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 mrcyrus
Joined: 1/26/2009
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You'll never hook a decent guy by trying to hook him. If you do that you'll catch all the insecure ones, though!

Just be interesting. Do you ever call them for a second date or to see what's up?

Describe one of these dates that went 'very well', it might be easier to help you out with that information.
 mrcyrus
Joined: 1/26/2009
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Posted: 2/2/2009 1:23:34 AM
Do you ever avoid giving them more information when they ask for it and want to help you out? That could scare someone off.

It's VERY easy to scare somebody off, and you might do it without even realizing it. Did you even bring up marriage/kids/whatoldagehomeyouwanttoretiretowiththeminfortyyears? If the dates actually went really well, like you say, you could just be dating jerks.

But based on this issue you're having, they might only be going really well for you. Are you going out for drinks? Is the conversation good?
 mrcyrus
Joined: 1/26/2009
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Posted: 2/2/2009 1:25:36 AM
Oh, okay.

If this guy says he wants to see you again but he's too busy, there's a good chance he's playing around. Ask him when he's NOT busy, make a date for then, and if it doesn't happen then you should move on immediately. Regardless of how busy somebody gets, if they want to see you badly enough they'll make the time.

Also, keep in mind that saying 'we should hang out sometime' and not making a definitive date never works out.
 LukeMM23
Joined: 4/2/2006
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Posted: 2/2/2009 1:28:48 AM
You could call them. But you might try to show them that you're not interested in just having one date. By that, I mean, some guys like to chase girls. Obviously, some guys don't. If they don't want to put up a chase, they probably don't want anything more than sex.

Guys are pigs sometimes.
 mrcyrus
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Posted: 2/2/2009 1:42:32 AM
She's right about the chase, but keep in mind you're not going to hook the right guy that way. Boys reach a point in their lives when they suddenly become men, and chasing girls is no longer very appealing. Pursuing a woman's pretty different.
 Write Time
Joined: 12/29/2008
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Posted: 2/2/2009 1:49:51 AM
Be engaging. Be open. Ask questions. Listen to the answers. Look for points in common, vs. where you're apart. Laugh liberally. And if you're open to a return engagement, make sure you convey that point.

Most important, just be genuine -- be you. That's the best bait any of us can use.
 Greyfeld
Joined: 1/11/2007
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Posted: 2/2/2009 2:04:48 AM
Generally when you hit guy after guy after guy that aren't interested past the first date, it's something you're doing wrong to either attract those sort of guys, or scare guys away.

Unfortunately, with such limited information, nobody can really determine what the problem is, except you.
 mrcyrus
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Posted: 2/2/2009 2:45:38 AM

how is persuing a woman diffrent?


Women aren't girls. Hard to explain, I guess.
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