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Joined: 6/12/2005
Msg: 1
I have never had an orgasmPage 1 of 4    (1, 2, 3, 4)
You want to know something that is hard to believe.. Unless guys really suck.. Iam a 22 slim girl and I have never had an orgasm.... Is that bad or what? and if you have any advise for me or If you know what i can do. Than plz let me know..
Joined: 6/12/2005
Msg: 2
Posted: 6/23/2005 6:26:58 PM
You see I can only have an orgasm if i play with my self. But i cant have one while Iam having sex? weird eh
Joined: 6/18/2005
Msg: 3
Posted: 6/24/2005 12:00:23 AM
How much time are you spending on foreplay? And how comfortable are you with your partners?
Joined: 11/11/2006
Msg: 4
Posted: 6/24/2005 1:23:51 AM
some women just aren't capable of a vaginal orgasm,and need clitoral stimulation during intercouse. I'd advise your being on top, or introducing toys with penetration.
Joined: 5/28/2005
Msg: 5
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Posted: 6/24/2005 8:31:53 AM
just let me have a go??????????lol

lots of foreplay...........get a man who knows what hes doing.........

and most of all relax big time

Joined: 5/18/2005
Msg: 6
Posted: 6/24/2005 12:48:29 PM
conner... u have lots to learn, maman...
Joined: 5/18/2005
Msg: 7
Posted: 6/24/2005 1:23:05 PM
Melissa, it's not necessarily "bad". As the people above have said, it's mainly about relaxation and that's not your fault necessarily... could be clumsy guys or guys who just don't know how to help you relax. There are some people that are just like that...

Orgasms are like: the harder you "try" the less you relax...

Actually it is kind of a complicated process, but if you relax it will cum naturally.
Joined: 5/18/2005
Msg: 8
Posted: 6/24/2005 3:40:10 PM
cconner... look at this FIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIINE looking lady up here^

Do you think she doesn't know what cooks?

Another thing: you're probably not going to believe this, but women can have four orgasms within seconds or minutes of each other...

once women get in the groove they are MULTI-orgasmic!!!

Now, I'm not tryin to take CREDIT for that...

....but we older people here haven't been just watching the grass grow. :-D

We've had a little bit of fun and we're just trying to give you kids good advice.

Joined: 4/24/2005
Msg: 9
Posted: 6/24/2005 3:53:20 PM
ya need a real man. look me up.
Joined: 5/18/2005
Msg: 10
Posted: 6/24/2005 4:14:10 PM
she sure looks like a real woman from here.
looks like all original parts too!!!
Classy chassis... nice grill...great interior even.
Joined: 5/8/2005
Msg: 11
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Posted: 6/24/2005 7:12:15 PM
yeah what he said lol
Joined: 11/11/2006
Msg: 12
Posted: 6/24/2005 8:20:02 PM

only 4 percent of girls can actually have an orgasm while having sex

I totally don't believe this statistic....I'd love to see your sources
( ACCCCKKKK....this is why I stay out of current events 'cause they require those damned *I'M* doing it....I need a drink)
that 4 percent of women cAn't have VAGINAL orgasms during sex I might buy.
Joined: 11/11/2006
Msg: 13
Posted: 6/24/2005 10:00:17 PM
For the answer to your sexual dilemma, experience makes the difference

YES!!!!!!!...find a man who knows what he's doing
trust me that's NEVER a bad idea
(you won't get any flak from me , darlin')
Joined: 4/10/2005
Msg: 14
Posted: 6/24/2005 10:17:23 PM
my ex could get the big O from just some licking behind the ears...she just turns flush red........and then
lift off......................
explore.... explore...explore and you shall christopher columbus did....The earth is not flat....neither is sexuality.............
I say dump all the self help books and explore using your primal faculties that you were born with.
Joined: 6/27/2005
Msg: 15
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Posted: 6/27/2005 6:21:44 PM
Well then I c u need alittle help!!! but really I would like to chat with u about other things too!! if u like to reply ..... I'm handsomebwonderfull
Joined: 6/12/2005
Msg: 16
Posted: 6/27/2005 7:07:58 PM
Well there are some girls that i know. That never had an orgasm also and they say they just fake it..Guys would think they had one but they really did not.. But I gguess some girls only have there first one by there selfs
Joined: 4/11/2004
Msg: 17
Posted: 6/27/2005 8:07:35 PM
It's not all about technique, 50% of it is mental.
You have to be in the right state of mind or it's not going to happen.

