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 professora
Joined: 7/28/2008
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Men over sixty - seem to like women in their own age bracket.Page 1 of 10    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10)
I have had the most interesting last 6 months.

I am 62 and find that many men in my age bracket seem to finally prefer women more or less their same age?

Is anyone else finding this true?
 Ron9
Joined: 8/10/2004
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Posted: 2/22/2009 10:36:09 PM
For me ..... as long as the gal is not too young. That for me would be very much younger than my ex wife - she just turned 49 ..... it is not so much the age ......

I just flat have to like her looks. (you shallow-ites can save it - attraction is a big deal to me).

Musts for me ....

- like her looks
- good person - not just towards me - towards everyone (that means no racist among other things)
 Rythmn
Joined: 1/21/2006
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Posted: 2/22/2009 11:57:39 PM
hey bob, didn't i once feed you a line to use? cannot remember it with all this pof correspondence with e-buddies. but, if it worked, i want a commission!

OP most of the men i meet are my age and around five years younger. i am sixty. i think i have the same pluses and minuses today, that i had twenty years ago. i am, who i am! occasionally, i meet someone a couple years older, but haven't really gotten serious with someone older, since my first husband who was five years older and who i divorced at age 34 after ten years marriage. when they start talking about the senior citizens center, i tend to run the other way. i'm just not ready for that yet!

i do tend to hang in younger circles though, due to my professional and recreational interests and being a mom to preteens at age 50. that includes my female and male friends! my second husband was five years younger and my ex SO was 2 years younger. i imagine i don't meet the men who do not seek companionship of their peer group. unless friends, i don't encourage anyone over ten years younger. i did that after my first divorce. i was running a large company at age 34 and he was 23, dying his hair green. he was cute. i found him an 19 year old and felt very relieved. i think when times are bad, we tend to "regress". yes, it's possible to meet and fall in love. but, why seek it on the internet?

i think my current situation is just fine and was surprised hearing on pof that men ALL were dating much younger. if that were the case here, not sure i would want to meet them anyways. i keep an open mind to men older than me. so far, it hasn't worked for me. but, one never knows. if one contacts me who is way older, i ask why only seek low and not look for someone in the same upward direction? that is because they get huffy, if i'm not willing to go into the upper age group or they are just plain unnattractive to me. these are the last years of fun. i just don't want to rush it. but i don't want to date someone who could have come from my womb either!

there are a lot of single and available men here in santa cruz. but, it still takes time and willingness to let the universe choose the right man, time and place for me. i am sorry so many men and women i know from pof, live in areas that are so "sparsely" single and glad OP that you are finally finding some decent people to date who are nearer to your age. i thought florida was a retirement community. maybe now, the age is right and there are more men in that segment who are coming from other areas for the warmer weather? so, it seems they are changing, but maybe just more to choose from and vice versa!

 ankkka
Joined: 8/29/2007
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Posted: 2/23/2009 6:18:37 AM
Well...and you think it is good sign for us?
I think that they realized...they don't have anything more to choose...

I don't like leftover....
 Brownlady1953
Joined: 12/12/2008
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Posted: 2/23/2009 7:04:26 AM
I have been contacted by a 77 year old man (not on here)....my late father's youngest sister (my auntie) just turned 77.....this man has a daughter my age (55).

I'm not looking for a daddy, either.....maybe a SUGARdaddy, but not a daddy....
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
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Posted: 2/23/2009 7:58:52 AM
Is there a limit? Why cut yourself off from possible good times just because of a date written down decades ago. The only issue I see is mutual acceptance of the other person's physical, mental and emotional condition. I prefer women my own age, but very few of them that I have met are in anything like good condition in all three of those dimensions. The younger women are usually better off on the physical front, but saddled with the load of emotions and thoughts of women nearing the end of their reproductive life.

Other thing I notice is that there are a lot less over 55 women out there looking on the net for a SO than there are those in the 40 to 50 age range. If you go by statistics, it appears that you are more likely to find someone younger than older, simply because of the relative numbers.....

