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 jerzeeguy11
Joined: 5/18/2008
Msg: 1
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its really funny how things work out in the end..it seems that many people judge someone based on their appearance and therefor it is assumed that beautiful people have the world by the balls and have the opposite sex just throwing themselves at them...however, do you really think this is really true?
 mcbobly
Joined: 8/28/2005
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true or false: the most beautiful people are sometimes the lonliest people
Posted: 1/3/2009 12:53:02 AM
Don't know if it's true or not, but that is what they want us to believe. I just don't see how though, if someone is what others consider so good looking then how can they be so lonely, surely they are getting hit on all the time and can pick and choose with whom they spend their time with.
 treasured
Joined: 9/24/2007
Msg: 3
true or false: the most beautiful people are sometimes the lonliest people
Posted: 1/3/2009 12:13:16 PM
I have a similar experience. Growing up the "All American Girl" with blonde hair and other feminine attributes, I had the world giving to me, so to speak. Thank God for my mother who gave me a chunk of reality. "A rare friend will be there when you look your worst, are your poorest and at your lowest."

I have three beautiful daughters; "All American Girls" and gave them the same advice with a little twist; Be a rare friend to others.

Beauty is very fleeting and if the eye of the beholder is superficial... that relationship isn't going to last. As for being lonely? Nah, some people have been gifted with making friends standing in grocery lines...
 compleat_man
Joined: 10/3/2008
Msg: 4
true or false: the most beautiful people are sometimes the lonliest people
Posted: 1/3/2009 1:01:55 PM

Having said that, I've found that nice looking people, which is to say people with high facial symmetry and, for women, physical traits that display reproductive health (breast size, HW ratio, neotenic features), for men, physical traits that display the presence of high levels of testosterone (build, height), tend to have it easier in this world.


I would agree, more physically attractive people generally have advantages over those who are less so.

oh god, not another "feel sorry for me because I'm too beautiful" thread..

sure.. I won't waste my sympathy on starving kids in the Sudan..

I'll cry for those 'accursed' with being born beautiful into a land of plenty..

so spoiled and have everything given to them, that they get bored and whine about 'the curse of beauty'..

and pigs will fly..
 ABALL78
Joined: 10/25/2008
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true or false: the most beautiful people are sometimes the lonliest people
Posted: 1/3/2009 4:16:28 PM
When you are beautiful it seems like people are either intimidated by you, think your out of their league, ar see you as a piece of ass. When you get treated that way enough times it changes the way you look and treat other people. So yeah it probly does happen.
 junipermoon
Joined: 3/1/2006
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true or false: the most beautiful people are sometimes the lonliest people
Posted: 1/15/2009 5:37:13 PM
the loneliest people i've met have the common trait of not appreciating what the universe has handed them. they have not learned to take comfort in their 'self.' they need to have others validate them. they haven't learned true independence. they don't realize the value in enjoying solitude. or maybe they don't know how. and they feel that another person has the obligation to make them feel needed, wanted and admired.

appearance has nothing to do with loneliness. self-reliance~or lack thereof~ has everything to do with it.
 _jay_see_
Joined: 11/24/2007
Msg: 7
true or false: the most beautiful people are sometimes the lonliest people
Posted: 1/16/2009 6:24:03 AM
Beautiful women are never lonely.
 compleat_man
Joined: 10/3/2008
Msg: 8
true or false: the most beautiful people are sometimes the lonliest people
Posted: 1/16/2009 8:54:35 AM
well. many people would LIKE to believe this.

it would make life seem more "fair"..

how can someone be born with beauty AND be happy?

when I have neither..?

just like many (poorer) people LOVE to believe that EVERY financially wealthy person is miserable..

well, some are..and some are not..

OTOH, being 'ugly' and/or dirt poor is hardly a 'guarantee' of happiness and ecstasy..

I would think that other things being equal, rich and beautiful is a better life experience than poor & ugly...

ever heard of "I've been rich and I've been poor.."

not sure if there was a "I've been beautiful and I've been ugly.."

there aren't too many people who really know, because how many have experienced life as both breathtakingly beautiful, and very physically NOT attractive?

