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Joined: 4/21/2007
Msg: 3
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Doesn't nudity imply.. (not a strong enough word though) that you have a green light?

and i've always wondered but why does lingerie turn on guys more than a girl naked?

Uses imagination in this scenario. What he can't see (but knows is there) is hot.

you would think that a woman would no clothes on would do it more for a guy

No imagination required... not boring, not un-sexy, but requires no effort.

ok are men really that horny where they have to be masturbating every day, looking at porn and jacking off or having sex on a regular basis?

I'm not sure why I know this about some of my male friends, but I do.. regardless...

Masturbating is pretty much every day. Porn is sometimes involved. And all this even if he's getting some often. I don't really know why, but I do know that I am kind of the same way except that I find porn a bit dull, so I skip it mostly.

My guess is that it's a libido thing. Even getting it often sometimes isn't enough for some people who've got crazy high libidos.. so they handle it.

Some guys are like the guy in the second reply.. once or twice a week tops.
Joined: 9/26/2006
Msg: 4
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Posted: 6/3/2009 4:33:12 PM
Lingerie is wrapping paper. Pretty wrapping paper that you get to take off and find out what's underneath.
Joined: 3/18/2009
Msg: 8
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Posted: 6/3/2009 5:59:00 PM
uhhhh maybe you should create two threads because these two questions have nothing to do with one another,
Joined: 11/27/2008
Msg: 10
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Posted: 6/3/2009 6:15:58 PM
Lingerie is ok. For me though? A fully dress woman in sexy attire can turn me on faster than lingerie can.
Joined: 4/21/2007
Msg: 11
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Posted: 6/3/2009 6:23:04 PM
Not the same. The point is that she is taking an active role inviting your admiration.

Ok, but if I tear off all my clothes in front of you and you ARE NOT my doctor.. what would you think I wanted? I mean I get what you're saying, but stripping in front of you sounds fairly active too.

To me.. at least.. lingerie is like an unmistakable hint, but getting butt-naked in front of you is like me slapping you with a brick (metaphorically).

I can't explain why, but I think I'd be more curious or perhaps even worried if my BF didn't masturbate much.
Joined: 4/21/2007
Msg: 18
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Posted: 6/4/2009 3:48:58 PM

A pelvic exam by an unlicensed practitioner?

I an wondering now if women tear off their clothes in front of you so often that you are now a tad bored by it. Heh.

Women who just drop their clothes are not nearly as much of a turn on as women I undress, one piece at a time.

Presumably they'd be doing so cuz they think it's time for a little somethin.

but some guys(myself) think of it more of a game

It's a little like working for nudity. Men are supposedly goal-oriented. Since there's a couple of goals in undressing a woman, I think the keenness starts to become obvious when you look at it that way.
Joined: 2/21/2007
Msg: 19
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Posted: 6/4/2009 4:30:30 PM

Msg: 1 -- ok are men really that horny where they have to be
masturbating every day, looking at porn and jacking off or having sex
on a regular basis?

The posing of this question is invalid. All men are different, as, I
presume you will admit, are all women. That said, this response comes
from ME, and I consider myself an ordinary man who speaks for MYSELF
**ONLY**. I am horny ALL of the time. I DO "jack off" to relieve the
PAIN, and BELIEVE me, it IS a PAIN, an AGONY to be endured by the
unattached AND the trapped/endured. I truly PITY the
"trapped/endured", because they TRULY suffer without merit or reward.
These are the DEPRIVED, CONDEMNED and DAMNED to a life without even a
SEMBLANCE of a LOVE'S REPLY from the one to whom he is devoted. OK, I
agree, it is HIS fault he has devoted himself to such a WORTHLESS
woman, but that does not alter the fact that he LOVES her and lives a
DEPRIVED life because of it. I have no reason to exploit this beyond
the fact that the MAN is IGNORING his LIFE to honor hers. THIS man is
DISRESPECTING **HIS** WORTH as he simultaneously SACRIFICES his most
disturbing desires on HER altar. Hey, I have BEEN there. I have DONE
that. The T-SHIRT wasn't worth a sh1t, but I wore it anyway. I have
seen that women, uhh, MOST, but NOT all, DEGRADE the desires of the
man as being of NO consequence. READ these words and STATE them
THROUGH your LIPS: "A MAN'S desires means NOTHING in terms of what the
WOMAN desires."

OK, did you READ it? Did you SAY it ALOUD? If NOT, say it ALOUD
**NOW**!!!! Now, rest this in your nest egg if you have already done
so, -- a woman's GOAL is about HER gratification, NOT of the man she
CLAIMS to honor. It is quite RARE that a woman HONORS the desires of
the man she CLAIMS to honor. She will trundle him UNDER in preference
to a man who may seem to be PREFERABLE to her "INTENDED".

and i've always wondered but why does lingerie turn on guys more than
a girl naked?


