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 druminky
Joined: 4/9/2008
Msg: 1
"No woman really enjoys anal sex"Page 1 of 5    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5)
I was talking with a female friend of mine today, and we got on to this subject. She has insisted for a long time that the vast majority of women really do not care for anal sex (penetration variety, as opposed to non-penetrative anal play). She told me that I didn't have a clue about women if I though that some women enjoyed it. She told me that if a woman says she actually enjoys anal sex, she
a) is a porn star / adult industry worker trying to perpetuate the myth,
b) desperate to get a man in her life and willing to lie about it, or
c) has never done it and "thinks" she might enjoy it.

She also told me that guys who go around claiming that their women enjoy anal sex have basically been handed a load of BS for one reason or the other.

Her argument sounded pretty compelling, and I found myself at a loss for words. So....any thoughts on the subject?
 warmhanded
Joined: 12/30/2008
Msg: 2
No woman really enjoys anal sex
Posted: 4/30/2009 5:20:51 PM
Lol!!!! She's funny.

(and mis-informed).
 passionice
Joined: 7/25/2008
Msg: 3
No woman really enjoys anal sex
Posted: 4/30/2009 5:29:12 PM
Ha ha... well from personal experience she's quite wrong... I have dated a number of very average women that did enjoy anal sex.... one in particular got the BEST orgasms when anally penetrated... she absolutely loved it.. actually two I date really loved it... go figure... so I would say your friend is quite wrong and likely not a very open minded person.. anal is not for everyone... nor is it something you do all the time, but it does have it's place and women DO enjoy it :)
 Pink2036
Joined: 3/11/2009
Msg: 4
No woman really enjoys anal sex
Posted: 4/30/2009 5:44:41 PM
I'm sorry to tell you but your friend is very wrong. I have spoken to many women who enjoy anal sex. It DOES give the best orgasms a woman can have. It just has to be done right and the woman has to be an open sexual person. Obviously, these women are having anal with the wrong men!
 srb272007
Joined: 3/12/2007
Msg: 5
No woman really enjoys anal sex
Posted: 4/30/2009 5:51:12 PM
i have video evidence to the contrary
 druminky
Joined: 4/9/2008
Msg: 6
No woman really enjoys anal sex
Posted: 4/30/2009 5:59:29 PM
Thanks for the replies....and that's kind of what I thought: most women don't like it, but there are definitely women who do, and not because any of the reasons she listed. By the way, she's a pretty open-minded gal herself, so when she told me this I was kind of surprised. She also told me it was painful, and some girls like pain, and therefore anal sex, etc. But yeah....maybe she was the victim of poor technique!
 StarreGazer
Joined: 2/21/2007
Msg: 7
No woman really enjoys anal sex
Posted: 4/30/2009 6:07:29 PM
Yeah, and like so MANY other myths, this can be unequivically be expelled. I have had women tell me that if I REFUSED to have anal sex with her she would want NOTHING further to do with me.

End conclusion: the man ATTEMPTS to do what he will do. If she refuses, the man backs down, dumps her azz, and finds someone new.

This seems easy enough for me. After all, I find TOO MANY women to be TOO SHALLOW for the intimate arrangements I desire anyway. I stay STRICTLY to my roots. SHE does what she will. If she is MINE, she complies with my wishes. If she belongs to someone else, she makes that evidently clear.

