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 GeneralizingNow
Joined: 10/10/2007
Msg: 6
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I have a friend who is REALY, REALLY loud (MALE, BTW). I find it hilarious AFTER the fact, but have to admit if he were a little quieter, I would enjoy myself more. He gets me out of my zone, a little, because I start thinking about the neighbors (all really conservative couples). Plus, if a man is saying things to ME during sex, it's , well, sexy. If he's saying it to the people across the street it's embarrassing.

I've never asked him to be quiet, though. Hey, I thought it was only women who tried to change men???
 blonde chickie
Joined: 11/3/2005
Msg: 9
Ever asked your partner to keep it down ?
Posted: 1/23/2009 9:43:58 AM
Nothing wrong being loud. I happen to be very vocal and loud myself
 c_deacon
Joined: 3/13/2005
Msg: 10
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Posted: 1/23/2009 9:54:29 AM
Nothing is more fun than to walk out of a hotel room, or vacation condo, and watch the people watching you because of all the "loud sounds" coming from your direction...................

The looks on faces, and comments made to each other, or to you, about wondering what was going on in there, but now understood much better, is priceless......

I enjoy my partner being loud as well, with moans and groans, comments about what is good or things that need to be done, screams of pleasure, etc., because not only does it encourage me that I am doing what is enjoyed, but it also turns me on that much more.

If there IS a time that we just might need to "hold it down some", that is why that "extra" pillow was placed on the bed.......for that, or for "other" reasons......

Just my opinion.......
 Blondecharmthe3rd
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 15
Ever asked your partner to keep it down ?
Posted: 1/23/2009 1:24:40 PM
Depends on where I am. Not going to scream my head off and wake one of my children so home base is a "quiet zone."
 chameleonf
Joined: 12/22/2008
Msg: 16
Ever asked your partner to keep it down ?
Posted: 1/23/2009 1:27:46 PM
Never asked my partner to keep it down....but have asked him to keep it up!
 textodd11
Joined: 10/27/2006
Msg: 17
Ever asked your partner to keep it down ?
Posted: 1/23/2009 1:38:13 PM
I have. I could care less about the neighbors but waking up my son and having him stumble in asking, "Daddy, what are you doing to her?" would be really awkward.

"Well son, when two people really love one another..."
 forum_froggie
Joined: 1/14/2009
Msg: 19
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Posted: 1/23/2009 2:04:24 PM
Years ago I used to live above two retired nuns.

They thought I was a good Catholic girl
 forum_froggie
Joined: 1/14/2009
Msg: 20
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Posted: 1/23/2009 2:10:22 PM
Or should we blame it on porn actors/actresses?

Just a thought.
 GeneralizingNow
Joined: 10/10/2007
Msg: 21
Ever asked your partner to keep it down ?
Posted: 1/23/2009 3:56:49 PM
Well, other primates, or at least chimps, have an assignation of an average of
SIX (6) Seconds (SECONDS!!). So, please...I'd rather have my human male for the full 2 minutes. (Also, human males have larger penises, MUCH larger--woo hoo for us! Humans RULE!)

I do think being loud is learned. But it is sort of hot, so there must be something to that, right?
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 23
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Posted: 1/23/2009 4:28:40 PM
Ever asked your partner to keep it down ?

Only once.......but it was the difference of going to jail or not!!!
 god_of_rock
Joined: 1/17/2009
Msg: 24
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Posted: 1/24/2009 11:23:18 AM
I've asked my next-door neighbors to keep it down before.

actually when the woman insisted on screaming " OH GOD! OH GOD!" repeatedly at the top of her lungs, repeatedly at about 3-4 a.m. every day and waking me up.

I opened my window and yelled back in my deepest, loudest voice:

"this is GOD speaking.. PLEASE do NOT talk to me while you are fvcking!!'

they seemed to keep it down a bit after that.

I mean, really, be uninhibited.

but some people REALLY over-dramatize..act like they are in a cheap porn flick

I suspect that some people are so proud they are getting laid that they want to make sure 'the whole world' knows..

"listen..I'm getting fvcked!!..I'm so proud of me!"

really, it's not THAT special..millions of people around the world are doing it each day..so..no need to announce it at 140 dB's to the whole world..IMO
 luv2lol
Joined: 2/18/2007
Msg: 26
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Posted: 1/24/2009 12:41:54 PM
I've never asked my partner to keep it down but I have asked for them to turn it up...it's a HUGE turn on and who doesn't like positive feedback....but I admit I've been asked (yep those residence walls are thin - so are camping tents!!). Yes it is "controllable" but when you are in a room you sorta tune out the outside world and don't pay attention to that stuff...you're a little lost in the moment. I think that varies depending on if it is YOUR neighbours or not too. Also it seems to have to be re-directed into something else...the embrace is tighter, the kissing is harder...also focusing on working the kegels helps for me. It gives me something to focus on so the primal side calms down and it works best when holding in air...thus nothing coming out to make noise with.
 ForeverLong
Joined: 11/22/2007
Msg: 27
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Posted: 1/24/2009 1:02:24 PM
Only when doing it outside!
 w/ehappenz
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 32
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Posted: 1/26/2009 7:44:54 AM
I was on vacation with my ex and we were going at it in the room and the next room over we heard a couple getting loud and we were laughing while we were going out it and they were so loud they woke up their little baby cause we heard it start to cry lol
 cw35
Joined: 4/8/2005
Msg: 34
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Posted: 1/26/2009 12:14:41 PM
I think the whole screaming thing seems a little phony. It's overdramatic and is probably a sure sign that someone is faking it or watches way too many adult films and thinks they have to scream non stop to please someone. Moaning seems normal but I would be very suspicious of someone if they started wailing at the top of their lungs.
 american-woman
Joined: 11/10/2008
Msg: 41
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Posted: 1/28/2009 2:30:36 PM
My boyfriend has given me SCREAMING orgasms...I could not keep it in even if I tried.
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