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 jlizzy
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Curious how many people out there have had the experience of being in a relationship with someone who interupts them, doesn't respond to their stories/muses etc or contradicts them and yet expects their partner to sit and listen to everything they have to say?

If you've ever been in such a situation what did you do about it?
 jlizzy
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Ever been in a relationship where you feel your partner prefers sound of their own voice?
Posted: 3/2/2009 5:32:27 PM
If people feel this is a redundant subject I would be very grateful if they could tell me where I can find similar posts as I already looked and couldn't find them even though one would think it would be a common subject!
Yours gratefully.
 theforumfiend
Joined: 10/21/2007
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Ever been in a relationship where you feel your partner prefers sound of their own voice?
Posted: 3/2/2009 6:43:16 PM
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The ones that you despise and the ones you idolize
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I like talking about you, you, you, you, usually, but occasionally
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 Gwendolyn2010
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Ever been in a relationship where you feel your partner prefers sound of their own voice?
Posted: 3/3/2009 7:23:06 AM
Yeah, my ex husband. The minute he came in the door after work, it was a tirade about the guys doing this, or Charlie saying that. He came home one day and I said that I had a bad day and started to tell him about it. He looked at me and said, "I don't want to hear this shit."

It was a 25 year marriage, but it lasted about three years after he made that comment.

I love to talk, but there should be conversation, not a monologue.
 phule
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Ever been in a relationship where you feel your partner prefers sound of their own voice?
Posted: 3/3/2009 9:24:01 AM
Wow... a thread about people admitting they don't pay attention, and have no control over their lives. I think this is more important than people know.

First question from me would be... why would anyone EVER enter into a relationship with someone they don't like?

Second and third question... how could someone get involved with a person that was in love with their own voice, without realizing this? Isn't this a trait that is painfully obvious very early on?

Fourth Question... If you were in a situation with someone you did not like, why would there be any course of action OTHER than to break it off?
 jlizzy
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Ever been in a relationship where you feel your partner prefers sound of their own voice?
Posted: 3/8/2009 6:30:39 PM
Interesting responses.
Phule: With your statement about why would someone ever enter a relationship with someone you don't like and why would there be any course of action other than to break it off...are you implying that the talker doesn't like their partner or the receiver of all this talk? Curious...trying to make sure I get your response ;)

Isn't this a trait that is painfully obvious early on? Uhm well apparently not in my case!! My last long term relationship was with a person who wouldn't talk at all! So I guess I fell into a trap of being so happy to be dating someone who actually talks...fast forward over a year and I probably question daily if he really honestly loves me as a partner should and if this relationship is right for him and me. I inevitably stay put to this day still because we are good friends I guess and because unlike my previous relationships...he doesn't mistreat me and will often look after me- bringing me tea and cofee when I'm working hard and cooking me dinner. Yet when I wish to make my thoughts known on something we don't necessarily see eye to eye on like asking for compromise on his and his parents smoking arrangements if I am to go there again with him, we seem incapable of having a simple talk through, rather it ends up in a full blown shouting match and almost every time he will make some statement along the lines of "maybe we shouldn't be together"/ "maybe we aren't right"..thereby leaving me doubting all the more how he really feels about me. I fear he's staying put because he's never known real love and doesn't know any better...

I know I'm treading into a danger zone emotionally now because recently I'm starting to feel a bit smitten by a friend whom I know a few years now. Nothing sexy about the guy but I can't help but feel rather taken by our lengthy conversations...note -conversations...ie we grant each other space to talk and demonstrate interest in the other person's opinions. The real nice guys are often left unconsidered ..maybe it takes experience to really value a person with a soft heart? I'm also finding myself relishing an out from the usual having to try and fight against the talking over and interuptions I am so used to from my partner....

My partner got really angry with me the other day when I got upset about a client's unhappiness with my work (long story...client not being clear with expectations). He claimed he knew this would happen. He said he didn't want me taking on the work. I tried to ask him what exactly the problem was, eventually pointing out that it's my mistake to make and my life to lead even if I end up taking on too much...my partner eventually stormed out in a huff...I am still puzzled by this.....
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