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 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 2
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It works for you if you use the tips and tricks offered in the advice section, and stop over at the profile review section to make sure you're represented well, and then gather all the information you can on messaging women, what to expect, what your mindset should be. There are parts of the forums that are priceless for helping you get off the ground if you know where to look.

Just like most things in life, it's what you make it.
 ForumFilly
Joined: 5/14/2008
Msg: 6
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Posted: 5/3/2009 8:40:43 PM
It sure worked wonderfully well for me and my guy.

It does take time though. Both of us had previous relationships on here, with others, that didn't last. You cannot put a time limit on it. It isn't a race to see who finishes first, it's to find a relationship that lasts. Just enjoy yourself and forget about 'wishing and hoping' to find Ms Right. Get to know women as friends and, when you least expect it, there SHE will be.

Good luck!
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 9
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Posted: 5/5/2009 12:40:19 AM

We are simply screen candy to add to the saficticated scam!



~OP~ I don't think those stats are the least bit accurate. Much like the stats provided here in forums claiming that women who smoke are more promiscuous than those who don't. I suppose maybe it would be "reasonable" number (800,000) if one considers intimate encounters/hook ups as relationships rather than just relations.

~OT~ POF has worked for me in the past. I've met/dated via the site quite a lot. And I did have one significant relationship with someone I met here. I don't think it's working for me now, but that's OK ~ I'm not expecting it to. I seem to do better elsewhere. JMO
 Save the fish!
Joined: 6/25/2008
Msg: 10
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Posted: 5/5/2009 1:20:48 AM
I'm undecided if this really works. I'm optimistic and I feel at least that POF has been more productive than the "paid" sites I've been a member of. It does take patience to wade through the dishonest people and those who have nothing in common with you but in the end, I've dated some interesting people and made some wonderful friends but still waiting for "the one".
 jojoaus
Joined: 10/28/2007
Msg: 12
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Posted: 5/5/2009 2:16:51 AM
Yes, it works. I was certainly lucky to find my ideal man here, but I did. I was his first contact, he was my 4th. The other 3 men I met? They were great guys, 1 of whom I would have met up with again if Mr 4 hadn'tcome along. Good luck!!
 packagedealx3
Joined: 2/4/2006
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Posted: 5/7/2009 9:49:55 PM
Put up your profile in profile review, it tells someone virtually nothing.
 kg70507
Joined: 5/4/2009
Msg: 14
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Posted: 5/7/2009 10:19:18 PM
Not sure about POF because I'm new to the sight, but other sites keep profiles up, even after you resign or subscription runs out. I'm still on another site and continue to get messages but can't read them...now those gentlemen may think that I'm just not being friendly...
 Dori60
Joined: 4/7/2009
Msg: 15
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Posted: 5/11/2009 9:16:46 AM
I'm fairly new to the site, so I am being hopeful, not really expecting much, I did meet one guy after exchanging many emails and phone calls... He was nice, told me to call him later that evening so we could talk.... I did, and he said we needed to work on our schedules, I agreed.... I sent him a nice email thanking him for the day ect, and I haven't heard anything since other than his email reply being "ditto".... my Schedule was the factor due to work and school... I continue to be hopeful, and I am in no hurry...
 coveredinpaint
Joined: 7/13/2009
Msg: 16
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Posted: 12/30/2009 9:49:01 AM
Does this site work? Well, it's like asking "Does marriage work?" For many it does, for many it doesn't. You'll get people from each side coming on and giving their own two cents. But it is up to you to make it work. And yes, effort, time, and luck are all factors.

My experience here has not been very good. But as said before, it's because of overly picky women and a lot of desperate, creepy men who screw it up for the rest of us. Just try to stay optimistic and don't be part of the problem if you can help it.
 Puppydog54
Joined: 7/30/2008
Msg: 17
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Posted: 12/30/2009 10:30:59 AM
nicky512... If you lived nearer to me.....
 Ron429
Joined: 2/26/2009
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Posted: 12/31/2009 10:34:49 AM
It might for women, but it sure as hell doesn't for men. Been on since February 09. Messaged over 90 women, few if any responses, met four (all losers). Nah it doesn't work.
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 22
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Posted: 12/31/2009 10:43:23 AM
Bottom line is this: if the site is there when you sign on, it's working. If you can contact someone, it's working.

