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 bigbrainman
Joined: 10/18/2008
Msg: 2
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don't overanalyze everything, just chill with the fact you guys are having fun in life.
 Stray__Cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 3
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Posted: 6/21/2009 10:45:19 PM
Well lets run that into the handy guy translation software.

"not just sex"

whirr, whirrr,

tranlsation:
"just the sex"

but at some future time way off....maybe
"more than sex".
cus right now what's he's got going on is obviously more important than you.
Sorry.
 brad29483
Joined: 3/29/2008
Msg: 7
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Posted: 6/21/2009 10:56:00 PM
Translation:

You gave up sex too early, and too easily, so dating you would be difficult because he views you as a slut, and he would rather "date" a girl with higher self esteem, and higher self control.

Nobody wants to marry or date the slut, that is why guys test women in this way (knowingly or unknowingly)

Sorry you failed, better luck next time OP.
 miska1
Joined: 9/16/2008
Msg: 9
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Posted: 6/21/2009 11:07:05 PM
If he's willing to try dating when he arrives, try dating... if you're worried about being used, keep your legs together for a few dates


What something witty said^^^^^^


if you don't know, don't do it, date and find out..................but you take the chance it was sex, so he won't date you after he realies your holding back..................toss a coin it is a crap shot either way, sleep with him, lose or gain him, don't sleep with him, lose or gain him........But if ya'all haven't seen each other in a few years, then you realy don't know who he is now at this present time. People change.
 davidsauvignon
Joined: 2/6/2008
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Posted: 6/21/2009 11:16:57 PM

I need a "male" translator!

No OP...you need a 'Him' translator!

My opinion is, if you're more comfortable coming here and asking us rather than having a discussion with him about it, then you have your answer already. But, for some reason, there is this need to put guys in the emotionally unavailable category. Add sex to the mix, and boom, guys are merely pigs and horn dawgs.

Meanwhile, you had sex with him previously and obviously without any guarantee or assurance that there was 'more' there. Why would he think there would be more there now? Have the two of you remained celibate while apart? Were you exclusive and just waiting to get back together? How much did you two talk while he's been away?

Let's be honest here...you don't care about him and he doesn't care about you. If y'all did, you'd be together already...no matter what it took. If the 'circumstances' you mentioned were that serious where you just couldn't, then you both would have waited for one another...if there actually were feelings there.

That's what one part of love is...sacrifice...in order to appreciate it all the more.






~ds~
 skyhawk53
Joined: 5/27/2009
Msg: 13
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Posted: 6/22/2009 1:39:58 AM
I agree that it takes two to tango cutiepiehoneybunch. But I resent the generalization that "guys are such pigs." Ill admit most of us are. But not all. Ive always prided myself on just the opposite of being a pig.
 h0ldfast
Joined: 12/19/2006
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Posted: 6/22/2009 2:46:46 AM
"Is all we are just sex?" is, to a guy, like an elbow to the head. It's an accusation that all this time he was misrepresenting himself, exploiting you, abusing your good nature and violating your trust. Often, it is a manipulative technique used to extract concessions in a relationship, as it forces the man to either grovel or break up. His response was careful, probably because he is giving you the benefit of the doubt. If he didn't like you, he would probably have broken up with you. He still might, and maybe it would be for the best.
 Greyfeld
Joined: 1/11/2007
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Posted: 6/22/2009 2:57:31 AM

"Is all we are just sex?" is, to a guy, like an elbow to the head. It's an accusation that all this time he was misrepresenting himself, exploiting you, abusing your good nature and violating your trust. Often, it is a manipulative technique used to extract concessions in a relationship, as it forces the man to either grovel or break up. His response was careful, probably because he is giving you the benefit of the doubt. If he didn't like you, he would probably have broken up with you. He still might, and maybe it would be for the best.


This is pretty accurate... I'd also like to add that the guy may just be having fun enjoying your company, and doesn't want to f*ck it up by telling you that he doesn't see the two of you going the distance as an LTR.
 DocElffington
Joined: 1/20/2009
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Posted: 6/22/2009 5:13:30 AM
He's saying yes to the sex and "we'll see" to the relationship.

In other words, he wants to see if you're any different now............relationship-wise.
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