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 techgirl27
Joined: 9/5/2005
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OK so I got that far, that in itself is pretty good. (someone not on POF, btw)

When he gets my number, how can I say that I'm happy to talk to him anytime without looking cheesy?

And the next question is, do guys really WANT girls to be available for calls? Sounds dumb but the "always available" approach screams 'loser' and the "available for you" screams desperation for that person. And if you see what happens, or play it by ear, one missed call because your phone is charging or got left in your car could blow your chances. Urgh.
 CMonster
Joined: 12/4/2004
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OK so guy asks for my number, how do I not blow it?
Posted: 1/27/2009 2:41:14 PM

Just say, "Call me when you have a chance. My schedule is pretty open these days."

Or she could ask "Three day rule?"
 techgirl27
Joined: 9/5/2005
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OK so guy asks for my number, how do I not blow it?
Posted: 1/27/2009 2:43:56 PM
I hear ya on the missed calls thing. I wish I could say I had better than a 0% success rate with that though. Every one has got me no answer when I call back or any further calls.
 Stray__Cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 4
OK so guy asks for my number, how do I not blow it?
Posted: 1/27/2009 3:42:29 PM
Most girls who send me a number...
just send me a number in their message and leave it at that.
If I don't know what to do with it or can't operate a phone than I'm obviously eliminated from their dating pool.
However being savvy to girl thinking I always write back:
"When would be best to reach you?"

That way the girl doesn't have to hang about all day and wonder.
Plus that gives the girl a chance to not answer and see how I sound first on voice mail.
LOL.
Some girls are shy(or cagey) like that.

If a girl leaves a voice mail I'll respond.

It's pretty ironclad that if a number is not called or voicemail not returned...
the interest is just not there and move on.
 myrealityis
Joined: 8/31/2008
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OK so guy asks for my number, how do I not blow it?
Posted: 1/27/2009 4:03:49 PM
Here’s my opinion:

This is a perfect example of how men and women think quite differently, and how most women try to convey personality value through actions, whereas men use words. This is not a debate about which approach is better, I’m just trying to point out to bassgirl747 why and how she should act in this case.

If he is a nice guy, with good intentions and what most would consider a desirable person there is no harm in telling him that you would love to hear from him and your schedule is fairly open. By mixing your actions and words up to convey a message about yourself that is not necessarily true of your feelings you will cause a lot of “nice guys” to freak out, and you could sabotage yourself in so many ways I can’t even think of where to start; I have a lot of women tell me to call anytime, and it does not change my opinion of them one bit.

Good luck.
 jmn120176
Joined: 9/14/2006
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OK so guy asks for my number, how do I not blow it?
Posted: 1/27/2009 4:37:09 PM
Just smile and say, "I look forward to hearing from you." Then walk away.

If he didn't want you to be available for calls, he wouldn't have taken your number. Or, he wouldn't have bothered talking with you in the first place. Interest is interest. Try not to overcomplicate things.
 c_deacon
Joined: 3/13/2005
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Posted: 1/27/2009 4:44:45 PM
Give him your number and be happy when that call arrives. Or, take his number and call him some time and say....."remember me?"......

The one thing you need to remember, and to many make this mistake, and that is to expect someone to answer your call all the time. There are many times that people can be busy with family and friends, or doing business, and will not answer their personal phone until they have the time and place to do so.

I have let my phone go to message many many times, and it has little to do with the person calling, and most times I do not even look to see who might be calling, and much more to do with time and situation of where I am, what I am doing, and who I am with.

Trust me though, if I get a call, I will return it, and I expect that you might not be able to answer either, and I will leave a good time to call me back then, or you can me.....

Just my opinion.......
 LukeMM23
Joined: 4/2/2006
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OK so guy asks for my number, how do I not blow it?
Posted: 1/27/2009 5:24:29 PM
Personally, "cheesy" is not even part of my vocab. It's incredibly sexy when a woman clearly states that she wants a guy to talk to her.

And yeah, I'd like the girls I'm interested in to be available.
 Bewildered100
Joined: 11/27/2007
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Posted: 1/27/2009 6:38:39 PM
1 - don't overthink this...you're whittling it to bits!

2 - get his number and make the first call. The rest will follow on its own.
 Invictus01
Joined: 2/20/2008
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OK so guy asks for my number, how do I not blow it?
Posted: 1/27/2009 10:04:58 PM

In you are interested in the guy, if a guy ask, give him your number. Be available; the guy will appreciate it. If you don't answer, most likely the guy will call back. However, if you are too difficult to contact, the guy will stop calling.


Kelley forgot to mention to ask for a bank statement while you are at it... and the resume too.
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