(barring a major accident, etc.)
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 9
true or false: the most beautiful people are sometimes the lonliest people
Posted: 1/16/2009 9:38:42 AM
we all get hit on--just not always by someone we find attractive. But beautiful people, of course, get better choices if they decide to "settle", than the less-physically-attractive people.

I've known a lot of attractive people, and some felt lonely while they were in a relationship, w/ someone who was just using them. So, yes, everyone can feel lonely. But if you are talking about companionship, no, all the beautiful people I met, after their breakups, didn't stay alone any longer than they wished to. But, that's what happen when you are allowed options...you tend to take them

And, when you have plenty of options, the question remains--why did you end up with the bad one? We typically surround ourselves with what makes us feel comfortable, not what makes us feel uncomfortable. If a beautiful person grew up relying on their looks, rather than developing a sense of security, a personality, consideration, interests and hobbies, etc, then...well, guess who they will always prefer, and choose, to date? Similar people. And the result can be, and typically is, yes, loneliness even when they are coupled up. Our 50% divorce rate doesn't come out of nowhere.
 LAgoodguy
Joined: 8/21/2008
Msg: 10
true or false: the most beautiful people are sometimes the lonliest people
Posted: 7/31/2012 11:01:07 PM
What many guys learned is that most of the women who would be considered a 9+ .. Also tend to be more demanding. When younger guys used to chase them, The women got used to get away with more and have more choices in who they want to date. Same time most of the guys learned that when you date a pretty woman it takes more to win her. They also tend to expect more from the guys. In terms of looks and money. So now when we got older we look at a real good looking woman and from past experience we think to our selves that it would be too much effort and work to catch her and keep her. Most guys rather not waste time. The thing is that the pretty ones knowing or not still act same way as they did when younger. When they just know they can do better then the guy that is there now.. So when you do have that one nice and good looking woman most of the guys rather not bother with her. Just from our past experience of asking the pretty girl out.
 Sweet_Danimal
Joined: 6/22/2012
Msg: 11
true or false: the most beautiful people are sometimes the lonliest people
Posted: 7/31/2012 11:02:38 PM

I was just told this the other day and after reading the above comment feel even more lonely. The men in my life become insecure over time and excessively jealous and has always ended in an abusive relationship!


I don't want to assume much about your personal character, but being close friends with a couple attractive ladies who are stuck in this same relationship loop, I'm to tell you something you don't want to hear... YOU decided to go out with these insecure guys.

Don't get me wrong - all guys don't like competition, and they do react unfavorably to it, but the over-confident and c*cky types that get the girls' eye most of the time are ALSO the guys that snap and get angry and abusive when things don't go their way. Alphas HAVE to be the Alphas - otherwise it's your fault.

Guys that have a more stable character are not going to be the wildly outgoing people that 'hit' on you and charm the hell out of you at bars and clubs - they are usually more polite about approaching a lady, and may not even attempt it in a typical social space. These 'nice guys' will still be jealous of competition, but they are a lot better at handling their feelings and usually will be able to communicate them better without getting violent or abusive.


I go dancing and only the drunkest toothless slob asks me to dance.


I know you are exaggerating a bit, but... What is stopping YOU from asking the GUY to dance? The short answer is - nothing. Ladies, there are so many guys out there that can really rock your world, but they lack just one little crumb of confidence to act on it. If you give that confidence to them - sometimes even with the smallest gesture - it can do so, SO much to help them get their mojo back. It's like the difference between shooting a bullet -- and throwing it.
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The amazing part is once women feel they have found their 'chemistry' with a guy, they drive themselves crazy trying to keep it. Ladies go into confidence-building overdrive and bend over backwards to try to keep your man happy. Normal, decent, TRULY confident guys don't need that kind of daily childish coddling and encouragement - they just need YOU to ask THEM to dance, and that's all it takes.
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To answer the OP's main question; true or false: the most beautiful people are sometimes the loneliest people...
This isn't a question that CAN be answered. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and Loneliness is in the eye of the sufferer. You can't compare true beauty any more than you can compare true loneliness.
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I live by myself - no kids, no pets, heck not even any plants to talk to; but I have neighbors, relatives, and friends that I can contact, and there are people in here always responding to questions in the forums. Do I feel lonely sometimes? Sure. Am I the loneliest person? Hell, NO.

