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 Okietokie88
Joined: 12/8/2008
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I don't know,I'd think a younger man would want to please his older lover as a since of validation.I mean intimidation followed by sexual activity is nothing but "I have to fair against the more experienced".Just my two cents.
 SpursFanSA
Joined: 4/25/2009
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Posted: 6/9/2009 8:57:22 AM
As a younger man that only dates older women (30-40) not ancient 55 year old women.... I would have to disagree. I'm not a horse nor do I last for hours on end. The biggest gripe I have heard from older women is that older men tire to easily.

They have problems getting it UP and once they are done they are done. Older men dont care for foreplay unless he is being please of course.......

...but it's kind of of the luck of the draw I guess. Keep on searching and maybe you can find a young buck who will have you reaching for your arthritis medicine lol
 JerseyGirl2008
Joined: 12/27/2007
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Posted: 6/9/2009 9:49:55 AM

Would like to let all you more mature ladies out there that the myth about younger men being great lovers, is just that, a myth, unless you are in a hurry and want it over in a few minutes, stick to someone with the experience of life to give you the time of your life ........

LOL...I could have told you that. Why train a young one when there's already older trained ones out there?
 Pitch Blease
Joined: 3/4/2009
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Posted: 6/9/2009 10:02:52 AM
Well duh. The only thing young guys care about is their own c0cks and of course they think they know everything from watching porn. Young, dumb and full of cum. Besides that, they really are quite useless for anything else unless they have a rich dad to date.

Maybe you didn't use the right candy to bait them to get satisfied. It's not that hard. Video games and red bull and skittles work well with the less mature. Get them all hopped up on sugar and grand theft auto, and they pretty much do anything you want. Then off to the bus stop they go. It's awkward when their mom is in your yoga class though and then she's all like, so how was my son? And you say, better than your husband. Awkward.
 Gangster Kitten
Joined: 4/3/2008
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Posted: 6/9/2009 10:35:43 AM
I don't know. I'm a young man and I'm a terrible lover.
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
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Posted: 6/9/2009 10:58:02 AM
Why train a young one when there's already older trained ones out there?


What a great approach!! Such sage advice! (shamelessly self-serving poster that I seem to be. Lol). I just assumed, from the pic, that you were just cruising on the obvious babeness.


Well duh. The only thing young guys care about is their own c0cks and of course they think they know everything from watching porn. Young, dumb and full of cum. Besides that, they really are quite useless for anything else unless they have a rich dad to date.


On my feet, wild applause. LOL!!

Maybe you didn't use the right candy to bait them to get satisfied. It's not that hard. Video games and red bull and skittles work well with the less mature. Get them all hopped up on sugar and grand theft auto, and they pretty much do anything you want. Then off to the bus stop they go.


(Gasping for breath) THAT is hilarious! We want encores!!! Lol

But this is deliciously evil:


It's awkward when their mom is in your yoga class though and then she's all like, so how was my son? And you say, better than your husband. Awkward


 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
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Posted: 6/9/2009 11:03:50 AM

Would like to let all you more mature ladies out there that the myth about younger men being great lovers, is just that, a myth, unless you are in a hurry and want it over in a few minutes, stick to someone with the experience of life to give you the time of your life ........

Now isn't that interesting. My experiences have been just the opposite. My current guy is 25 yo and is probably one of the more highly skilled lovers I've had. Many of the men my age have been very selfish as lovers.. not to mention far too set in their own ways to learn or try something new. I can not tell you how many men have said to me "well my last GF like it, made her cum like a million times, so it should work for you too"... I have never heard those words from a younger man. I was with one guy, mind you we were early 20's, but he had a bit of a problem with PE.. and he never once in 3.5 yrs tried to correct it.. and he never once made me orgasm. All the younger men I've been with have been very much interested in my own pleasure over their own. They have all been incredibly selfless lovers.

