have more fun this year!
 Glenoran1
Joined: 3/1/2009
Msg: 36
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Posted: 1/1/2012 9:49:49 PM
Since I was 12, I've noticed things which need to be addressed and have done so. It's a continual work-in-progress as things come up and I recognize them. Sort of like the layers of an onion, getting closer to the core.

But I have been going to bed very late and getting up late, which cuts into the realistic time when I would be doing productive endeavours. So as of today, I've set the clock to get up at a reasonable hour, and will go to bed earlier, too. I may be retired, but I still have lots I can accomplish, and being lazy would just get in the way.

I've also started researching on the Internet the best art medium to use for the drawings I wish to paint, and art tips and tricks, etc. I've been using oils but they may not be the best choice, and I also haven't painted in 6 or more years. Time to get back at it.

But first ... I have a website for Glenora which I promised to redo in its entirety, so I'll get that done first, and do painting research in between website-design stints.

That plus the other things I'm into (gardening, orcharding, photography, etc.) should keep me out of mischief.
 LAgoodguy
Joined: 8/21/2008
Msg: 37
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Posted: 1/1/2012 11:10:54 PM
If you need to wait for the new year to change something or do something. Then you would fail at it. If you want something then do it let it be the new year or the middle of the year, Just do it. Then there are somethings that you cant change no matter what. Ever heard the saying only the grave would straighten the hunchback....
 nvc7213
Joined: 10/17/2010
Msg: 38
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Posted: 1/3/2012 9:02:11 PM
here,here thats what i was gonna say, or maybe thought and hoped someone else would post it for me
 BLONDE_ANGEL845
Joined: 6/30/2012
Msg: 39
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Posted: 12/31/2012 3:36:12 PM
Since last year I made many changes & experienced things both good & bad & am looking forward to a new year!!!
Hope everyone has a fun & safe evening!!!!!!!!!!!!
 CaptainAmericaOO7
Joined: 11/5/2012
Msg: 40
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Posted: 12/31/2012 6:09:08 PM
New Year's resolutions? I make resolutions all the time. I don't need a particular day to do it.

I resolved to do a course. It starts in 2 weeks. This is not a New Year's resolution. I booked it a month ago.

I resolved to lose weight. I have and while it goes up and down, the general trend is down.
 dennigrain
Joined: 12/23/2012
Msg: 41
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Posted: 12/31/2012 6:24:44 PM
i think the axiom "accept a person for who they are" should be a resolution for everyone to ignore. the reason relationships are coming to a screeching dead end is simply because many keep saying and doing as if those actions alone were actually true. spent my whole like in self progression researching expert advice and adjusting for appropriate healthy living. those who stand by the simple profession of "this is who i am", with never a self question or relevant research to discover if they are actually healthy, will most likely have the same relationships, over and over and over. or, in the very near future find themselves on a long empty road. yes, male and female alike. how about self progression to just feel better about yourself. once that starts to become part of the day to day you may find yourself in a very different, pleasant, kind of company.

happy days ahead and watch the clock turn tonight thinking about the possibilities for your emotional well being. :)
 SWEET_MAVERICK
Joined: 9/28/2013
Msg: 42
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Posted: 11/25/2013 6:35:41 AM
The only thing I did thus far is to draw up a budget for 2014 & I actually enjoyed doing it, LOL

It's nice not to have debt per se, you don't have that drowning, sinking feeling. Good to have financial goals even if something small, like banking 10% of your income.
 Paderic
Joined: 2/23/2010
Msg: 43
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Posted: 11/25/2013 6:55:11 AM
It's funny to see all your previous usernames in these threads.

FWIW, I put the maximum into my 401K every year. I also have a nice rainy day fund. I swore off consumer debt 25 years ago. Nothing to change on that front, my retirement will be well funded. Now I just need to concentrate on living that long...
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