Am I beautiful? Well ladies, that's for you to decide. Why don't you ask me to dance and find out for yourself.
 BLONDE_ANGEL845
Joined: 6/30/2012
Msg: 12
true or false: the most beautiful people are sometimes the lonliest people
Posted: 8/1/2012 5:59:46 AM
I consider myself "attractive" for a woman my age, but what I do notice is in my age category, many less attractive women try very, very hard, chasing men, offering to pay 4 everything, cooking meals all the time, bending over backwards for a man, twisting themself into a pretzel, so- they may have more relationships cuz they put so much energy into it- like a full time job.

I'd rather not have to do all of that or be all of that to "get" a date or a relationship...I've been hurt & burned, I want someone who will put as much if not more effort & energy into pursuit as I do.

I am "alone" alot, but rarely lonely. Being w/ someone you have to "buy" is a very lonely experience...Using sex & meals in exchange for a relationship is pretty sad.
 jeep1127girl
Joined: 12/31/2009
Msg: 13
true or false: the most beautiful people are sometimes the lonliest people
Posted: 8/1/2012 9:23:53 AM
Yes...attractive people get treated better..We dont have to throw ourselves at the opposite sex, they usually come to us.
 Sweet_Danimal
Joined: 6/22/2012
Msg: 14
true or false: the most beautiful people are sometimes the lonliest people
Posted: 8/1/2012 10:41:23 AM
One of my friends is a 45 year old, knockout blonde, who gets online dates just about every weekend, and until a few weeks ago was getting regular booty calls from an off-duty cop every weekend. We were having a discussion about several things that were causing stress, and she actually said, "You know, it's really hard nowadays trying to find someone to have sex with."

I had to bite my lip until it almost bled. I'm not going to give out exact numbers, but the last time I had sex could be timed with multiple calendars. Sorry, people - loneliness is TOTALLY a self-obsessed perspective. I'm not going to get into arguments about quality over quantity, because some people's perspectives are frankly f*cked up.
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 15
true or false: the most beautiful people are sometimes the lonliest people
Posted: 8/1/2012 12:23:00 PM
I have not seen any correlation between beauty and loneliness. If anything, I have seen that beauty attracts other people and if you are also a beautiful person inside, you are never alone, even when you are by yourself. In the other hand I have met some very lonely people that were quite ugly. They were ugly because they approached life as such. They did not care about their appearance, or how others perceived them. They are those that when you see them monday morning and ask them how was their weekend, they make a snide remark and say "It was okay" or "it was so so."

Sometimes that negative way of looking at the world can be masked by beauty, and we allow them into our fold simply because they are beautiful and allows them to get away with it.

My ex was a very lonely person. She was quite beautiful, but it was not her beauty the culprit but that she was bipolar and when she suffered from the depression side it took her down tremendously.
 colt8301
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 16
true or false: the most beautiful people are sometimes the lonliest people
Posted: 8/1/2012 1:56:12 PM

They were ugly because they approached life as such. They did not care about their appearance, or how others perceived them. They are those that when you see them monday morning and ask them how was their weekend, they make a snide remark and say "It was okay" or "it was so so."


Lol, I always knew I was ugly, I'm now just learning to embrace it, since I'm ugly I have to act accordingly.

On that note, I can't bring myself to feel sorry for "beautiful" people. They have enough breaks, if they are alone it's because they choose to be. Uglie like myself, being by our self was never an option.
 FisherMane2012
Joined: 11/14/2011
Msg: 17
true or false: the most beautiful people are sometimes the lonliest people
Posted: 8/1/2012 2:07:51 PM
Completely true. As a beautiful person myself, I can tell you it's not all it's cracked up to be. I get hit on by loser women all the time, but never the good, attractive ones. Perhaps they find me intimidating. Sure these loser women are nice to me, but they just want to get in my pants. I'm beautiful and I refuse to settle! Inevitably, loneliness will set in. People are always complimenting my looks, but I'm so much more than that! I've sometimes gotten jobs that uglier applicants were more qualified for, due to my handsomeness. Sometimes, they even pay me more than they should! When I get pulled over for speeding, it's not unusual for me not to even get a ticket because I'm so pretty. Often, people try to win me over by being nice to me, buying me stuff, or doing me favors - but they are only doing it because I'm so attractive. Azzholes! Sometimes I wish I could just be ugly......well, not really.
 FisherMane2012
Joined: 11/14/2011
Msg: 18
true or false: the most beautiful people are sometimes the lonliest people
Posted: 8/1/2012 2:37:16 PM
@ Lynxx1337

