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 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
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Reading more than a few of the same topics regarding number of partners lately.. thought I'd ask... what's experience to you? Number of partners or length of time?

Person A has 1 partner for 10 yrs, and they've had sex once a week for that 10 yrs (560 times).
Person B has had 10 partners in a year and has had sex 1.42 times a day, every day (560 times).

Who has more experience??
 StarreGazer
Joined: 2/21/2007
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What is experience to you?
Posted: 6/19/2009 5:33:32 PM
Experience means NOTHING. Enthusiasm means ALL.

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Oh, CRAP, here is that "Reason To Delete" again. Wow, gimme a BREAK!
 Copperskins
Joined: 10/13/2006
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What is experience to you?
Posted: 6/19/2009 5:37:45 PM
It's not so much about experience as it is about the passion that comes from within!
 ohdriver
Joined: 3/22/2009
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What is experience to you?
Posted: 6/19/2009 5:53:14 PM
Person ”A” has more longitudinal experience, has seen a sexual relationship grow and change, seen sexual excitement with one lover fluctuate over the years, seen how sex is influenced by changes in life, career, children, boredom, infidelity, renewed interest, passion, experimentation…

Partner “B”, with more lovers in a shorter period, may have more breadth of experience, probably has encountered more variety of sexual preferences and practices, attitudes, etc.

And Partner B has more experience at finding lovers, transiting through relationships and ending them, moving from one to another, or more experience at maintaining more than one intimate relationship at a time.
 BaldyisBeautiful
Joined: 3/28/2008
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What is experience to you?
Posted: 6/19/2009 7:05:16 PM
Is the ".42" referring to midget sex? Cause I think it's just wrong to make fun of my fellow shorties that way!!!!
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
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What is experience to you?
Posted: 6/19/2009 7:19:53 PM
I think that once again........it depends on the individual!

Some people can have sex once a day for 10 years and not learn a durn thing!
We normally, around here, call them ex's!!
 e*Musing
Joined: 10/23/2008
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What is experience to you?
Posted: 6/19/2009 9:12:39 PM
A true Don Juan is not a man who makes wild, passionate love to a different woman every night...
A true Don Juan is a man who makes wild, passionate love to the same woman every night.

Who has the most experience? The one who learned that he and his lover together create beautiful orgasms...who learn to share of themselves and to perceive...to read the other...to constantly be sensitive to each other's needs.

 2HEDZ
Joined: 3/16/2005
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What is experience to you?
Posted: 6/20/2009 12:38:37 AM
experience is subjective. you can be ten years with the same person but how much did you really explore each other?

you can be with someone for years and its just monotonous and then you meet someone for a one night stand and your world was rocked.

its all about wether you prefer quantity or quality.
 TooShadows
Joined: 9/26/2008
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What is experience to you?
Posted: 6/20/2009 6:08:09 AM
In a case like this I'd say "B",as they've had experiences with more people,so more experience. Personally it doesn't matter to me;if a person has had sex at least once then they're experienced in my view.
 HarDayKnight
Joined: 12/27/2007
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What is experience to you?
Posted: 6/20/2009 7:14:18 AM
Amount of experience is less important than quality of experience. Two open minded, intelligent, and enthusiastic people can learn more in a year of exploration with each other, than some people learn in a lifetime of one night stands with strangers, or 20 years of a bad marriage.
 NobleSir
Joined: 1/2/2008
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What is experience to you?
Posted: 6/20/2009 7:22:15 AM
it has to be "b". if after 10 years your only doing it once a week? Do you hate your partner or what? actually niether is relevant. experience comes with knowledge. Some may learn in one lesson while others will take many more this is why we have experts in fields who have less years experience at a task but more knowledge. We have seen our family doctors of 30 years call in specialists who are barely 30 years old so it is not what you do but what you learn while doing.
 no_1_bby
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What is experience to you?
Posted: 6/20/2009 9:11:31 PM
Thanks for all the replies.

I think both have equally valid experience. There is a difference in the experience tho. When you are with one person for a long time, as a few have pointed out, I think you develop an understanding of how to make them feel incredible and you know almost instinctively what to do to please them. When you are with many people for short periods of time, you never develop that depth of understanding that comes with time, but you do learn things.

I don't think there's a right or wrong answer here... just different answers based on our own feelings on the topic.
 coolhappy1290
Joined: 8/29/2012
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What is experience to you?
Posted: 2/16/2013 7:06:55 PM
Yes.., I agee it comes from passion..deep within the depths of your sexual soul.. hmmm....
 darkhairedgirl81
Joined: 6/20/2012
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What is experience to you?
Posted: 2/16/2013 7:16:11 PM
Person A is able to commit and have deeper sexual experiences. If Person B is really having that much sex a day then he/she is probably a sex addict or has borderline personality disorder. In any case you don't want anything to do with Person B because they're probably emotionally scarred and/or have HPV. Anyway, experience doesn't make a better lover, someone who is willing to try new things and please their partner makes for a better lover. IMO :)
 dare2c4yourself
Joined: 11/9/2010
Msg: 15
What is experience to you?
Posted: 2/17/2013 7:25:44 AM
The number of partners may not give you the experience you get from one partner comfortable to try things with someone of trust. Granted, meeting playful partners will.

Experience is not only having a lot of check marks on a list - done this and done that type.
It's also taking the time to know a partner, knowing yourself also.
 RNG34116
Joined: 2/2/2013
Msg: 16
What is experience to you?
Posted: 2/17/2013 9:54:45 AM
The rare times that I have dated and been intimate with women younger than me although some claimed of having multiple or several partners they seemed to be still somehow inexperienced at some things, and still kind of girlish and quircky. When I have dated mature women, women older than me almost all of them have had fewer relationships than the younger "serial daters", but the mature women were more secure about what they wanted intimately and how to go about it to get it. I prefer the experience that is associated with fewer past partners but more quality experienced.
 RNG34116
Joined: 2/2/2013
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What is experience to you?
Posted: 2/17/2013 9:58:21 AM
I totally agree with several posters that the passion that is within the person is by far much better than the heat of the younger woman that has had many partners and not the experieence to really let her know what she wants and how to go about it.
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