I see no point in argument or dispute. She chooses what she wants and she gets or fails to get it from me. If there is a failure, we both embark on NEW relationships. This is NOT a difficdult concept, though many may view it as such.
 horny bi couple
Joined: 4/24/2009
Msg: 8
No woman really enjoys anal sex
Posted: 4/30/2009 6:10:39 PM
the thing about anal sex is you gotta start so slow or else its just painful. I think woman and men that say they don't like getting it in the a$$ just had a bad or several bad experiences. some times it takes like 20 minits just for us 2 get it in. but once its in and we warm up it gets more intense than vaginal intercourse. I let her do me with a strap on some times and its just nuts how good it feels. I have beter orgasms taking it than I do from normal sex. but like the other post said its not something you do all the time. It can make it really hard to hold it in when you got to go.
 *pisceseyes
Joined: 4/24/2009
Msg: 9
No woman really enjoys anal sex
Posted: 4/30/2009 6:26:13 PM
I dont mean to sound like Debbie Downer here..but unless you want an ostomy bag from a ruptured canal (and Ive seen plenty)... I wouldnt do it..just my two cents. Use what you got for what you got and work it!
 Seaside2010
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 10
No woman really enjoys anal sex
Posted: 4/30/2009 6:35:48 PM
Well, I have been with woman who prefer it over vaginal sex...so what can you say...to each there own:)
 AnglFlynToCloseToGround
Joined: 4/16/2008
Msg: 11
No woman really enjoys anal sex
Posted: 4/30/2009 6:38:42 PM
I have heard that anal sex can cause canal troubles like the earlier post said ...

Weather or not women actual like it and arent giving a line of BS I dont know ... its not a topic I talk a lot about ... lol ...

AnglFlyn
 spitfire6844
Joined: 6/30/2007
Msg: 12
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No woman really enjoys anal sex
Posted: 4/30/2009 7:10:17 PM
Many women enjoy anal sex; but it's important that the guy use plenty of lube and be gentle and patient doing it. Some women like it right away, and other women gradually learn to enjoy it as an acquired taste.

It may surprise a lot of people how many professional women really enjoy anal.
 eschec mat
Joined: 3/3/2009
Msg: 15
No woman really enjoys anal sex
Posted: 4/30/2009 7:17:05 PM
Yeah, have to agree anal fissures suck. Scar tissue sucks. Hemorrhoids suck. Polyps suck. Colonoscopies suck. Rectal exams suck. Ok, think that the out hole will stay that way with me, just an out. I have not enjoyed anything associated with changes down there caused by or not from things going in the out hole. Gosh and then if you were to get a case of the runs...ewwww (hey swine flu is going around).
 Forumhobbit
Joined: 10/27/2008
Msg: 16
No woman really enjoys anal sex
Posted: 4/30/2009 7:31:45 PM
Your friend's an idiot!

My guess is either she's had a bad experience with it or just doesn't like it. Which that's fine... but by saying that ALL women don't like it... pfft. Bullsh1t. If it wasn't a bad experience or she's never done it...well... then she's just closed minded and needs to learn to live outside that tiny little box of hers.

All in all, her statement is about as far from the truth as it gets. SOME women don't like it... SOME women love it. And those that do aren't necessarily lying about it or porn stars in the making.
 druminky
Joined: 4/9/2008
Msg: 17
No woman really enjoys anal sex
Posted: 4/30/2009 7:43:36 PM
As I suspected....I will direct her to this thread and show her that some non-porn / non-desperate women actually do like it!
 Forumhobbit
Joined: 10/27/2008
Msg: 18
No woman really enjoys anal sex
Posted: 4/30/2009 7:45:45 PM

As I suspected....I will direct her to this thread and show her that some non-porn / non-desperate women actually do like it!


Good idea. And while you have her on here, go up in the thread searches and type in anal and let her read the pages upon pages of posts about anal sex from both a man and woman's point of view. Keep some pillows around the chair because my guess is she's gonna fall off!
 thecheekychick
Joined: 10/18/2008
Msg: 19
No woman really enjoys anal sex
Posted: 4/30/2009 9:24:21 PM
One of my girlfriends said she likes it..... she must be desperate to get me into her life! hahahaha
 wolftxus
Joined: 2/24/2009
Msg: 20
No woman really enjoys anal sex
Posted: 4/30/2009 10:26:19 PM
I could make an equally compelling argument to the contrary, but unlike your friend I cannot speak for others. But I can look at an aproach to get meaningful facts.

If you are scientifically interested, you will obviously need to find out how many women did it. I saw numbers around 25% on the internet. Then you will need to break down how many did it repeatedly. You don't want sample sizes of '1'. Now you may be in the absolute single digit '%', but within that group I would say the percentage of women liking it is high - or they would not repeat the experience so willingly.

