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 nexthyme
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It is not all that odd, and if you did research you you would find that about 60% of women don't have orgasm with out a lot of different things done to stimulate what ever part that does the trick for her.

Some women WILL get excited after you orgasm, and then let go themselves, because it is such a mental turn on.

All women are different, and if she says she enjoys it, and is ready and willing to go when ever you are, then stop thinking in terms of federal case on this. Some gals at her age are still getting to know their body, as well they have hormones that make orgasming more difficult then other times.

If she is enjoying it, and you are willing to continue doing things that makes her happy as well stop getting all worried about it...

Mr minute man is NOT going to make a woman happy, since that isn't you, she will let you know if she isn't happy... Really it isn't all about the orgasm for a lot of gals, but rather the intense connection with the person they love.

Men on the other hand have a primal need to spread seed, and if they aren't coming, there isn't any reproducing...
 Wilf Huckitt
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Posted: 3/9/2009 3:01:41 PM
Or maybe try researching the Gspot a bit! There used to be some really good threads on here at times, but I havent seen any of late! There is a site with a weath of info.> http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=70892 if it will allow me to post that URL!


Hope this helps you out! Good luck! wilf
 nexthyme
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Posted: 3/9/2009 6:57:20 PM
Things miss about women, and the almighty orgasm...

Scientist figure contractions are to pull semen into the uterus so as to help make the trip a lot easier for the little swimmers, thus an orgasm after a man ejaculates is more logical scientifically than prior.

I know, why have science in the bedroom, perhaps because it would explain the function of the human body???

Dc Says give her more oral, if he isn't doing it the way she likes it, then is actually nothing more than a practice of annoying futility to endure it for the woman. I know some guys who really think it is the highlight of a woman to have a bare clit licked to to point that she wants to squirm away, and has thoughts of kicking you...

Instead of just doing what you have done with other women, and think it works all the same, take the time to learn how she works...

Women are like fine automobiles, each of us function differently, and some of us need to be warmed up, while others need a different warm up session. Then there are a few of us that needs little warm up and are read to speed down that orgasm highway with little prompting or help from our partner.

Men really aren't all that much the same either. Some like a BJ, some expect to get one all the time, and allowed to ejaculate in the mouth, if not they feel soooo cheated, others prefer a little up front, and a little back door. Of course those that like to jump back and forth are totally ignorant of the infection they are causing the woman from doing that.

Point being, is that all people function differently. Thus you need to get to know your partner and what makes her work... If she has never had a partner take the time to do that, then she maybe really grateful that you help her learn how her body works...
 MsMicki
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Posted: 3/9/2009 7:12:00 PM
I have been known to orgasmn if my partner's "shot" hits me in the right spot.....and the moment is ripe for it.

Every time......no way

Try this little trick out I learned about last summer.....there is an actual thread about it somewhere w/ some women agreeing they experienced the same thing.
After she says she has orgasmed...........kiss her.
Alot of womens' mouths and tounges get really cold after an orgasm.

I am in no way, shape or form saying it works on every woman....so if it's not cold.....don't assume she's lying.....but give it a try a couple different times and see if it happens!
 Hunter Lee
Joined: 12/7/2008
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Posted: 3/9/2009 7:57:30 PM
Minute men aren't always a bad thing for women... My exwife and I had great sex and it wasn't for long periods... neither one of us would like to have sex for longer than 5-10 minutes. Once she came, she was done and then I would cum. Sometimes she would have multiplies but only on certain occassions. Same for me as well. But we both always came at least once. Reason why we didn't have sex for long periods of time is bc both of us didn't want to get the worn out feeling from each other that tends to happen with lots of people. It was our decision and thats nothing anyone can change.
And not to be braggin or anything but there have been several girls that I've made cum within seconds of intercourse bc for 1. they shake n shiver 2. they wet my bed 3. i feel it on my nuts and thighs 4. they tell me all about it afterwards

 MsMicki
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Posted: 3/9/2009 8:05:00 PM
ducky720: ^^^^^^ wow i've never heard of that! I'll have to ask him next time..........or i'll google it. I'm kinda nerdy/curious/scientific, so now i wanna know WHY that happens lmao....


You have any luck with that please let me know!!
I tried finding out any "scientific" explanation for it and couldn't find squat!
That is why I started the thread here about it!

and you will notice it yourself now.....if you can remember to think about it!
 nexthyme
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Posted: 3/10/2009 3:32:13 PM
Ohhhh how really sweet Redhead. question, have you brought into a toy or two to play??? Lets face it your tongue can't move at 33,000 RPM, and some gals really need that kind of vibration to get off. It isn't a failure in the least on your part, AND it saves the tongue and jaw from spending over 20 plus minutes working at it.