For me, if she can ski, bike, sail and jog with me, being the same age is a big plus!
 treselle
Joined: 6/16/2005
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Posted: 2/23/2009 8:15:30 AM
Not true. Because some men date women about their age, it does not mean that they prefer such women. They settle with what they can get. Better something than nothing........If they had to choose between a younger one who is less attractive, interesting and the older one who is very interesting, attractive, men would choose the younger woman. It is all about sexual attraction. The younger the more sexually desirable. The best death to an older man is to die while having sex with a young girl.
 Gaddflye
Joined: 9/10/2008
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Posted: 2/23/2009 8:18:38 AM
I enjoy women in my own age bracket as friends although I do not find them sexually attractive or otherwise suitable to date. Perhaps when I hit 80 a sixty year old will interest me. A friend of mine at 75 married a woman 55. He is now 80 and she is 60. They are very happy together and make a fine couple!
 rearguard*2
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Posted: 2/23/2009 8:19:36 AM
Hardly, treselie. There is no doubt that younger bodies, on men and women, are more sexually attracting, but the mind of a younger person can quickly deflate one's passion.....
 7iron
Joined: 7/5/2008
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Posted: 2/23/2009 9:40:47 AM
When I do a search for women in my area my age parameter is 58 to 64. My age is 62. I find that I have much more in common with women in my age group. What really narrows the field for me is that they not only have to interest me intellectually but physically as well. I was married to a size 8 petite for almost 40 years. The largest size she ever wore was size 10. I'll never be physically attracted to an excessively overweight woman, I've tried and it doesn't work for me.

The woman that I've met since becoming single that I've been attracted to the most is going to turn 60 in March. She has been working out at least five days a week at Curves for the last five years and she is in great shape. I work out every day and walk 4 to 5 miles every day so conditioning is important to me.

I know there a women on this site whose husbands dumped them for a younger woman and to me those men were thinking through the wrong head, the little one instead of the one on top of their shoulders. I'll take a woman in my age range any day as long as she's physically fit as well as intelligent and we share common interests. Sex is important but not at the top of my list at this stage of my life.
 moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
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Posted: 2/23/2009 10:23:00 AM
I have found that men in my age bracket (7 years either way) want someone in their own age group. I am sure there are men who would prefer younger just as there are men who would prefer older. Sames preference goes for women too.
 woobytoodsday
Joined: 12/13/2006
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Posted: 2/23/2009 10:49:01 AM
OPie, that's been my experience here. But on the other hand, I wouldn't be meeting the ones who are after the young 'uns, would I? In any case, no shortage while I was still looking. And no loss for the males that wish for (and actually sometimes get) younger women. Gosh, this is *such* a lovely pond, lol!

 texasbaby
Joined: 7/21/2005
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Posted: 2/23/2009 12:59:16 PM
I'm in a new relationship with a man in his 60s, he's attractive, fit, humorous, has all his hair and teeth, heck he even rides a motorcycle!
I've never felt as if he was just settling for me, because he couldn't do any better. I believe he saw something unique about me, that was both desireable and attractive him.
Personally, I find the concept that the over 60 crowd settles for each other, because no one else is interested, pretty insulting.

tb
 jsphn11
Joined: 12/24/2007
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Posted: 2/23/2009 1:40:15 PM
I am with you GreenEyesBlondHair and BrownLady. I even had a message from a man of 81 y.o. on another site He is older then my parents!!!
 moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
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Posted: 2/23/2009 1:55:26 PM
God bless those 80 yr. old, I won't be anyone's nurse with a purse.
 Gaddflye
Joined: 9/10/2008
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Posted: 2/23/2009 2:34:33 PM
Well jsphn11, it does take some adjustment to date a man older than one's parents. The mother of one woman I have dated off and on for over ten years and still see now and then is more than ten years younger than my exwife. When I was first told this it felt a little strange but I adjusted to it just fine.
 moraima
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Posted: 2/23/2009 3:24:13 PM
There are some things that I find no reason to adjust to.
 Rythmn
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Posted: 2/23/2009 7:20:29 PM
i totally agree with moraima, rearguard and 7 iron regarding the men our age and their choices not necessarily being about "age".

i don't think it's the age (short of a percentage of both men and women who target much younger). i think it's that many women and men, get sloppy as they grow older. i did at age 50 and the stress in my life at that time, certainly didn't help matters any. over the past ten years, my face began to glow and i had started losing weight. but, then the "issues" came alone with my ex SO and without realizing it, i began to "bloat" again.

since breaking up last summer, i've taken off almost 25 pounds, feel better, et al. i cannot be a super jock with my lymes history, but i at least "look" in good shape now and most of the men i meet like a woman with a woman's body and not the skinny model types. when i did modeling way back then as a teen, i always had an hourglass figure and thus was very limited in that career path. thank G-d!

i do have to say that women are more forgiving about a man's "love handles". we learn to focus on the good bits and pieces. however, there are many sloppy looking men, who dump their wives and then mourn away on the internet. this is a two way street.

being attractive is insufficient. but being attractive and intelligent and a nice person works the best. otherwise the opposite sex just prefers you as "friends" material. unless both are out of shape and thus make some sort of "deal". it also depends on just how passionate a person you are, as you age. that varies greatly amongst individuals.

for me, not carrying that weight is so freeing and feels so much better. so, sorry, but if you have an average but not slovenly build and a good personality and not mean spirited towards others, the only reason i can think of that you don't meet men your age, is that you are living in an area where the population is limited. but that also works the same for many good looking, younger men i know from pof. so, that is not an age factor, that is a geographic factor.

