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 8soldierfalcon8
Joined: 2/16/2009
Msg: 10
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There should be like a clause in AAguy to always do the exact opposite of anything Aloha says.

That said.... OP, it's not worth the drama.

Dating a friend of an x is almost always a bad idea unless they're not going to be friends anymore, or already had a falling out.

And it helps if they don't see each other often. If you really care about someone, you don't try to make their life more difficult and dramatic right from day 1.
 DocElffington
Joined: 1/20/2009
Msg: 11
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Is it OK to date your ex boyfriends friend?
Posted: 6/13/2009 12:19:46 PM
My cousin apparently got ahold of my black book.

Obviously he needed to learn the hard way...that sloppy seconds ain't all that sweet!
 celts123
Joined: 5/15/2008
Msg: 13
Is it OK to date your ex boyfriends friend?
Posted: 6/13/2009 1:54:29 PM
I would have to agree with what several other posters have mentioned. I would not date a woman who is friends with one of my ex-girlfriends. I would not date a woman who is one of myfriend's ex-girlfriend. It can lead to anger, resentment, hurt feelings, and lost friendships.
 innocentantic
Joined: 7/22/2006
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Is it OK to date your ex boyfriends friend?
Posted: 6/13/2009 4:25:43 PM
Ultimately the "ethical responsibility" rests with your ex-boyfriend's friend, not you. If the ex-boyfriend was bothered by it, then his "friend" would not date you, or else end up dealing with the tension between him and his friend. The only reason I would think it would be a problem for you is if: you are good friends with your ex, or you want to get back with your ex in the future, and you don't want this to mess it up.

Otherwise, it's not your problem, as far as I can see. If your ex-boyfriend's friend is cool with it, then why not?
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