No disprespect OP but I don't feel that much in a rush at this moment to send someone a questionairre on their availability or state of singledom. I much prefer to just sit and chat and if someone appeals to me after maybe a week or two of emails/msn, then Ill meet up....what is your rush I have to ask?
I have never understood the whole must meet ASAP thing some people have. I am pretty sure you could save a lot of awkward and uncomfortable meetings by spending longer online getting to know one another. For me if anyone was unwilling to to do that it would have to be an immediate indication our intentions not being the same, for example he just wants a shag, or he is desperate and will take anyone. If he is just not comfortable communicating online well that is fine, but he is not the sort of person for me.
To me the only problem I would have with someone like the OP is that the future relationship is one with three people not two, which is why I choose not to consider men with children. If nothing else the man in OP's case would know where he stands from the start.