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I believe EVERY date should be open to the option of dutch treat. If you do not prepare to at least pay for yourself, you should not be going on the date, IMO.
 daveincarson
Joined: 1/15/2008
Msg: 7
Paying on the first date?
Posted: 6/23/2009 7:07:13 AM
I ALWAYS make it a policy to go "dutch" if it is dinner.

That way there are no "expectations".

Most respectable women I have been on dates with (even the rich ones) have gone dutch.
I have a female friend who will not let men buy her drinks. That shows she has self respect.

I have seen way too many women "use" men to buy them drinks in the hopes of getting laid. Some of my female friends in college used to joke about doing that.. lol.. And the were VERY beautiful. (In Honolulu)
 tbuddha
Joined: 2/28/2005
Msg: 8
Paying on the first date?
Posted: 6/23/2009 7:22:20 AM
I'm not into all the feminism crap, so if I don't pay, it's because I think you're worthless and have nothing to offer me.

Other guys have been tricked by feminism and are looking for a "buddy" girlfriend, get all excited when they find her, than can't understand why she leaves him.
 BaldyisBeautiful
Joined: 3/28/2008
Msg: 9
Paying on the first date?
Posted: 6/23/2009 7:23:31 AM
Pay?

.... you mean were not doing the "dine and dash?"
 celts123
Joined: 5/15/2008
Msg: 14
Paying on the first date?
Posted: 6/23/2009 8:04:12 AM

Are you looking for a free meal? Do you have self respect ? Always offer to pay. If he insists, then back off and let him pay. But always be ready to cover the bill, if you can't then don't go out.


I agree. Unless a person directly states that they will pay the entire bill, I don't think you should expect another person ( especially a virtual stranger ) to pay for you.
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