Remember no failure and there is NOTHING wrong with that, AND you can apply oral at the same time which can really be mind blowing, especially if you stroke the g spot with you fingers...

Some men feel they have some how failed if they use a toy, that works really well. If you want her to feel amazing, then short of having someone else do it for you, toys are really great.

To top things off, if she has NEVER experienced an actual mind blowing orgasm, one that makes it hard to walk for hours on end, then she will thank you for ever... It also will get easier for her to orgasm, because her body will learn what some mind blowing orgasm feels like, and be willing to get there sooner.

Another th0ught is, is she on the pill? Than for some women reduces the sensitivity, so there are also gels that can be applied to the clit to make it more sensitive.

Remember it isn't always about the orgasm, but the emotional connection that feels wonderful, and orgasm for a woman CAN be the icing on the cake, instead of the cake...

Good luck, and happy experimenting...
 DAVE632
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Posted: 3/12/2009 9:03:52 AM
Ah the voice of ... what?



she will cum with oral AND don't stop til u see the flood


HULLO? He';s al;ready stated that she can't cum from oral. Your advice being different in some way - HOW?

Flood?
That might have happened with one woman you were with but it doesn't happen with all of them or most of them ALL the time. If you're waiting for ONE response from ALL women at the exact same point in time during one act of sex or stimulation then you're either VERY VERY young and inexperienced (and you shouldn't be posting advice cuz it's usually WRONG) or you just don't get it and never will.

ANYTHING one does to their partner is subject to so many variations. It'll feel great one day & bug 'em the next. They may squirt one day and not the next. They may be pissed at you one day for not getting the garbage to the curb in time for the truck and you can give her a tongue lashing until your tongue is bleeding and you need a shot for lockjaw - she ain't gonna cum for you. She just ain't.

There are some things that happen MOST of the time. The GSpot thing from my TRY THIS. I think Wilf provided the link above. Once she CAN cum this way it can happen very very quickly and she may not be able to stop it and there lies the danger. If she is not in the mood and doesn't want to and you G her it is not making love. It is a lab experiment and she will make you pay.

We're dealing with the female brain here and it is likely the most complex, convoluted entity in the galaxy. It isn't just a matter of making them cum sometimes - that is mechanics. You have to appeal to what's between their ears and if she's getting off on you cuming in her then quit questioning it. You have your answer. Talk to her about it. Ask her what she feeels and how it turns her on. Replaying it in her head will reinforce that whole thing. Enjoy. Quit looking past the answer. Sometimes it is just there and we're too dumb to accept it as real.
 windloverr
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Posted: 3/12/2009 12:58:00 PM
It's true, women don't NEED to orgasm every time in order to enjoy sex; neither do men for that matter. You're getting a lot of great tips from the ladies; and Dave's G-spot technique is certainly worth learning.

While they vary in intensity, women will have vaginal and uterine spasms during orgasm; you simply may not be able to feel them with a post orgasmic penis. As far as whether or not she's faking it goes, I'm kind of on the fence. She doesn't even pretend to orgasm EVERY time; and that leads me to believe she isn't faking. The only way to be sure would be to have your fingers inside of her as she orgasmed. Can she masturbate to orgasm? If not, she is almost certainly faking it. If so, have her masturbate, have your fingers inside of her when she comes, and compare her reactions. Pay really close attention to how and where she touches herself; and when in the process she changes what she’s doing, and what she changes to. Does she start vaginal, go to clitoral, and back to vaginal? Does she start slow and speed up; or start fast, and slow down? Is she strictly vaginal? If she’s strictly vaginal, that’s almost certainly G-spot orgasms; and you can easily learn to do that with your hands and toys. FYI, vibrators aren’t any good on g-spots; use hard solid dildos, if that is what does it for her. Another favorite is the Hitachi “Magic Wand.” If she masturbates to orgasm with this, it’s a clitoral orgasm. Again, pay really close attention to what she does; and learn to do it yourself.

It’s also good to go down on her while she’s orgasming. This serves the dual purpose of extending, or enhancing her orgasm, IF you are very delicate, and pay very close attention to her reactions (rough, aggressive and insensitive oral sex can also have the effect of wrecking a good orgasm as well, so PAY ATTENTION); it also couples the sensations of orgasm with oral sex, increasing the likelihood of her eventually being able to orgasm from oral alone.