That is not to say that ALL the men my own age have been crap. There have been a few standouts.


what a pile of dung, great sex starts in the mind, its both an attitude and a mental discipline. it can be achieved by both old and young alike, so saying all young men 'blah blah blah' or all older men ' blah blah blah' is like saying all green apples are tasty but all red apples are horrid. you cannot define reality just based on your own personal experience

Well said.
 deerdog1
Joined: 12/29/2006
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Posted: 6/9/2009 11:07:36 AM
Pitch Blease .... I think I love you .....lol....you are funny
 Chrìs
Joined: 12/27/2006
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Posted: 6/9/2009 11:08:37 AM
its all relative, the op is 55 ,a guy in his 40's is "younger" compared to her. divagreen is 35 dating a young 29yr old. but he is old as i look at the world. age is a number it doesnt define who you are or what kind of life experience you have. maybe just maybe additude and personality might be a better definition of what makes a better lover than is he older/younger
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 20
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Posted: 6/9/2009 12:41:02 PM

Would like to let all you more mature ladies out there that the myth about younger men being great lovers, is just that, a myth, unless you are in a hurry and want it over in a few minutes, stick to someone with the experience of life to give you the time of your life ........

How young are you bashing here? The last time I was with someone in his 20s I was in my 20s, he didn't have an issue. The last time I was with someone who was in his 30s, I was almost 40 (he was 30) and he definitely didn't have any issues So now? It's been a long while but I'm not all that concerned about the younger man I'm currently seeing. I'm beyond certain he's well aware how it all fits together, what goes where, when, why, for how long/not long (cause that works sometimes) etc.

~OP~Maybe it's not necessarily the "younger" man, but simply sexual incompatibility???? That can happen to two people of any age. JMO
 itsmillertime6227
Joined: 9/19/2008
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Posted: 6/9/2009 2:18:28 PM
Lol you're stating your opinion. You have no slept with every young man out there.

I know most young men do focus on themselves during sex but not all do. I'm the complete opposite and try to please my partner and let them achieve an orgasm as much as possible in every different way (orally, gspot stimulation, clitoris stimulation, anal) which is why I usually take forever to orgasm, if I do at all. Great stamina, knowledge of sex and what your partner wants, and being very well endowed will pretty much please any woman of any age--at least I haven't run across any yet that I haven't been able to fulfill their need lol.
 Pitch Blease
Joined: 3/4/2009
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Posted: 6/9/2009 2:58:44 PM

I know most young men do focus on themselves during sex but not all do. ..(yada yada yada).....at least I haven't run across any yet that I haven't been able to fulfill their need lol.


so what you're saying is, your experience with young guys is rather satisfying? You tell your tales of conquests any way you want it, but I can fill in the blanks.
 deerdog1
Joined: 12/29/2006
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Posted: 6/10/2009 4:50:03 AM
all I can add to this debate is that at a pretty young age ..I was with young women ..and I dint know much about what I was doing ..but deep down I knew something wasnt right .. although no one was complaining .....but at that time in ancient history I dont think the young women knew they were suppose to complain if they were not loved right ...unlike today
then I found an older woman ...who educated me well taught me things that I never knew ..showed me that sex was not all about me ..my new ego trip was no longer how much I was getting ..it was how good I could do it .from then on the comments I got from the young women ... were WOW where did you learn to do that?? and I never had anyone do that ... or how did you become such a great lover ???my reputation was transformed from a guy who girls dated and reluctantly put out at the end of the date... to the guy girls wanted to take to bed as the date ...and now this reputation was what fed my ego and got me off....but like every talent I have ever learned in my life ...I misused it ...and became a womanizer and squandered several chances for meaningful relationships with great girls ...

Pitch Blease ...your wit and charm mesmerizes me
 TheModernPagan
Joined: 11/10/2008
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Posted: 6/10/2009 8:22:14 PM
I dont care how old you are, will you talk to your partner and be honest about what you want in bed ? Thats the real question. How can you be a good lover if your partner is to shy/scared to tell you she likes it rough in bed. The key to any healthy sexual relationship is talking about it.. you dont like something I did or want me to do something else, ask. The one thing that does come with age is I keep jumping over that line that I say I will not cross... Its more fun to experement as you get older and you find out that it truly is about having fun in the bedroom.