The outcome of it or what people do with it has nothing to do with the fact that it's functional. It's supposed to be a place where people can make contact. It is. Mission accomplished.
 coveredinpaint
Joined: 7/13/2009
Msg: 23
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Posted: 12/31/2009 10:58:14 AM
What if you were on here for three years and never met one person? What if you were stood up or only talked to losers? You would think it doesn't work.

But what if a couple years later you finally meet a great person and get married and have kids and live happily ever after? You'd think this site is fantastic.

It's all relative. It sucks until it benefits you, then it's wonderful. To each his own.
 woobytoodsday
Joined: 12/13/2006
Msg: 24
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Posted: 12/31/2009 11:30:45 AM
Michael, I'd say you're very likely to be successful here because I believe attitude is the whole of it! What a joy your profile is to read!!

Others are not likely to have PoF work for them at all, and reading their profiles it's pretty clear they don't really *want* it to ~~ they seem to want another opportunity to fail with the other sex, and therefore be able to blame *them* for all that's wrong with the world. Few, wise or dull, wish to fall for that kind of come on.

Deal is, no dating site, this one or any other, is going to substitute for you. YOU still are the one who has to be you and do the work: writing a great profile, dragging yourself through the exercise of first emails, making the effort to get to know another person, and revealing yourself, soul and history, to someone who may hand you your head. And picking yourself up, dusting yourself off, and *keeping a great attitude* trying again (and maybe again and again), until it works.

First guy I met here was a sociopath. I could have, with "good reason" just called the game, got my ball and gone home. I didn't. I stayed, met some great friends, male and female, had a couple of bummer dates, and at ten months in, met a marvelous guy. We're still together at two plus years, and with luck, till death us do part. So ya, it CAN work. If you want it to, and do your work.

Live long and prosper!
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 26
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Posted: 12/31/2009 11:56:37 AM

It works for some, not for others. I have been on this site on and off for 5 years, and have met very few men. I am not a typical woman as far as appearance and personality according to men, so that makes my pool shallow.

In some eyes, that would make you far more attractive than a perceived "norm." (When you and "he" finally meet, whether here or elsewhere, it'll likely be the real deal rather than all the silliness others go through.)

~OT~ POF works for more than a love-connection. I've met many wonderful people here (men and women.) I have dated via POF, had one short-term situation and am currently dating someone that I met here. It has taken a lot of patience, effort, and time and has added a certain degree of frustration to my life at times, yet it is a valuable tool if you use it wisely and with caution/common sense. It's likely not a quick fix, but it certainly can work. (If it didn't ~ Markus wouldn't be a multi-millionaire!)

Happy New Year.
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 30
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Posted: 1/2/2010 9:13:19 AM
I think this site tends to work much better for women than for men. I say this because most of the ones complaining are men, while a lot of women complaint of meeting men that only want sex. For my money, I use this site mainly to post on the forums and not for dating. However, on occasion I have conversed and met with different ladies, all absolutely fabulous.

Yet there's one caveat, pay sites produce more results. It seems that people that go to pay sites want to get their money's worth and are serious about what they are doing, while here they are not. No, this site actually benefits from that, because half the advertising you see here is for some of the pay sites and sub-sites owned by companies like Match. So it all works together.