Side note: I'm also rich, which sucks for ALL of the same reason as being beautiful. Just take what I wrote and replace the words like "pretty", "handsome" and "pants" with "money" and "wallet". Beautiful people have it easy compared to folks like me. The beautiful AND rich get a double dose of all of that nonsense. No one realizes how hard life really is - especially broke, ugly people. Sometimes I just want to give away my fortune.....well not really.
 Sweet_Danimal
Joined: 6/22/2012
Msg: 19
true or false: the most beautiful people are sometimes the lonliest people
Posted: 8/1/2012 2:43:58 PM
"Don't hate me because I'm pretty...."
No, we hate you because you're a prick/b1tch.

The Alpha (LOOK AT ME) attention-getters that do everything in their power to be the prettiest in the room, work SO hard to demand attention, that frankly they have NO CLUE what it's like to be ordinary after a while. They literally can't make it on their own anymore. They FEED off attention and STARVE for it when they are not getting any. They get bored instantly; get moody, and frankly get depressed over time. They're always going to be strung out looking for more attention, because it's better than being bored and lonely. It's pretty much the same as being hooked on a drug.

I have friends who are singers and actresses, attractive as hell, and have miserable love lives basically because there is nothing any boyfriend can do that compares to that 'rush' of applause they get when they are performing. Their answer is to keep fishing for the extremely wealthy or connected individuals that have a few dozen extreme hobbies that keep them busy. It's just replacing one rush with another. Nothing changes.
 notreallythere331
Joined: 8/1/2010
Msg: 20
true or false: the most beautiful people are sometimes the lonliest people
Posted: 8/1/2012 3:56:31 PM
The truth is everyone gets lonely. But somehow society thinks attractive people are immune to loneliness which isn't the case. I consider myself fairly attractive, but rarely have guys ever thrown themselves at me. Atleast not the ones I want lol. Loneliness is universal.
 lobo65
Joined: 6/9/2009
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true or false: the most beautiful people are sometimes the lonliest people
Posted: 8/1/2012 5:57:16 PM
I've had women tell me I am attractive, but it doesn't matter. Shyness plays no favorites.
 soicat
Joined: 7/16/2012
Msg: 22
true or false: the most beautiful people are sometimes the lonliest people
Posted: 8/1/2012 10:11:58 PM
Serephena - you know, you and Lobo would make a lovely couple...

Modesto revived this thread, and it's quite an interesting one. I think that the less attractive among us - alright, me - believe that their lives would be immeasurably better if they were better looking, but apparently beauty is not the ticket to happiness after all.
 cdg2688
Joined: 7/8/2012
Msg: 23
true or false: the most beautiful people are sometimes the lonliest people
Posted: 8/1/2012 10:54:16 PM
hmmm...maybe I misread your post, but isn't assuming that most beautiful people are stuck up and all about "Me Me Me" judging a book by its cover? lol.
 Sweet_Danimal
Joined: 6/22/2012
Msg: 24
true or false: the most beautiful people are sometimes the lonliest people
Posted: 8/2/2012 4:55:55 AM
Part of appearing more 'lonely' is that popular/attractive people like making their issues everyone else's as well.

I've lost track of how many 'princesses' post angry man-hating status messages and internet feel-good memes in Facebook. It's usually a quick knee-jerk reaction to a situation they are not familiar with - and most of us ordinary joes that deal with adversity all the time just sit back and laugh at how absurd their claims of 'pain' really sound.
 FishOwl
Joined: 12/13/2008
Msg: 25
true or false: the most beautiful people are sometimes the lonliest people
Posted: 8/2/2012 9:10:09 PM
Physical beauty may be an attractor but it does not indicate a keeper.

Like getting a present. What's left after the wrapping is gone?
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