So if your closed minded, dont contact me on here. If however you have always wanted your man to go into freak mode, give me a holla. I may just help ya out
 scuzzlebutt
Joined: 5/29/2009
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Posted: 6/10/2009 11:42:20 PM
**** all y'all. I'm 22 and I slept with a woman nealy 20 years my senior and I was the one showing HER new things!!!

There's exceptions to every rule.
 GoofBall311
Joined: 5/4/2009
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Posted: 6/12/2009 9:12:05 PM
More hatespeech from the old lady agenda that runs this website.
 TheJoeMan
Joined: 1/22/2009
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Posted: 6/13/2009 12:00:56 AM
pcspeceric posted:
:words:

this has absolutely nothing to do with anything even remotely related to the topic.


old men can't move around as well as young men, and old women have lower expectations of sex than young women.

NATURE WORKS ITSELF OUT YET AGAIN
 Mayonia
Joined: 1/20/2009
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Posted: 6/13/2009 12:52:35 AM

Of course younger men are better lovers.

Oh yeah and for you old dudes who are saying you're better lovers because you concentrate more on foreplay, of course that's the case because your viagra pills take an hour to kick in.


You just can't argue with the truth.....
 Mayonia
Joined: 1/20/2009
Msg: 54
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Posted: 6/13/2009 1:04:31 AM

An ex of mine once summed it up perfectly:

'At the end of the day, all men are equally mature, its just the younger ones are better looking!'

Something I've discovered in my experiences in the darker side of net dating is that when it comes down to immaturity, the older fellas are far and away the worst - and thats not my opinion folks, its that of the women I've encountered along my travels! You need to realise that experience doesnt come with age - experience comes with experience


This is also a great truism. Male or female, there are just some people that will NEVER be mature or 'experienced'. There are many 20 somethings who have more general and sexual sophistication than most people will ever have.

It's also sad that people tend to look to their partners for their satisfaction instead of seeing it as something mutual or even as something they alone can produce. You are responsible for your satisfaction with another person....from the act of selecting them to everything that goes on between you - or doesn't. The simple act of taking charge can give you all you need.....waiting for someone else to do it all and complaining when they don't is a poor alternative!
 cw35
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Posted: 6/13/2009 4:17:05 AM
So is it just me or are the ego driven old women in here purposely trying to make sure that no men over the age of 35 EVER find a relationship or love? The people making these hateful generalizations about men yet at the same time spouting off about how "youthful" they are are not only bitter hypocrites (and not so youthful looking most of the time), they're a complete waste of life and REALLY sad. All this viagra nonsense is stupid. Guess what? Women DRY OUT as well. Women talk as if they like to have sex for 20 hours in a row. Guess what? Haven't met one young or old that liked to have sex as much as me. All this big talk and the put downs are for a couple of very sad reasons. It gives an illusion that there is a need and creates an acceptance for women to date young people their kid's age so they can get some level of ego boost which is needed due to severe insecirity issues. It gives petty women a chance to get the sick satisfaction of leaving men their own age with nothing. Relationships with an age gap are sometimes for real but it's not hard to tell from a lot of the attitudes and statements made in here (not to mention the very scary "look at me" playboy poses that pepper this place) that the intentions are a little messed up to say the least.
 TheJoeMan
Joined: 1/22/2009
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Posted: 6/13/2009 12:21:28 PM

CTG007 posted:
Hey JoeMan,

Tell me how that goes in 30 yrs..

Conceited Jackass

Tell you how what goes? That most generations have sex and relationships within their same generations, and any age difference over 10 years is pretty uncommon? Traditionalists (soon dead) are mostly currently married to traditionalists (or widowed), boomers to boomers, etc...

