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 luv2lol
Joined: 2/18/2007
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Only she can really answer this question so you might want to ask her...also I don't know how long ago she broke up with you, why she did, or how your relationship is now (e.g. just friends or she's asking for you back - how is it that she's not letting go?) but it could be a few things...

- she may be playing games as a way of testing you to see how much you care or if you will change something for her. Especially if she had complained about you perhaps not behaving in some way that she believes a boyfriend should behave (paying more attention to her, really listening to her, etc). So she still likes you, her heart is still with you but logically her head is saying you aren't meeting the "standard" and she should end it...thus the head won out that day at work but she's having a hard time walking away due to her heart. Being emotional creatures we can change how we feel on an hourly basis, lol
- she could be trying to keep you as the back up guy...so she can go check things out, perhaps even a certain someone, but she's keeping you close so if she wants to come back she thinks she can.
-she might just want to be friends

Just ask her though instead of driving yourself nuts. Hopefully she will be open enough to just let you know.
 luv2lol
Joined: 2/18/2007
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Why do people like to play games?
Posted: 1/13/2009 8:13:28 PM
Ahhh. Ya she sounds immature...and that she might be wanting to keep you on the sidelines. Dumping by text is a sign of a coward unless you somehow weren't making time to talk to her or something. Then she had no other choice.

I've learned one way to make an immature person go away...be straight forward and ask them why they are doing what they are doing (confront her). Usually they will chicken out and go away...poof gone. If you play into the immature games they will keep them up. If by chance they don't and they try to ignore the question and talk to you again...ask again. Either get an answer or make her go away...you'll feel better either way. For some more entertainment try it when you are on the phone...it's harder to say the phone line went dead then they lost their internet connection. lol

Do you think you could do that? And why haven't you asked her already?
 luv2lol
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Why do people like to play games?
Posted: 1/13/2009 8:22:29 PM
Hate the player as they define the game...or lack there of.
 Confident-Realist
Joined: 2/8/2004
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Why do people like to play games?
Posted: 1/15/2009 11:24:41 AM
Your situation is pretty simple on the general level. She broke up with you and she regretted it. She misses you. It's called emotions. The details as to why it all went down in the first place -- who knows. Maybe you weren't a good boyfriend, her gal-pals convinced her to break up with you, she did knowing it was the right decision, but at the same time, still wants you. Maybe she hastily threw you to the curb, and now is regretting it, but out of pride isn't going to say she wants to start a relationship again, because you've moved on and she'll get rejected.

When people break up, they still have feelings for the other person. Never assume everyone out there in post-breakup-land is going to have near-zero feelings for another person. People try to act that way, and many can do a great job at it.
 mthomjmark
Joined: 2/27/2008
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Why do people like to play games?
Posted: 1/19/2009 10:48:39 AM
Who cares why; stop being a victim and take control of the situation; you obviously want her still.

The way you will still communicate with her, it's obvious you were way more into her than she was into you.

Dump her tell her to leave you alone and stop talking to her; have self respect and make her respect you. You are not writing a book; you dont need to know why; you just need it to stop.
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