As for the three cases:
a) If you get your sex ed from porn, I pity your understanding of women in all areas, not just this one. Call it a lie or marketing, but I would not take such statements as the truth...
b) To lie is one thing, to endure another. She has to be pretty desperate, if she does not enjoy it and submits to it during the whole dating period up to the marriage (when she can drop the charade). The proof of the pudding is in the eating, and the proof of the salad is in the tossing. Suppose this is true, then what else does said desperate woman lie about to get hitched? Scary.
c) So she is making a statement about something PRETENDING to have done it? Not quite honest, is it? And who is such a woman doing a service with that? Sorry, I don't get this part.

All your friend said is that in all three cases women lied. Now what is worse, those women lying to the men or the men not understanding those women? If women fake orgasms and lie about preferred activities, they should not complain if they are not fully satisfied. I wonder how many men would be devastated to find out at the end of a relationship that she never really liked anal sex. I likewise wonder how many of those men don't really care in hindsight and enjoyed the ride while it lasted.

In short, I see more reasons to believe a woman who says she likes it and who does it repeatedly (you know, the words vs. actions thing) than to doubt her. Plus, even if her a), b) and c) are true, it is still a huge step from "most women don't" to "no woman does". It only takes one to disprove that statement, and your friend is calling every single one a liar.
 uniquelyordinary
Joined: 2/5/2009
Msg: 21
No woman really enjoys anal sex
Posted: 4/30/2009 10:49:06 PM
Your friend did not have a statistically valid sample.
 GWSmith
Joined: 12/18/2008
Msg: 22
No woman really enjoys anal sex
Posted: 4/30/2009 11:12:26 PM
OP: Its a BS claim, lots of women, and men, like anal stimulation.
 867love
Joined: 3/16/2006
Msg: 23
No woman really enjoys anal sex
Posted: 4/30/2009 11:37:33 PM
i cant imagine a women who really likes anal play unless she enjoys the feeling of pleasing her man -and his tiny dick.
some women really cringe when you even get close to her starfish, when making love.
why play in the shithouse when there is a snack bar right next door...
 MandaKay
Joined: 4/13/2009
Msg: 24
No woman really enjoys anal sex
Posted: 4/30/2009 11:39:33 PM
I'm not in to anal but even I know there are women out there who enjoy it.
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 25
No woman really enjoys anal sex
Posted: 4/30/2009 11:44:02 PM

Her argument sounded pretty compelling, and I found myself at a loss for words. So....any thoughts on the subject?

Your friend needs to get out and talk to more women. She's either hearing only that which bolsters her own opinion or she's not someone other women trust with their honest opinion on the topic. JMO
 horny bi couple
Joined: 4/24/2009
Msg: 26
No woman really enjoys anal sex
Posted: 5/1/2009 3:33:50 AM
ya I read that 2. my buddy is an engineer, he got skiped 2 grades in school and tested at 162 on an Iq test they gave him in the 5th grade and he is all kinds of screwd up when it comes 2 sex.(just sarcasm). I got an iQ test as well when i was younger 2 determine why I was so devloped when it came to everything else but I could barley read or wright. I tested at 130 witch is alot higher than average but not extrodanary and Im a bit of a weirdo but not as much as my friend. it would also explain the kinky Liberian
 SD123
Joined: 3/7/2007
Msg: 27
No woman really enjoys anal sex
Posted: 5/1/2009 4:01:19 AM
She is uninformed. I have found that most of the women who do not like anal sex feel that it is painful or uncomfortable. If it is done "CORRECTLY" there is no pain and it feels amazing. You need to relax and work at it. You just cannot go for the goal line from the 50 yard line. You have to work at it. If it is done too quickly and the woman is not relaxed or into it then it will be a bad experience.
As for the medical problems such as ruptures and such I think that is a problem of going at it too soon or the penetrating object is too big. The anus does stretch but as I said earlier you have to take the time to get it relaxed.
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