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 Landra
Joined: 9/10/2007
Msg: 2
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I've found that, even though I might want to resist, accepting reality sooner rather than later is the best course of action. Accept the fact that she doesn't want anything right now, and after you've got that down, assume she doesn't want anything later, either.
I would focus on your future, not a girl who clearly states she did not feel she could handle talking with you while you were training.
You have a life and a mission. Focus.
 mrcyrus
Joined: 1/26/2009
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Posted: 2/5/2009 4:33:15 PM
You got your advice there and it was perfect. I just wanted to say that I support that course of action, and that you're way too young to let yourself dwell over this for too long.

Focus on the army, it'll be a great experience for you. Then come back and meet someone new.
 single at 49
Joined: 10/19/2008
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Posted: 2/5/2009 11:35:43 PM
You're young and serving in the military will change you. She may also be afraid that you'll be sent in harm's way and she's not able to deal with that. I too say move on and focus on getting your career going, the benefits are great. When you do find someone special she'll need to be someone that can stand on her own two feet and not have to have her man around all the time as you'll be facing deployments where she won't be able to tag along.
 c_deacon
Joined: 3/13/2005
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Posted: 2/6/2009 12:25:49 AM
Isn't there a statement about "if one ship does not come in, wait for the next"??? ....Or is that a "bus", "train"........or one of those??....

Time to do your duty, and not your scoring.......You chose this, so make it your quest until over, and then see what is out there one way or the other.

I think it quite interesting that so many make excuses now for service situations, when no one ever forces you to join, unlike what use to be when we had no choice but to be drafted.....

Move on sir, and let your ship head to the next port......you will, she will, and life will continue....

Just my opinion.......
 mysteriosa
Joined: 5/19/2006
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Posted: 2/6/2009 4:25:43 PM
It sounds like she's telling you gently that she doesn't want to move forward with you. She had the opportunity to contact you in the past but didn't. She feels pressured at the moment for some reason, so take the pressure off and back off completely. Don't contact her, let her contact you. You may not be putting pressure on at all - in fact you're probably not - she may just be warning you not to get involved. She sounds like she's OK with some contact, but at a distance. This isn't good enough for anyone and it's odd that she contacted you at all if she feels so reluctant. You'd be better off with someone who does want to be close and involved with you rather than this.
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