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 iamtryingagain
Joined: 10/23/2007
Msg: 5
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I agree with Spark...he obviously has no respect for you !
give him the P.O. Q....
you can do better!
 Izarith
Joined: 4/14/2008
Msg: 11
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Posted: 2/28/2009 5:15:27 PM
Hello Dazie,

OK here is the deal.

Any guy who would send a nude pic is obviously not ashamed of his we-we, I can understand you finding it odd and weird but the fact that you did not delete the pic and forget about it mean you obviously liked them.

Do what your blood tells you, we are only human. Be cautious but enjoy what you want.

TA!! Izzy.
 Rush™
Joined: 2/17/2009
Msg: 12
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Posted: 2/28/2009 5:22:48 PM
Unless you plan on starting a relationship with this guy, I wouldn't look too much into it. But it could be a bad sign.

I have had guys in the past send nude pics without me even offering my consent. Not only was it very rude, I was also turned off by it.

Bottom line, it's up to you to decide rather to meet the fellow, or not.

Good luck.
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 15
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Posted: 2/28/2009 6:34:18 PM
Yeah... I have mixed emotions regarding unsolicited pics like that... especially BEFORE meeting. Makes me just not want to do it.

I had one of those *surprise* pics... and I gave the guy a blast of sh*t for doing it. And then against my better judgement I met him. And regretted it. Guy turned out to be rather selfish and into pleasing himself...

So.. now.. if someone asks for or sends nude pics before we've met.. chances are we aren't going to click too well. It's almost like I lose interest right then. Of course.. there ARE exceptions.. about as rare as hen's teeth.
 red_relaxed
Joined: 7/18/2007
Msg: 16
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Posted: 2/28/2009 6:43:58 PM

I really think that you need to close the door on being so gullible! When someone wants to pursue a respectful relationship - they don't send you nude pictures - before you meet!


Exactly. Envision this...

Say if you're in the produce department at the grocery store, and start up a conversation with a guy who saddles up next to your cart, and you flirt a little, and he's single and seems somewhat interested....all good right? But what if he whips out his willy as you're choosing an english cuke and asks "whatcha think of this?"

You'd probably be watching him be escorted from Safeway to jail in a cop car, waving good bye.
Can you wave good bye?


Don't waste your time on this flasher, go for dancer or donner or blixen...
Good luck.
 swingpup
Joined: 10/21/2006
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Posted: 2/28/2009 9:58:51 PM
Just like the OP.....I am in total shock when women send me nude pictures. They must want only one thing, they must be a player! They are not seeking a white picket fence with 2.5 children and a dog...............This is of course typed in pure satire thicker then Peanut Butter. Keep those cards and letters cumin.
 BlahGrim
Joined: 1/29/2004
Msg: 19
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Posted: 3/1/2009 1:57:59 AM
I'm always curious about how judgmental people are on forums. Not just here...all of the different forums (All besides this one being hobby and not social based.) are extremely judgmental all the time. Apparantly the internet just brings out the negativity in people.

So...my first thought was to tell you that it really isn't weird at all for younger people(No clue about people over 30, but I wouldn't except thing to be different.), although perhaps a bit premature, more so since you didn't explicitally request or hint at it, but if you gave him the idea you were interested then why knock him for not asking you ahead of time? Do you like a guy asking before he kisses you? Or perhaps he thought you were too shy to ask, but either way it seems silly to knock him for being "spontanious".

After the remark about coming on strong at the start it makes it look less favorable. If you expressed concern about something similiar in the past or that you might not appreciate that kind of thing then it was rude. It also makes him come off as pushy and a player if he is trying to move a great deal faster than you.