You have to shut all other thoughts out of your head and focus on your
partner and what is happening to your senses.

For me, it only happens when I am totally into the person I am with, and
making love is like becoming one with that person. Powerful stuff!!!
Joined: 7/7/2005
Msg: 18
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I have never had an orgasm
Posted: 8/27/2005 11:34:24 AM
you only need a good lover thats all,
Joined: 8/19/2005
Msg: 19
I have never had an orgasm
Posted: 8/27/2005 11:50:52 AM
Hunny you need me.I think you have had bad guys.I would do you for about 3 hours and then i bet you would!

Joined: 7/9/2005
Msg: 20
Posted: 8/27/2005 12:05:24 PM
My ex could not get the Big O thru intercourse. Only oral. It was hard on my ego. I think it was a mental thing. She never masterbated. One has to know thier own boby first. believe me I tryed everything books,videos.booz.gel.
Joined: 8/27/2005
Msg: 21
I have never had an orgasm
Posted: 8/27/2005 12:51:08 PM
No way! that sux. No guy has ever touched your G-Spot? Do you even know where your G-Spot is? That is the easiest way I would make you have an ORGASM, that should take about anywhere form 5-10 mnts. Then the SEX is like 100% better (that is when doggie style will come in to good use after your ORGIE<<<.

You will want it to last forever.
Joined: 2/23/2005
Msg: 22
I have never had an orgasm
Posted: 8/27/2005 9:15:59 PM
^^^^^ I totally agree with that statement. Every guy says that, yet I have only found one guy that can do it for me.
Joined: 5/21/2005
Msg: 23
I have never had an orgasm
Posted: 8/27/2005 9:44:25 PM
to those of you men who have said, do it for hours , meaning vaginally,... honestly , many of us women don't like one who goes all night and bangs for hours ! that is reminicent to the porno flicks with the bad music of the 70's! I think if you took a pole in here, the majority of women, love to make love, love making love WITH her partner, sex, well heck, we can do that alone just as you guys can! True orgasms for the majority are not vaginal, the absolute best lovers are those who find oral sex, and manual stimulation erotic, long slow passionate, and most of all, the best lovers are 'artists' they treat every woman as a new canvas, something to explore, and to create..........guys, the BIG BANG theorum is out!
Joined: 8/22/2005
Msg: 24
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I have never had an orgasm
Posted: 8/27/2005 11:08:08 PM
Hi melissa22,

Hopefully you've had some luck in the last couple of months, but if not I'll offer my advice (it's free--take it for what it's worth ;):

There have been many good suggestions in this thread--mainly (imho), relax and enjoy it, and (get hime to!) focus on foreplay. More foreplay (& I include oral in foreplay) is pretty much always better.

One position that might work for you is with you on the top, facing him, with him roughly perpendicular. I believe this is the position 4 at_fates_gate was mentioning in msg 10. Your goal is grind you hips forward (towards his chest) and back (towards his feet) while rubbing your clit against his ab muscles. Down correctly you are not intentionally moving up and down his penis at all, but instead forward and back along his lower abs (& always contacting his lower abs). On his part, he needs to experiment with flexing his abs and adjusting the angle of his hips for maximum effect (and changing it up just for variety ;). You should position yourself further forward (towards his chest) or backward ,depending on his size, to hit your g-spot. Note that this position/motion is not intrinsically pleasureable for him (normally it's an up/down motion that works for the guys), and the grinding is done poorly--or too vigorously when he's not very excited--can fold him backwards (ouch!) So be careful for his sake! Because of the rubbing involved, public hair length and coarseness also matters--the last thing you want is razor burn down there! Done with enthusiasm and (hopefully!) enjoyment it can be pleasurable for him as well (maybe that's just me though...)

Best of luck! :)
Joined: 4/10/2005
Msg: 25
I have never had an orgasm
Posted: 8/27/2005 11:44:30 PM
get a koala boy...vibrator......300,000 women cant be wrong...

or is that what the advertizers say...I dont know
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