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 Sheldon86
Joined: 11/4/2008
Msg: 3
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I wouldn't worry about it, it is a bit unrealistic to expect a person to just jump into a relationship after one date. One date isn't enough time to get to know a person well enough to commit, at least in most cases, some would argue otherwise but realistically speaking it isn't.
 Confident-Realist
Joined: 2/8/2004
Msg: 4
Does meeting a person count as a comittment..
Posted: 4/20/2009 10:18:49 AM
No, meeting a person doesn't count as a comittment. Meeting a person doesn't mean you have to have sexual escapades, either.

It depends on how things unfold before you meet -- how you've expressed yourself, how they have, and what you two have implied. If you two are pen-pals for god-knows-how-long before meeting, yeah, it's going to be expected to be more than a handshake on your first meeting, because your first meeting would be a bigger deal after talking for so long (thus wouldn't be a classical 'blind date').

It may be the way you're coming across too... before you met (maybe unknowingly leading them on thinking there will be something sexual off the bat?), or during the date (acting weird). It could not even be hook-up related. It could be that you came off awkward, nervous, etc., which ends up ruining anything.

None of us were there!
 mthomjmark
Joined: 2/27/2008
Msg: 7
Does meeting a person count as a comittment..
Posted: 4/20/2009 8:28:43 PM
well I'm sorry but there are no internet protocols;

Yes; you are choosing guys that probably just want sex. Meeting isnt' commitment; thats silly; meeting is just that; you are meeting, not getting married.

Just choose better and communicate what you want better; that will weed out the riff raff.
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