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 DocElffington
Joined: 1/20/2009
Msg: 3
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I joined pof in June 2008 and found my woman this past January.

Take your time, be patient, don't try to rush things!

Men come in all shapes, sizes, and personalities.

In 2009 we're pitching out the rulebooks and writing our own, individual rulebooks!

Capiche?

Personally, I would say be assertive. You know what you want and what you're looking for in a guy. Go get it! Realizing that some guys won't feel comfortable with your assertiveness. Especially in Texas!

Be whom you are and find a guy that is comfortable in being whom he is!
 DocElffington
Joined: 1/20/2009
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Posted: 4/6/2009 12:35:14 AM
OP: Well, I'm from Cali, live in Indiana, and found my woman in Oregon.

But I'm a trucker, so it's all good! lol

No, I don't think you need to move north.

But don't you dare check that 75 mile limiter either!


BTW, I prolly had the "deer in headlights" look too. But I was able to roll with it and already knew that I liked assertive women.
 GWSmith
Joined: 12/18/2008
Msg: 9
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Posted: 4/6/2009 1:58:00 AM
Your first problem, asking whats wrong with you. If you don't know you shouldn't be trying to date.
 itsmillertime6227
Joined: 9/19/2008
Msg: 10
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Posted: 4/6/2009 3:47:33 AM
Like a previous post said, you really haven't been on the site that long.

Looking for a capable companion on this site is a lot like fishing...you have to be patient, you have to relax, try to enjoy yourself, sometimes you'll catch a fish you have to throw back...also like fishing you're never going to catch yourself a 50 lb. bass that you can put on your wall and stop fishing forever.

It is highly unlikely you're going to find someone that is your "dream guy."

The best advice I ever got about dating is still true to dating online...be patient and let things happen, don't try to force things--it will come at it's own time.

There's really not that much different than dating these days, just more ways of communicating. The guy that sent you a bunch of emails/texts, etc... probably really liked you but if you did not reply to him probably sent him into a frenzy to try to "keep you on the hook." I understand being overwhelmed with someone like that...I have been several times but you have to understand they've been waiting just as long as you or longer with their bait in the water waiting for a nibble. So be patient with them.
 LuvU4Now
Joined: 3/30/2009
Msg: 11
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Posted: 4/6/2009 6:23:15 AM
Here's the deal. The biggest mistake you and tons of people make is somehow judging themselves based on something arbitrary like the number of responses they get from their POF profile. I'll let you in on a little secret. As nice as Markus and everyone associated with POF is; and as much fun as I have talking to POF people, this site is the absolute sh*&hole of dating sites. If you are really serious about finding a SO, this is the LAST place I would look.
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