Only you can know if he is pushing to much with this act, nobody on this boards opinion matters in the least to how you feel about it, including mine. Who cares if it is "normal" or not?
 windloverr
Joined: 2/29/2008
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Posted: 3/1/2009 5:55:20 AM
OP, I'm calling BS on you. As in many threads, there is some very significant missing information here; making giving an informed opinion, and solid advice very difficult. Unsolicited nude pics, from either sex, are unacceptable; and people who send them have serious issues. However, in this example, I don't feel this is the case. Several things you say seem to imply that you may have misled the guy. All I know, is what I'm reading.
We've been flirting alot and we talked about do(ing) this… [followed by] I was shocked in a giggly kind of way… .. we talked about it and I really wasn't that serious....I tried to blow it off......
You not only talked about doing this, you state that you were NOT upset, but "giggly". You say "WE talked about doing this" but your weren't "THAT serious". Then go on to say,
I really don't know if I could do it back..
The ONLY reason you would even write this statement is if you considered doing it in return. WHY would you consider it? Did you, in your "flirting", and while talking "about doing this", imply that you would reciprocate? Sounds to me like you did. If that is the case, he is the one who has the right to be upset.

"Shocked" and "giggly" reads Surprised but pleased
"Wasn't that serious" reads But it kind of sounded fun
"I really don't know if I could do it back" reads I said I would, but now I don't want to

Being sent unsolicited explicit pics is completely inappropriate and unacceptable. Common reactions are disgust and anger. People who are disgusted and angry DO NOT GIGGLE; and it NEVER occurs to ANYONE that they should "do it in return"; UNLESS they said, or implied they would.
This stuff didn't happen back then.
That's because nobody had PC's; and the internet didn't exist back then!

Regarding the internet: while it is certainly not for everyone, it is not uncommon for people who have been talking to mutually agree to exchange revealing pics. It's like anything else sexual; among consenting adults, what you do, and enjoy, is strictly your business. Between consenting adults, this kind of thing falls under the "risky but fun" types of behaviors; like sex in the back yard, on the beach, or back of the car. You're not "supposed" to do it, you could get caught and possibly get in trouble; but, that's part of what makes it fun.

If the pics were unsolicited, he showed a wanton disregard and disrespect for you. Block the guy, delete his info, and for goodness sake NEVER meet anyone who displays this type of behavior. FYI, yes, that does happen on here, and other sites, with some regularity. I believe you can have people banned from the site for that.

If you had, in fact, discussed the two of you doing this, (even though you "didn't think he would") he demonstrated a significant trust by sending them. In which case, of course you should keep your date with him. I'll be honest with you; if you DID say you would reciprocate, then "changed your mind" AFTERWARDS, it would simply indicate to me that you can't be trusted; and I would advise him to be leary of you. If you don't want to send pics, but would enjoy receiving them...fine, just state that up front, and he can decide if he wants to send them or not.

A word of caution--if you ever do decide to send revealing pics of yourself to anyone BE VERY CAREFUL to assure that you cannot be identified in the pic; because once you send them, they are out there.
 sanddallor
Joined: 8/30/2008
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Posted: 3/1/2009 1:40:56 PM
Who knows, he may turn out to be the stud you've always fantasized about about...yeah, right!

I"m sure this is normal in some circles and maybe he really did feel a little let on, but I get the notion that the two of you don't have the same idea of fun. If you feel creepy, I would skip the date be a little more careful in the future.
 thecoolest!!
Joined: 6/30/2008
Msg: 25
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Posted: 3/1/2009 4:05:03 PM
i'd ask him if those were taken just for you if he keeps nude pics handy just in case he hits it off with someone.
 WalkingInLondon
Joined: 2/21/2005
Msg: 26
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Posted: 8/17/2009 12:04:13 AM
I wish I had a dollar for every nude/penis shot I'd been sent...unasked. I'd be a very rich woman.
What is it about guys that make them want to take pics of their penis and send it to random women?It makes me laugh every time. Then I promptly block them.

Out of curiosity, I've asked bunches of my guy friends about this, and they have all had a good laugh, then admitted that at some time or another they have taken a picture of the 'jewels'. Usually when they got a new camera or camera-phone. Not all sent it to someone, but most did. I guess guys are just proud of their 'junk'.

God love 'em. They find it when they are babies and can't stop playing with it. Then they get cameras and have to take pictures of it. LOL, sorry but this cracks me up.

Yeah yeah yeah, of course none of YOU guys would NEVER do this...you're all saints. LOL
Beth
 serious bean
Joined: 5/15/2009
Msg: 28
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Posted: 8/17/2009 9:08:20 AM
Yeah, a lot of women ask for them and reciprocate. It's fairly normal these days.
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