Is she capable of multiple orgasms? Break out the toys, (or go buy some), and have a night, or two, or three, dedicated to her enjoyment only; where you don’t orgasm; and play around, mix it up, find out what really does it for her. If you “wear her out” you can always masturbate when you are finished. A lot of women get really turned on watching a man masturbate, so enjoy.
 kcihteteyr
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Posted: 3/12/2009 1:22:22 PM
You've gotten a lot of advice and really its all depends on your girl. As far as her only getting off every other time, i wouldn't think she is faking. I know personally when a guy actually gets off inside me, it seems to stimulate unbelievable right before they cum, which might be whats doing it for her. Also its not always the orgasm women are after. I personally can either orgasm in 2 mins with a little help or oral but I barely ever get off during sex but I will take sex over an orgasm any day. Just the sex alone does it for me and I love getting a man off, thats my pleasure. All women are differnt too with orgasm and maybe she's having an orgasm but its on the smaller side. I know for me I can have little orgasms and then like body shuddering (sp) orgasms. Its all on the girl, the guy, the mood, and the experience. The best way is to ask her or see what you guys can play around with or experiment with. Sometimes its the little things that can make the big difference.
 nexthyme
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Posted: 3/12/2009 2:18:09 PM
WL an Dave, LOL that is great...

Lady stepping back in for a little more female and ummm things I know work for SOME women. Also here is a site for most of the orgasm zones, and the how to's to make them work...http://www.heretical.com/miscella/g-spots.html

By the way you guys have done some great jobs in the advice section.


Red, find out and this can be tricky, if your gal has been sexually abused. That can be a MAJOR blocker to orgasms with men, the gal has to really really trust the person she is with, and then it takes time to work things out.

Other things that can get in the way is a hectic life, hormones, as well as religious up bringing. If she came from a home that has a very strict view on sex, and it only being in marriage, as well as to please the man, she can have

WL, there are hard dildos that work, but also ones that have a gentle j shape that can work the G spot, T spot, U spot extremely nicely. Some women only know how to orgasm clitorally, which is perfectly normal, because the vagina has a lot less nerves where as the clit is a major nerve bundle. (Giving birth with lots of nerves in the vagina would have ended the human race). However with missionary, or some other position favorites there is not enough stimulation.

To the nay sayers that says orgasms after male ejaculation doesn't happen, NOT TRUE... If she can be honest that it does happen, then it can happen. However a real sexual kill joy is feeling the pressure of orgasming every sexual act, despite what some porns depict, I don't think the majority of women orgasm every time.

As has been said is that it takes so exploring, not like this is a science mission, but rather a fun enjoyable experience. Major pressure to orgasm just because the two of you are exploring what is supposed to work, probably won't be a good idea either, once again it falls into enjoying the moment and having the brain in a real sexual mode.

Some of her wildest sex is still several years away. Stick with her, and she hits mid thirties on, she just may become a orgasming sex machine.

Communicate, with "does this feel good", is she looking like she is enjoying it, moaning, or does she have a silent, eyes glazed over, when are you going to get done.
look? Some times oral takes learning, and she can be moaning and all, or if it isn't doing anything she will either be faking a moan, or just laying there counting ceiling tiles.

Point goes back to communicating with her and exploring as well as learning what works for her, and different areas that you may not have known was some great spots to work on. That is making love to you gal...
 mcbobly
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Posted: 3/13/2009 6:43:35 AM

So after about 20 minutes of her riding me pretty hard, and intense

Have you ever thought that "if" this were the case maybe she had cum long ago and was just bored and was faking it when you "finally" came after this unusually long amount of time? 20 minutes, really? Or are you just bragging or exagerating a bit. Seriously though, after a while it has got to get boring or tiresome and maybe she is just wishing and hoping you'd hurry and "get off" so she can GET OFF and enjoy the moment and relax afterall.
 windloverr
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Posted: 3/13/2009 7:26:28 PM

nexthyme WL, there are hard dildos that work, but also ones that have a gentle j shape that can work the G spot, T spot, U spot extremely nicely.
Absolutely. Actually, when I said "hard" I simply meant "solid" or "non-vibrating" (glass, silicone, rubber, plastic, etc. it's all good) I wasn't alluding to it being "rigid" per se; and good tip on the J shape; straight ones really won't do the trick. Thanks.
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