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 stephaniezowie
Joined: 7/29/2006
Msg: 7
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I don't think we can decide who we love.
I never understood the ppl who believe that.
Would be nice though if I could.
 Landra
Joined: 9/10/2007
Msg: 10
Do we choose who we love?
Posted: 2/1/2009 3:35:56 PM
There's a big difference between "falling in love" and
"entering into a relationship".
The former is all about infatuation, lust, and feelings.
The latter is about a partnership. It's a decision.
 cookie22222
Joined: 8/4/2007
Msg: 14
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Posted: 2/2/2009 7:00:39 AM
The heart wants what the heart wants...we can nip things in the bud, or walk away when we know it isn't good for us - but that doesn't mean we chose to love - we just did. I can think of plenty of fun, attractive, good men I've met - who I knew I wasn't going to love. It makes me sad sometimes. Of course, not everyone is the same - love can mean very different things to people, and can, I believe, have depths and nuances that vary from person to person. But personally I'm amazed that anyone thinks they can control their hearts is either deluded - hasn't met "the one" - or only using half of it.
 _jay_see_
Joined: 11/24/2007
Msg: 21
Do we choose who we love?
Posted: 2/7/2009 11:13:45 PM
I think we can't choose, and for that reason, I've cut love out of my life entirely, since it tends to be uncontrolled and to cause more problems than it supposedly "solves".
 dannyr0697
Joined: 9/23/2006
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Do we choose who we love?
Posted: 2/8/2009 1:12:14 PM
Absolutely NOT.
Hence the saying,"You can lead a heart to love, but you can't make it fall."

I have female friends, right now, this minute, any one of which could be mine IF I could make myself love them. Great ladies all. But friends only. (sigh)

Anyway, Absolutely NOT.


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