So good luck.
 RobertKoi
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 31
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Posted: 1/2/2010 4:04:46 PM
I don't think that women are more fortunate than men. It simply depends on how you look at it. Sure, a chick posts a few pictures and gets 10 or more emails within an hour. A guy does the same and the outcome will look completely different. If you measure success by the number of emails you receive or how many dates per month you get, then yeah, you could say that women are on the plus side. However, since quality is more important that quantity, I'd say that at the end of the day there's practically no difference. Would you rather get a 100 dates per month and not find a single person who actually appeals to you, or 5-10 who do? In the first case you'll be fed up with dating sites but in the latter case you won't. So again, I don't think that women are in a better position.
 woobytoodsday
Joined: 12/13/2006
Msg: 32
Does this site really work?
Posted: 1/2/2010 4:20:59 PM
The simple stat is there is probably a ratio of 20 guys for every girl here or much much worse.
Well, according to the guy who created this site, Markus, it's about two to one. But keep believing imaginary stats if it makes you feel better. I'd rather know the truth, myself.

 ICMUD
Joined: 11/2/2009
Msg: 33
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Posted: 1/2/2010 4:39:42 PM
no no this site really works dude

i filled in the application form and submitted it and in 2 weeks i got a response and have been married for ten years now.. no wait, dam wrong site, thats mail order brides lol...

no this site dont work, to many man haters on here with the most bogan advice ive seen in life!

run for your life dude & run fast and never look back
 ICMUD
Joined: 11/2/2009
Msg: 34
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Posted: 1/2/2010 4:45:52 PM

this site doesn't work


hey oye101

how can a sex goddess like your self not have any luck?
guys go look at her profile, she is so beautiful and sexy and and and and smoking hot!!

it only takes 1 GENTLEMAN to make this lovely women so happy for the rest of her life, so get off ya a.s.s and make her happy

hope this helps lol..

 ColonelIngus
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 35
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Posted: 1/2/2010 6:47:04 PM

pay sites produce more results. It seems that people that go to pay sites want to get their money's worth and are serious about what they are doing, while here they are not.

Sounds great in principle, but surely you must know, OutMind, that 95% of those on pay sites aren't paying members, and therefore are out of bounds so far as ever corresponding with and possibly meeting is concerned, and last I checked the sites don't even tell you who they are so you can avoid wasting time on them.


If you log in, do absolutely nothing and expect 100 hot people to message you a day wanting to worship you, no, it doesn't work.

So are you saying there really isn't a Great American Man Shortage after all?

Then what's all the blather and belly-aching and really about?
 EveningStar4
Joined: 2/8/2009
Msg: 36
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Posted: 1/2/2010 7:03:05 PM
Remember....everyone on this site has been wounded in one way or another....they say they don't have baggage....we all have baggage...that is what makes us who we are. I find that it is darn near impossible to actually bond with anyone on this site. I've been on the site for almost a year, received hundreds of e-mails, met about 25, got vomited on once by a psychologist who couldn't hold his liquor, got slapped around once by a policeman who didn't care for the word "stop!" and one man came in his pants when I kissed him. Can we say troubled???? Gees!
 juliet88_10
Joined: 12/5/2009
Msg: 37
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Posted: 1/3/2010 4:06:03 AM
hmmmmmmmm i really dont know i have not meet no1 from this site in person i meet a guy and we chat but we just stock in cibersex nothing in person plus i really have not meet some1 local or at leat live near to where i live so sometimes distance is the problem. and i guess it depends at what you are looking for too a mean in personal way i just looking for certain kind of men's and not all locals who send me a email are what i looking for lol plus if you dont have a picture in you profile is hard too because or example i dont reply emails of not picture profiles.
 misszmsz
Joined: 5/31/2008
Msg: 38
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Posted: 1/5/2010 8:27:25 PM
Sure it works as another great source to meet potential partners/mates.

I have 5 married friends who all met their loves on a dating website.

Just keep fishing, eventually you'll find one that's a keeper.
 Ron429
Joined: 2/26/2009
Msg: 40
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Posted: 1/12/2010 9:57:41 AM
Doesn't work for me and I'm male. I wonder how many guys it does work for, probably very few. O.K. I have records and statistics in case any of you guys are interested. Since February of 09 I've messaged/contacted over 103 different women in my area. I've met three and scored once. That's about a 1.0% success ratio. Some of you might say that proves it works. In my book only 1.0% of the time.
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