But okay, I'll make sure to contact you in 2039 to keep you updated on a very visible and obvious trend, forums superstar "CTG007."
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 63
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Posted: 6/13/2009 12:30:06 PM

You just can't argue with the truth.....


Certainly, and obviously, not when one is deluded as your post suggests. LMAO!!
Look, who on earth would not want to jump the bones of a 19-year old torso, if it housed a mind and soul that matched one's own? There is nothing reprehensible in any woman's leching after a hawt bod! And there are most probably times when her minds runs to exactly that prospect. We all lust, sometimes, even often, without a specific target in front of us. But when it is, it is stimulating, and for that, Bravo, Brava!!! Better lovers? Maybe the wrong question to ask. The key is what blend of needs she feels at the time, and whether those are satiated by the lover she chooses.
jmho
 NoQuarterGiven
Joined: 3/18/2009
Msg: 64
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Posted: 6/13/2009 1:22:05 PM

The only thing young guys care about is their own c0cks and of course they think they know everything from watching porn. Young, dumb and full of cum. Besides that, they really are quite useless for anything else unless they have a rich dad to date.


Wow, I'd like to see you say such insulting generalizations about fat women, or black people, or disabled people. You'd be disowned from the forums permanently.

Lets see, we can get it up without Viagra, aren't bloated or wrinkley or saggy, have more energy, and less health conditions. Sounds like a clear advantage to me.

Yes some guys are quick shooters but some guys never grow out of that. And some have bad technique but others are naturals and mature quickly.
 Queen_Mab
Joined: 6/21/2006
Msg: 65
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Posted: 6/13/2009 2:07:41 PM
I've had lovers in all age ranges and, as whytwater stated, the best lover is the one who suits your needs and fulfills you at that time. I despise generalizations and have had both excellent and pretty crappy lovers my age, older, and younger than me. A recent lover was simply eye candy that I ended up bedding on a regular basis... We had a few things in common but the most important was that we were extremely sexually in tune. I did end it because I felt like a lech (he was closer to my adult son's age than my age), but he was amazing!

It comes down to the quality of men you choose to bed and making sure that you are in synch with one another before getting naked. To bash entire generations of men based on nothing more than age and assumed sexual ability is not only ridiculous and demeaning, but immature; to write off large sectors of potential mates or lovers based on generalizations or your own inability to pick quality lovers is the same thing. We almost all end up with one (or more) really bad/selfish/boring lovers at some point, hopefully most of us are able to realize it is the individual, not his/her entire generation, at fault.
 Valabar
Joined: 3/30/2009
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Posted: 6/13/2009 5:47:34 PM
Well really...you can't compare one young man to another young man, or even and older man to another older man, and have a blanket solution come forth as an absolute. But! You can look at the differences men go through as they age and come to some rational conclusions.

Between say 14-25 (this can be varible at the genetic level): Raging hormones, raging blood flow, easy erections, ultra sensitivity, and prime virality. Generally lacking in skill, experience, and are not thinking about getting in tune with a woman's body as a means to produce excellent results.

Between say 25-40 (again genetically varible): Hormones balanced or balancing, blood pumps slower through the body, erections come on more of an as needed basis rather than at their own will, less sensitivity, and somewhat lowered virality. Skills have increased (maybe -lol), more experiences (maybe - lol), hopefully have learned that the female body holds a plethora of options other than "get er done".

Between say 40-60 (very genetically variable): Hormones decreasing, blood flow slower, erections become mental and physical, lowered virality. Skills are at there peak, experiences are maxed and new ones are pondered with skeptism, the female body becomes a work of art that can be appreciated even from a distance without drooling.

I don't belive you can just cut and paste and say one age is better than the other. Each has upsides and downsides. Frankly I always prefer variation. Sometimes hot, sweaty and quick is amazing, and sometimes a 7 hour session, followed by bottles of water and room service during the 7th inning pause is what you are after. The goal, as always, is to find a partner that serves up and returns what you put out with equal fervor and the light switch always seems to come on for each of you.

Warm Fuzzies,

Valabar
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