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 RobertKoi
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 2
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All I can say is that no one knows how many women you've had in your life anyway. It's not like you're walking around with a sign around your neck saying that. It's also doesn't say that you're undesirable. Just get out there and date women. Don't think or analyze. Just do it.
 Cogie36
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 5
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Posted: 4/25/2009 3:48:48 PM
Try smiling and acting positive.......

I dont know anything about you but just from reading the thread its coming across as a downer.......

Most women would attract faster to a warm smile and a cheerful profile or post!!

good luck!
 RobertKoi
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 7
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Posted: 4/26/2009 5:32:35 AM
"No you're not delusional. But let me correct your question a bit: how does a man_know_ that they're undesirable to the type of woman he imagines himself with?... Lack of evidence of: Money, Power , or Fame. These are the three single most important things a woman FIRST notices about a man. Then from there; his personalilty, his scent, his movement."
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I disagree. It's far more complicated than that. The first thing ANY human being notices is not the bank account, nor the fame of that person for that matter. What you DO notice however is personality, body language, eye contact, how someone talks, walks, behaves, etc. etc. While it's true that there are shallow women around - gold diggers - they'd rather be with a rich sleazebag who uses they body just like they'd use a prostitute. Those with commonsense won't choose to be "bought". Personally I see no difference between hookers in the streets and fortune hunters.

What you lack in life you simply compensate with something else. If you aren't 10 ft tall, a successful businessman, 50 degrees in this and that and with a trillion in the bank, you simply put emphasis on what you ARE good at, something that others may not have. We're all individuals and you won't find an exact copy of yourself out there. That's what makes us all unique. If we'd all bee that successful, "cream on top" type of guy, dressed in a fancy Armani suit; ask yourself: where's the uniqueness in that? I'd say nowhere. It is also my belief that in times like these other qualities should weigh more than a sleazebag attitude towards life and others.
 notregme
Joined: 5/26/2005
Msg: 8
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Posted: 4/30/2009 8:05:39 PM
Ive been single just as long or longer.It takes as long as it takes.lol
 shadowhawk72
Joined: 5/4/2009
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Posted: 5/7/2009 7:34:30 PM
All i can say is quit worrying about it and ask someone out..
I admit its been almost 6 years for me, but that was by choice..
I took some time to clear my head after the way my son's mom took off,
and i admit i had a serious trust issue..
I spent the years with my son and working..
Now im ready to find myself a wonderful woman to spend my time with..
One who will realize that kids come first no matter who's they are..
You can bet ya azz that im not gonna worry about if they think im skinny enough, or good looking enough, everyone has good qualities so stick them out there and let them be seen
who knows the right woman might just be watching..
 buckmaker
Joined: 4/20/2009
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Posted: 5/12/2009 9:26:33 PM
In a word, probably. That does not mean that you cannot change. Try a makeover first and then plastic surgery. However, the most important quality in winning a girl's heart is confidence. They secretly want to be swept off their feet and for you that may take drugs or alcohol to get your courage up... However you do it, do anything other than what you have been doing. Rule 1, stop digging.
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