I have been curious about that oddity myself. Lingerie is an
OBSTRUCTION to my desires, NOT a lure. A woman who DROPS **ALL** and
REVEALS herself to DESIRE, REJECTION, and basic ACCEPTANCE is FAR more
appealing than one who has OBVIOUSLY notched herself into common
acceptance. One so "notched" has EXCLUDED herself from my view simply
because of her political positioning. Political positioning,
REGARDLESS of the TENDENCY, EJECTS her from my consideration.

Yeah, now what do **I** want? I want a woman who TRULY desires ME,
STRIPPED of politics or ANY other politically visitable impetus.

you would think that a woman would no clothes on would
do it more for a guy but in my experience, having sex in lingerie is
hotter to them, any reason why?

Hmph! Because of the MISLADEN believability that would have uncle at all times, releasing explosives at this time would be inappropriate. Don't push this any further,

In short, my stamina can NOT survive more FAKES.
Joined: 4/21/2007
Msg: 21
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Posted: 6/4/2009 6:01:06 PM
So there it is. Lingerie makes the whole thing into a goal.
Joined: 12/30/2008
Msg: 22
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Posted: 6/4/2009 6:16:59 PM

ok are men really that horny where they have to be masturbating every day, looking at porn and jacking off or having sex on a regular basis

Don't some women do that too?
Joined: 4/8/2005
Msg: 29
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Posted: 6/5/2009 8:00:15 AM
It's called having a healthy sex drive. I swear you can't win with women if these threads are any kind of guideline. Most women in here constantly put down men (usually older ones) if they DON'T want sex 3 times a day. If you DO want sex a lot then you're some kind of deviant. What the hell is wrong with people?
Joined: 10/10/2007
Msg: 30
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Posted: 6/5/2009 1:05:29 PM
Most women in here constantly put down men (usually older ones) if they DON'T want sex 3 times a day. If you DO want sex a lot then you're some kind of deviant. What the hell is wrong with people?

I'm wondering if you noted that those are different women that are saying the different things.
Not one wishy-washy woman.
So, nothing is "wrong" with people. People are just different, and express their views.

In any hoo, all I saw from this thread was lights off=prude and I have to strongly disagree with the sentiment! You get a huge FAIL from me if you always want the lights on! I love the sneaky aspect [Oooh, no one can see us and we're being naughty!], I love the more sensual aspect, and the surprise [What's this bit here? Where's his hand going next?]. Nothing better than waking in the middle of the night to a man running his hands over my body.
Joined: 2/21/2007
Msg: 31
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Posted: 6/5/2009 1:26:48 PM

Msg: 38 -- having the lights out and being in complete darkness can
be much more sensuous because you have to rely on your other senses

If I can't see, I can NOT be aroused. Never has happened, never will.
I suppose if I became blind I would also become celibate.
Joined: 5/5/2008
Msg: 35
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Posted: 6/5/2009 7:04:53 PM

Just wondering, if men don't care about or like to see lingerie then why are companys like victorias secret and fredericks so popular?

My quess is that they are popular because women think it's sexy and a turn on.

If your under 25 years old an 5'8", 125 lbs, with a thin, tight figure and your partner wants to see you in lingere, he may have a fetish. If you're in your 40's at 5' 4" and weigh in at 150lbs or more then he may want you to wear lingere to cover up while he dreams of what you looked like 20 years ago.
Joined: 3/7/2005
Msg: 39
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Posted: 7/5/2009 9:57:49 AM
All me are different, just like all women are different.

Personally speaking...................

I LOVE sex and am horny on regular basis and tend to like getting it on regular basis.

As for Lingerie or Naked body...............

That depends on the mood and the teasing involved there. Having lingerie on and teasing the man seems like a hot idea.


I also enjoy seeing a woman naked around me all day long and get it on with her over and over too.

Of course with breaks in between. :)
Joined: 5/23/2009
Msg: 40
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Posted: 7/5/2009 10:15:15 AM
Twice a day, if I don't get it I start climbing the walls. Porno helps, but you can't take porno into the shower with you (unless you get it laminated, and that's a degree of dedication I am unwilling to attain.)
Joined: 1/5/2009
Msg: 51
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Posted: 7/5/2009 2:20:38 PM

Men are very, very similar to women, except that their triggers can be a little different. I don't see anything wrong with a person wanting to have sex or masturbate every day. Nor is this limited to younger men, or even just MEN for that matter. A man is a visually-triggered creature, so he may look at porn and think about sex. What do YOU think about when YOU masturbate, laundry soap?

