Posted: 4/13/2009 4:37:55 PM
|Instead of dating, you probably need to prepare yourself for the drastic change in your life that is about to happen. Having a baby changes everything. I had one at 17. I know how difficult the next few years of my life were.|
Some things you need to think about:
1) How are you going to support the baby? You say you have some college behind you. My suggestion, from experience, is to complete college if at all possible, or find a good trade. I didn't go to school until I was 26. What a world of difference a piece of paper made to my earning potential! It was a struggle before that to make ends meet. That is no way to have to live your life.
2) Who is going to keep the baby while you're at work/school? If you were to date, who would keep the baby?
3) Do you have family to help you? I hope so. At a young age, you're going to need all the help you can get.
4) Are you planning on taking birth control so you don't end up pregnant again?
There's tons that I could say here. Like I said, I went through this and the last thing you really should think about is dating. I would suggest making friends but concentrating on this baby. At a young age, I think we sometimes don't realize how much energy/time/money a baby takes. Your life really will never be the same.
One other thing to think about is most guys your age are probably going to go for the many girls without children. It may be a few years before you're going to find men in your age group who want to be with a woman with a child(ren). In my 20s, most men I met did not want an instant family, so it was really my 30s before I was able to find a lot of men who wanted to date me.