furthermore, don't know about the rest of you, but who wants to meet someone who is constantly whining and putting down members of the opposite sex? i keep totally away from those men and i think the same works in reverse.

cold hard truth, again "sorry". but, i've lived it myself and took responsibilty for my own health and appearance. and that is "with" lymes. i had a mentor way back. this woman could only use one arm. the rest of her could not move. she looked great and drove a car. her husband adored her and was her best friend. she sat on non profit boards of directors and had a part time job at a university. i don't know how she did it, but she radiated "energy". she was unbelievable and got me off my butt when i first got id'd as lymes. it was the emotional atmosphere of my second marriage that pulled me down.

so i gotta ask myself, why did i pick him. instead of not taking responsibilty for that as well as getting myself back together again. for me, it took work and not to mention jenny craig, bless her dear soul! men also go there, by the way. geeze, if obama took no for being the president, he wouldn't be there, would he? a lot depends also on attitude and believing in possibility. sure, i get down. but then, i pick myself up again. the hard part is finding someone where there is mutual "love". getting dates around this area, is not the problem for women in their 50's or 60's.
 Passionate_Cher
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Posted: 2/24/2009 2:01:42 PM
I, personally have had no luck on the dating sites, per say, except that they can be very entertaining!
No doubt that physical attraction is a really "Big Deal"!...But, as we all make searches on here, the first thing you look at are the pictures and overlook the ones that are not appealing to you...I, for one, do not think of myself as being very photogenic, which I am sure this is true for a lot of people...we may be overlooked by the photos we present on our profiles.
I think if you took a poll of Men between the ages of 45-55...you would find if they had their choice between a Woman 50-55...or say 35-45...they would choose the younger.
I do think that once Men reach their 60's and older, it is not as easy for them to be as sexual as they were in their 50's. (Thank God for Viagra!)
But, I guess you could say this is also true of Women that have gone through Menopause and their sexual desires. I feel very fortunate not to have had those side affects!! (Thank You God!)
I also think Geography comes into play on here...I am about 40 miles North of Sacramento, in Yuba City. I know that I would prefer not to have to commute with someone in Sacramento or further if its not necessary. Thats not saying for the right person I wouldn't. I think Men think the same way especially with the economy the way it is. I think my chance of finding someone in my home town is a lot slimmer than if I lived in Sacramento or a larger City.

Anyway...I wish everybody Luck in finding that Special Person...whatever age that might be!!

 jsphn11
Joined: 12/24/2007
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Posted: 2/24/2009 6:25:21 PM

Well jsphn11, it does take some adjustment to date a man older than one's parents. The mother of one woman I have dated off and on for over ten years and still see now and then is more than ten years younger than my exwife. When I was first told this it felt a little strange but I adjusted to it just fine.

No way that would work for me. Have no intention to try. I prefer men of my generation.
 moraima
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Posted: 2/25/2009 6:42:47 PM
"What's wrong with feeling younger?"

I have no desire to feel younger. I am perfect for the age I am already. I don't need to chase my tail (pun intended) working to make others think I am younger than I am. If they can't respect my age, and be thrilled with it...............be gone.
 itechman63
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Posted: 2/26/2009 7:24:16 AM
When I was younger I wondered how older people found each other attractive. But as I got older I did notice that to which we are attracted comes with us. I think we all appreciate the beauty of those younger still but as we reach our mid-40s, we like what we see in our age group. As we reach our 60s I'm confident that we will still maintain that attraction for those near our age. Nature is a wonderful thing.
 DivineBovine
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Posted: 2/27/2009 12:08:15 PM
not if my mail box and viewed me list is any indication.
 kpooks
Joined: 12/23/2008
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Posted: 2/27/2009 4:08:31 PM
Not me. Although there are certain life and mental similarities, which make for a great friendship, when it comes to sex, visually and energy-wise, I tend to like women 5-10 years younger. They don't seem to like me though...it's the women 20 years younger or 5-10 years older who seem to like me.
 bcsofnc57
Joined: 11/20/2007
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Posted: 2/27/2009 5:53:01 PM

I enjoy women in my own age bracket as friends although I do not find them sexually attractive or otherwise suitable to date. Perhaps when I hit 80 a sixty year old will interest me. A friend of mine at 75 married a woman 55. He is now 80 and she is 60. They are very happy together and make a fine couple!



Wow, you are 66 and want to date women between the ages of 33 and 47. I find it very interesting. I am going to turn 52 in a few days and would think of you as being too old for me to date, and you think I am too old. I am not sure why but I think that is beyond funny. So what you can do is keep all of the women between the age of 33 and 47 busy, and that will free up all the men in that age group for me. ha ha ha

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