Lingerie creates mystery. This means that a (visually-triggered) man's imagination will fill in what he doesn't see. When imagination and reality are in conflict, imagination wins, every time. Therefore, his imagination will make whatever is under that seductive lingerie (or clothing) even hotter than what is actually there. YAY!

QFT -- nice.
Joined: 4/21/2007
Msg: 53
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Posted: 7/5/2009 2:46:26 PM
Just how much time do some of you think it takes to masturbate? Jobs... pff. They don't get in the way.

Joined: 3/5/2009
Msg: 54
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Posted: 7/6/2009 12:16:37 AM
Darlin', I'm gonna ignore the first part of your post, not somethin' I desire to talk about with a stranger. However, I will relate a tale about the first time I had a lady in lingerie entice me.

It was a long time ago, well, actually, I think it was even before that, and there she was, a lovely young thang draped in this little number from Frederick's. She was as the most dear and beautiful gift one could ever imagine finding under the tree at Christmas. And I did what I always did. I gave thanks and proceded to pick up that lovely gift and turn her this way and that and then I commenced to shake her. Then I proceded to rip that pretty wrapping off'n her and ...

it was right about then I got to figurin' I'd done somethin' wrong.

{some lessons are not joyfully learnt}
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 57
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Posted: 7/6/2009 10:06:01 PM
OP, I'm going to turn this one back at ya. Do YOU get more aroused seeing a man in jeans and a t-shirt, or walking around the house in his boxers; OR looking at pics of naked men in Playgirl? The brain is the largest sexual organ; and lingerie is one of the ultimate ways of triggering that rascal, . Besides, seeing her in lingerie TELLS you that she is thinking "naughty AND nice"; tells you that she WANTS to arouse you; tells you that she went to the trouble to go shopping, and buy it for explicitly THAT purpose; which tells you that she has also been thinking that way for a while, AND anticipating your reaction to it; and WAY jump starts the foreplay! While seeing her naked requires no thought or imagination, and simply says "I'm naked." Also, FYI, there are LOTS of women who ALSO masturbate daily; and lots of men who don't.
Joined: 2/21/2005
Msg: 58
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Posted: 7/6/2009 10:19:45 PM
This is an interesting post. My boyfriend and I visited our first two porn shops together this past weekend. While sex with him is amazing, I am always looking for ways to go the extra mile and please him even more. While looking through the store, he confessed to me that even though I wear lingerie every evening pretty much, it really is not his thing. That was a surprise to me, as all my past lovers were really turned on by lingerie. I also found out that he enjoyed role playing, I have a sexy nurse's costume, complete with garters and stockings, and that drives him wild! Yay! There's something I've got going on right! Then we went into the movie section. I found out that he had only watched adult movies twice in his life, once when he was young and it was on satellite and one of his buddies and he laughed at it (they were about 10), and then once with his ex-wife, and he was humiliated and uncomfortable and it was more of a traumatic than a pleasurable experience.
We spent quite a while looking through the movies and talking about what HE liked. It was very hard for him to open up and tell me what turned him on, and I took great care in being very gentle and accommodating with helping him make his selections. In the end, I think he was much more comfortable talking about what turned him on, and that it was not something to be ashamed of, and that nothing that he chose would be ridiculed or wrong. H ended up selecting three movies, and now we have a choice of three movies to watch together next weekend. I am ging to have to be very non-aggressive, and let him take the lead, which is fine, and take care to make sure that he understands that his reactions are normal.
He was raised in a home where sex was considered dirty or perverted, and never talked about in a healthy way. Since becoming an adult, he has always had overbearing, aggressive girlfriends who treated him badly and ended up cheating on him. I love him dearly, and we are going to work this out, slowly but surely. I have all the patience in the world, and he is worth it. he treats me like a queen, and He is my king. That is what love does!

So not all men are horndogs who stick it to anything laying down or bending over. Men are human too, and some need help with getting through their problems. As grown women, we learn to work with these men, because behind these problems sometimes we find the most wonderful men in the world!
Joined: 4/4/2009
Msg: 60
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Posted: 7/7/2009 10:00:35 PM
I think I read somewhere that, on average, men masturbate 5 times a week. I could be wrong, but I'm pretty sure that's what it was. Sounds right to me. Each guy is different though.

Lingerie is a type of underwear. It's not something that is supposed to be seen, so it's kind of got a taboo appeal. Most people have little imperfections on their bodies. The lingerie covers them up, but still looks VERY sexy. Kind of like the way a push-up bra can make a woman's boobs look more appealing than they might be were she bare-chested.

I don't know if that makes any sense, lol.
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